Why are girls so quick to turn down date offers? Like if you don't have anything better to do why not just say yes?

Because a small but not insignificant number of dates for women end up in being raped/stalked/murdered/humiliated.

alvin wrote:

she was sitting on her patio alone eating and reading a book.

That sounds like a really pleasant way to spend a summer evening. How narcissistic of you to assume that inserting yourself into the picture would have made her dinner more enjoyable.

that sounds great, actually wrote:

alvin wrote:

she was sitting on her patio alone eating and reading a book.

That sounds like a really pleasant way to spend a summer evening. How narcissistic of you to assume that inserting yourself into the picture would have made her dinner more enjoyable.

I don't think anyone WANTS to be alone.

Get over it, maybe she just didn’t think you were attractive or worth her time. Also if she would have agreed to go on a date with you without being interested at all, you would have accused her on leading you on. Stop the victim mentality.

So if a dude asked you out, would you just say “well, I have nothing else on the calendar that evening, so sure, let’s do it.”

1) guys are generally more desperate for a girl than a girl is desperate for a guy, so girls will turn down more dates

2) we're ugly

Male desperation is for sex. Female desperation is for relationships. And so the world turns.

alvin wrote:Was just thinking about this because I ran by the house of a girl who turned me down last evening and she was sitting on her patio alone eating and reading a book.

Why are you running down her street in front of her house? You must be some type of stalker.

You seriously should seek professional help. This girl like all others is undoubtedly creeped out by you and justifiably so. If I ask a girl out and get rejected, running by their house to see what they are doing is almost the worst possible reaction.

If you do hear from her today, it should come in the form of a restraining order requiring you to keep a reasonable distance.

Alvin, sometimes women just aren't interested in you. They don't need a reason. Guys get asked out by women a lot less often than the other way around, but if you've been asked out by someone that you weren't interested in (for whatever reason) and you said no, you'll understand.

This. Men are an inherently risky proposition for women, and entering into a dance of intimacy requires either trust or careful deliberation about what she stands to gain. It's not an easy dilemma. Hard to understand when you're used to taking whatever you want and never being overpowered.

alvin wrote:

that sounds great, actually wrote:

That sounds like a really pleasant way to spend a summer evening. How narcissistic of you to assume that inserting yourself into the picture would have made her dinner more enjoyable.

I don't think anyone WANTS to be alone.

Herein lies the problem, you are absolutely wrong about this.

I think all girls should be forced to watch Marathon Man. Then they would respect our sport more because I've noticed girls don't care whenever I talk about my marathon goals(sub 2:30 thon) and my running career. If a girl sees someone surviving a torture from a dictator like person and then been able to run away and escape like a badass, and then be tough enough to go back and encounter that dictator type person and defeat them. They will think of Dustin Hoffmin when I tell them I'm a distance runner and will admire me.

Women outlive men by 5 years. At age 38, a level of male-to-female equilibrium is reached. By age 45, men have the clear advantage. Desperation sets in and middle aged women start to behave like teen aged boys.

It's all a matter of demographics.

Your emaciated distance runner physique is unappealing. Hit the gym, bro.

Seems like you are feeling entitled, youngun. You are not entitled. Maybe they don't want to date anyone. Maybe they just don't want to date you. Believe it or not, but eating dinner alone and reading a book might just be better for a lot of girls than dating you. You didn't make any point with that girl reading her book. She's just not interested in you.

Ahead of the Curve wrote:

You seriously should seek professional help. This girl like all others is undoubtedly creeped out by you and justifiably so. If I ask a girl out and get rejected, running by their house to see what they are doing is almost the worst possible reaction.

If you do hear from her today, it should come in the form of a restraining order requiring you to keep a reasonable distance.

Whoa just to be clear I'm not running by her house to see what she's doing. She lives in my neighborhood and I just happened to be running by. I've been running a route that takes me by her house regularly since before I even knew she lived there.

I'm not some kind of creepy stalker.

Because

- she enjoys some alone time

-she isn't interested in you

-she doesn't want to go on a date as it might not be fun for her

It doesn't really matter in the end, just respect her decision

As a girl, plus an introvert, I will tell you it's a lot more exhausting to spend time with someone you don't care for than to be alone with a book and your dinner. It's a lot of acting to have to be so politely interested all the time.