She don't want coronavirus. It's that simple. When the plague's gone away, she'll be flagging you down from her porch.
She don't want coronavirus. It's that simple. When the plague's gone away, she'll be flagging you down from her porch.
Alvin, To go on a date with someone you are not interested can lead to awkwardness and sometimes greater hurt than the initial rejection would have been. The guy be pressed to make sure date is going well, guy will think about kiss, guy will ask for another date. The future awkwardness is not worth it.
alvin wrote:
Ahead of the Curve wrote:
You seriously should seek professional help. This girl like all others is undoubtedly creeped out by you and justifiably so. If I ask a girl out and get rejected, running by their house to see what they are doing is almost the worst possible reaction.
If you do hear from her today, it should come in the form of a restraining order requiring you to keep a reasonable distance.
Whoa just to be clear I'm not running by her house to see what she's doing. She lives in my neighborhood and I just happened to be running by. I've been running a route that takes me by her house regularly since before I even knew she lived there.
I'm not some kind of creepy stalker.
melo seeds wrote:
Would you go on a date with a fat/ugly chick just for a free dinner?
Is she buying? Where are we eating?
I have a price!
Luv2Run wrote:
melo seeds wrote:
Would you go on a date with a fat/ugly chick just for a free dinner?
Is she buying? Where are we eating?
I have a price!
I guess I would. Gotta eat, you know?
By the way, someone mentioned 'making a girl/woman pay'. No male date has ever done this. Has anyone in my company ever paid for anything for themselves in my presence? Heck yeah, but it wasn't me making them pay. It was the business owner or their employees. I didn't want them to pay; I would have preferred the business gave it to her for free. Better yet, they gave me my order for free, too. The nearest male is not to blame: the business is 'making her pay'!
alvin wrote:
Why are girls so quick to turn down date offers?
Creeps
you must enter a username wrote: Because a small but not insignificant number of dates for women end up in being raped/stalked/murdered/humiliated.
Humiliated is the one you end with? Do we take it thats the worse of the four in your opinion, then, because I strongly disagree.
Brittany's moved on you chipmunk.
Maybe the asker is being pushy or is nerd? I don’t get shot down the way OP does apparently.
Also, a lot of women make more than men nowadays, so it's more awkward too. Even if the male has a BA/BS degree, the woman most likely will have an MA/MS or PhD. So it's more awkward with social stratification.
Women rule the middle-class world and have all the good jobs, social clout and networking men used to have up until 1985 or so.
alvin wrote:
Like if you were just going to have dinner at home by yourself or with your parents anyway why NOT accept an offer to go out for a dinner date? No one benefits from girls being that hyper picky. It's obvious why the guy isn't better off for being rejected. But the girl is worse off too if she ends up just hanging out at home while she could be out having fun. It's like she said no because she thought she could do better but she's actually doing worse as a result.
Was just thinking about this because I ran by the house of a girl who turned me down last evening and she was sitting on her patio alone eating and reading a book. I think she saw me and I feel like it made the point that here we are both alone doing nothing and it doesn't have to be that way if you'd just be a little less closed off. Wondering if I might hear from her today after that. Not getting my hopes up. Just thinking I might.
What gun do you think you'll use when you shoot up a sorority next year, incel boy?
the real talk with this guy wrote:
not cool, bro
The common response seems to be basically just that dinner would be awkward if she isn't into you. My thought is that I'd like to at least have a chance. The worst that could reasonably happen is that dinner ends up not being fun. The best thing that could happen is that you end up really connecting and the dinner ends up being the start of something great. In my mind this is a gamble that is worth it.
I'd rather have a chance to prove myself even if it means that there is some risk. A little bit of awkwardness is a small price to pay when real love is a possible reward.
alvin wrote:
The common response seems to be basically just that dinner would be awkward if she isn't into you. My thought is that I'd like to at least have a chance. The worst that could reasonably happen is that dinner ends up not being fun. The best thing that could happen is that you end up really connecting and the dinner ends up being the start of something great. In my mind this is a gamble that is worth it.
I'd rather have a chance to prove myself even if it means that there is some risk. A little bit of awkwardness is a small price to pay when real love is a possible reward.
Not worth it to her, apparently. Is there something you aren’t telling us? Maybe you got hit with the ugly stick?
alvin wrote:
The common response seems to be basically just that dinner would be awkward if she isn't into you. My thought is that I'd like to at least have a chance. The worst that could reasonably happen is that dinner ends up not being fun. The best thing that could happen is that you end up really connecting and the dinner ends up being the start of something great. In my mind this is a gamble that is worth it.
I'd rather have a chance to prove myself even if it means that there is some risk. A little bit of awkwardness is a small price to pay when real love is a possible reward.
How many 300lb girls have you asked out for dinner so they could at least have a chance? Worst that can happen is that dinner ends up not being fun. Best could happen is that you really end up connecting. In your mind isn't the gamble worth it? You don't have any problem givening the 300lber a chance to prove herself? After all real love is a possible reward.
Dude, wake the eff up. You've already proven yourself as not being worth the risk, you put out clear signs that you probably aren't aware of and at this rate probably never will figure out.
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alvin wrote:
The common response seems to be basically just that dinner would be awkward if she isn't into you.
The common response is that she doesn't want to go to dinner with you, and that's all you need to know. "It would be awkward if she isn't into you" is one of the many possible reasons for this.
My thought is that I'd like to at least have a chance.
Yes, you've made this clear. Meanwhile her thought is that she'd like you to leave her alone. Again, there are many possible reasons for this. You have no current relationship with her, and therefore she has no obligation to give you things (a reason, a chance, her time, etc) solely because you'd like it. Without agreement, there is no date. If you cannot understand and accept this, you have no chance of a good relationship with anyone, let alone this girl.
The worst that could reasonably happen is that dinner ends up not being fun. The best thing that could happen is that you end up really connecting and the dinner ends up being the start of something great. In my mind this is a gamble that is worth it.
First, this isn't a 50:50 situation. Second, she can imagine worse outcomes than "dinner ends up not being fun". Based on the rejection, you can safely conclude that in her mind, this gamble is not worth it.
I'd rather have a chance to prove myself even if it means that there is some risk. A little bit of awkwardness is a small price to pay when real love is a possible reward.
Again, you don't get to decide what price she will or will not pay.
Find a girl who wants to go on a date with you. It'll be a lot more rewarding than stewing over a rejection.
If you have trouble finding such a girl, take an honest [painful] look at yourself to try to see why that is, and what you can do about it. A therapist or counselor may be helpful here.
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alvin wrote:
The common response seems to be basically just that dinner would be awkward if she isn't into you. My thought is that I'd like to at least have a chance. The worst that could reasonably happen is that dinner ends up not being fun. The best thing that could happen is that you end up really connecting and the dinner ends up being the start of something great. In my mind this is a gamble that is worth it.
I'd rather have a chance to prove myself even if it means that there is some risk. A little bit of awkwardness is a small price to pay when real love is a possible reward.
You're seeing all of this from your perspective only.
You want a chance, but your chance has been your previous interactions with her. For whatever reason, she doesn't want to go on a date. It may be she simply doesn't want a relationship right now.
She may know she isn't interested at all and she doesn't want to give you false hope or lead you on. If you went for a meal, for all we know you could take her somewhere expensive and insist on paying for it all, which then may leave her feeling indebted to you and awkward. People can turn funny when you turn them down, especially after a scenario like that.
It may well be true that the only risk *for you* is that you just don't have a fun evening. It isn't exactly the same for her though. Maybe she had a previous bad experience, or a friend did, when she turned someone down. We don't know.
I think she's doing the fair thing if she knows she isn't interested. Like other people have pointed out, would you personally go on a date with a girl you're not attracted to at all? I'm interested in your answer.
I can be had for a medium pizza.