Etiquette question regarding lack of thank you

question 4 letsrun wrote:

My coworker is in her early 30's (might make a difference)

pics?

also instead of a bottle of wine, be less subtle next time. Just ask

"hey babes nice ass. Would you like to smash on the old couch in the boiler room behind HR?"

She mentioned that she and her husband liked red wine. I addressed the card to both of them.

Hemingway would have drank the wine long before gifting it to anyone.

so she already thanked you but it doesnt count unless you get it in writing?

You came here to ask an etiquette question?

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good boy wrote:

so she already thanked you but it doesnt count unless you get it in writing?

Well when someone hands you something, it's almost an automatic response to say thank you. It's a minimal show of appreciation.

I would have written a brief thank you in that situation. But I was curious about others opinions.

Don't worry. Her husband is lubing up even as we write.

Her hubby says THANKS!! wrote:

Don't worry. Her husband is lubing up even as we write.

yeah, arnt you jealus

Question 4 letsrun wrote:

good boy wrote:

so she already thanked you but it doesnt count unless you get it in writing?

Well when someone hands you something, it's almost an automatic response to say thank you. It's a minimal show of appreciation.

I would have written a brief thank you in that situation. But I was curious about others opinions.

if you give someone a gift with the expectation of receiving appreciation or recognition then you're doing it for the wrong reasons.

you did something nice, she said thank you. i dont think anything else is necessary.

Hey old timer, our generation doesn't do thank-you notes. Instead, we would do something like buy you lunch, or a beer or a coffee. Maybe a muffin from the tuck shop. And we would do it at a time that is natural, not immediately after receiving something. Hope this helps.

It's not like you gave her Ranges vs Devils playoff tickets

She was probably creeped out that the temp she doesn't know gave her a bottle of wine

Hey old timer wrote:

Hey old timer, our generation doesn't do thank-you notes. Instead, we would do something like buy you lunch, or a beer or a coffee. Maybe a muffin from the tuck shop. And we would do it at a time that is natural, not immediately after receiving something. Hope this helps.

OK. I was expecting something maybe a brief note after vacation. I received a number of cards this Christmas from the group with which I used to work. Maybe part of the issue, isn't so much age, but the culture at my new place of employment. The place I worked at for years was with an amazing group of hardworking, bright and generous people.

I didn't apply for this temp position but was called and asked to take it as a favor. I guess its different here. Where I had worked before I would have gotten a thank you card. It was an expensive bottle of wine.

Truthfully maybe its a bit more than just the lack of thank you for the wine. I am the first one here every day, I take each job that my coworker doesn't want to do, I never over step or in anyway show off. I am nice to everyone and really make my coworker's job much easier.

But I am starting to think I am not appreciated for my efforts. I am not used to that.

The thank you note, for a very good bottle of wine, would have gone far with me. Maybe my coworker is self centered.

Plot Twist! wrote:

She was probably creeped out that the temp she doesn't know gave her a bottle of wine

I gave it to her and her husband.

I feel that if you gave it to her in person, when she thanked you as you gave it to her, that is enough.

question 4 letsrun wrote:

Plot Twist! wrote:

She was probably creeped out that the temp she doesn't know gave her a bottle of wine

I gave it to her and her husband.

So you creeped both of them out.

And now you are creeping us out, too.

You are welcome!

roblox oof sound wrote:

Her hubby says THANKS!! wrote:

Don't worry. Her husband is lubing up even as we write.

yeah, arnt you jealus

You bet. I love a nice red.

Hey old timer wrote:

Hey old timer, our generation doesn't do thank-you notes. Instead, we would do something like buy you lunch, or a beer or a coffee. Maybe a muffin from the tuck shop. And we would do it at a time that is natural, not immediately after receiving something. Hope this helps.

This. I'm in my early 30s and don't do hand written thank you notes. No one I know does for something like that. Maybe after a wedding or baby shower. But not a bottle of wine. I think saying thank you was good enough and you definitely shouldn't give a gift expecting something in return, especially after knowing her for only two months.

young people don't say thank you.