Why do guys dig crazy chicks?

Wrong. Me thinks the original poster got caught

by his ex-wife with provocative pictures of the

original poster (OP).

Like the OP spreading a blanket out on the floor,

turning on Music Choice's Tunes for Toddlers,

dawned out in an oversized Depends diaper,

baby rattle, a binky, a bottle with a nipple filled

with Similac, rolling on the ground going "go go ga ga"!

Enlightened Chick wrote:

After divorce I am out dating and yeah... I have to hear about a lot of guys' baggage, and since I am open, generally compassionate, and non judgmental, and NOT CRAZY, I get a lot of guys that will basically open up and spill about their past relationships and dating experiences.

So, guys. She was crazy. Everyone said she was crazy. She snooped your phone, get easily upset, got mad when she thought you looked at other girls. God forbid you have female friends .

Why do some guys like crazy chicks? .

I get they are exes, but how did they make it to the relationship to begin with? And... why are they STILL talking about them?

Bonus question: what can I say to get guys to stop talking about exes and see what's in front of them?

A lot of times it can be because they are fun. They are passionate about something and willing to try stuff. A lot of the less "crazy" chics I've gone out with are a bit of prudes and don't really have exciting lives. Its like the difference between Australia and New Zealand. You probably aren't fun if you don't get it. Plus you're divorced, so you obviously are doing something wrong. If the issue is "all the guys are into crazy chics", no the issue is you are into guys who are into crazy chics. You want to be with a guy who dates the cool girls, because subconsciously you want to be "a cool girl".

That's alright, Dr. Letsrun is here to help. I've got a pH of 3 and its going to burn a little.

Care to share any details about your divorce?

Because they're more interesting and entertaining than the not crazy ones.

Really?? You’re only hearing ONE side of the story, the guy’s side. IMO, crazy tends to attract crazy.

Met a guy who said his ex was a nutter, until I later found out that he made her get an abortion.. dude, that stuff’s heavy! Making his ex end a life? That’s likely to make any woman go unstable for awhile.

Guys who dig crazy, dramatic, psycho girls who will not let them go? Strike them off the list. Next, please!

Sad! To know ya wrote:

Because they're more interesting and entertaining than the not crazy ones.

Bingo! The trick is to date them and NOT marry or live with them.

wineturtle wrote:

Sad! To know ya wrote:

Because they're more interesting and entertaining than the not crazy ones.

Bingo! The trick is to date them and NOT marry or live with them.

also don't be an idiot and get emotionally attached either to a crazy biatch either. (guilty)

I am guilty of that too.

Coffeegirl123 wrote:

Really?? You’re only hearing ONE side of the story, the guy’s side. IMO, crazy tends to attract crazy.

Met a guy who said his ex was a nutter, until I later found out that he made her get an abortion.. dude, that stuff’s heavy! Making his ex end a life? That’s likely to make any woman go unstable for awhile.

Guys who dig crazy, dramatic, psycho girls who will not let them go? Strike them off the list. Next, please!

He made her? What country?

All women are crazy to some extent because they just don't make sense to men.

This video explains the general dating crazy chicks conundrum.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XuI6GTY9eVc

guys dig crazy chicks because they want to go for the ride of their life and that ride needs to be so good, there will never be another one like it. If you can understand what it will be like before you even been on it, well, what fun is that?

Saudi? wrote:

Coffeegirl123 wrote:

Really?? You’re only hearing ONE side of the story, the guy’s side. IMO, crazy tends to attract crazy.

Met a guy who said his ex was a nutter, until I later found out that he made her get an abortion.. dude, that stuff’s heavy! Making his ex end a life? That’s likely to make any woman go unstable for awhile.

Guys who dig crazy, dramatic, psycho girls who will not let them go? Strike them off the list. Next, please!

He made her? What country?

Korea. She’s Korean and he’s American. He got her pregnant, but come on, he’s not even allowed to suggest that she gets an abortion. That’s fundamentally wrong on a human kind of level.. fact is he told her to get an abortion because he wasn’t ready for a baby.

The way I see it, there are 2 types of crazy women.

1) Normal women who become crazy because they’re with crazy guys. (Lying/cheating/manipulative/dishonest behavior about how many people they are seeing and their real intentions etc)

2) absolutely batshit crazy women whom there is no help for

Moral of the story, stay away from crazy women and guys who are into crazy women.

You sound like my perfect match.

Coffeegirl123 wrote:

Korea. She’s Korean and he’s American. He got her pregnant, but come on, he’s not even allowed to suggest that she gets an abortion. That’s fundamentally wrong on a human kind of level.. fact is he told her to get an abortion because he wasn’t ready for a baby.

The way I see it, there are 2 types of crazy women.

1) Normal women who become crazy because they’re with crazy guys. (Lying/cheating/manipulative/dishonest behavior about how many people they are seeing and their real intentions etc)

2) absolutely batshit crazy women whom there is no help for

Moral of the story, stay away from crazy women and guys who are into crazy women.

wait what?! family planning is a one-sided affair? The woman obviously has the deciding vote here because if biology, but the guy is not allowed into the discussion? To be honest that sounds a little.......crazy.

Did they end up together?

No?

So the guy was probably right and being honest. Shame on him.

What would the appropriate thing for the guy to do in this situation? Not say anything?

Better off if he spared her feelings and let her think he was going to help her raise a kid he wasn't ready to have and then bail?

Having unwanted children seems like a VERY BAD IDEA in general. Pretty sure the stats back that up as well.

If he had any brain, the right thing to do is to use a f*cking condom.

Coffeegirl123 wrote:

derp wrote:

wait what?! family planning is a one-sided affair? The woman obviously has the deciding vote here because if biology, but the guy is not allowed into the discussion? To be honest that sounds a little.......crazy.

Did they end up together?

No?

So the guy was probably right and being honest. Shame on him.

What would the appropriate thing for the guy to do in this situation? Not say anything?

Better off if he spared her feelings and let her think he was going to help her raise a kid he wasn't ready to have and then bail?

Having unwanted children seems like a VERY BAD IDEA in general. Pretty sure the stats back that up as well.

If he had any brain, the right thing to do is to use a f*cking condom.

well yeah but it's a little late for that, and that's not 100% on him alone, she was part of that decision. Bringing up abortion as an option is not going to be a easy conversation to have, but doesn't mean it's wrong. Seems weird to expect the guy to remain silent/lie about how he feels about it. Two of them got into the situation, seems like two of the should be involved in figuring out the best options going forward and being honest about how they feel about them.

Again, what do you think he should have done in the situation?

Ok, I’m sure you are a dude and I just realize that this forum is super male-oriented.

For many people, and a GREAT majority of women, there is a very strong bond between them and the unborn child. It’s a very special and intimate feeling to be holding another human, who has a heartbeat, a life within you. I certainly never knew how powerful the feeling could be, until I had one and miscarried. The kind of loss you feel is indescribable.

He could tell her that he doesn’t want to be part of the baby’s life, and she can then raise the baby on her own. Who says women can’t do it on their own? We live in 2018 for god’s sake. She should be free to decide what she wants to do with the baby, without him pressuring her into an abortion.

I certainly stayed away from this dude and his bad decisions after that. Foresight is a powerful thing.

I wasn't trying to say having an abortion is a simple decision, but it is a decision that involves both them at least in the initial discussion phase about the future. Then of course she can do what ever she wants. That's where we agree. That's why I'm confused. If she felt that strongly about having the child then she could have had it and kicked him to the curb.

He's allowed to say his piece. She's allowed to kick him to the curb and make her own decision.

He sounds like a controlling loser if he was putting continual pressure on her for an abortion, that's different. But that makes it even more confusing that she would base such a big decision on his opinion. but people do get trapped in controlling relationships I guess.

tl;dr: I think a guy should be able to bring up abortion as an option, but should only bring it up once.

I imagine there are some scenarios in which the woman is considering an abortion but is hesitant to bring it up first. Never hurts to open to door to the possibility that they might actually both want the same thing but haven't expressed it.