Help me win over a girl

Congrats, you've been friend zoned.

The correct response to her saying she had a boyfriend is ALWAYS:

"What's your man got to do with me?"

Give up now or in 5, 10, 15 years this woman will be on the television saying you harassed her and you'll lose whatever job you have.

Jose el Plomero wrote:

Give up now or in 5, 10, 15 years this woman will be on the television saying you harassed her and you'll lose whatever job you have.

OP- listen to this advice. It's probably the most sound logic you will ever receive on LR.

MeHereYouWhere?! wrote:

The correct response to her saying she had a boyfriend is ALWAYS:

"What's your man got to do with me?"

It does seem like she his playing with the OP. It's hard to figure women. Nowadays even the ugly girls have bf's. Amazing isn't it? Tell her you want a real date. If she says no to that then WALK away and do not look back.

Get into the NO GAME ZONE. You do not want to be the one who is begging her for a date. If that's the case then she rules you for the rest of your life or dumps you and you have a hard time recovering.

There is no "long game". She did you a huge favor by telling you she isn't interested. That's what I'm seeing someone means. No offense, but by 27 that's something you should know.

Fish for more information? It makes you look weak and it is unattractive to her.

Break off contact? Sounds petty. Just be civil. She isn't interested. It's not a big deal.

Try to move on? Come on guy. Just move the F on.

Invent a fake gf? That's more than a little sad. Would you like a girl who likes a guy who invents fake girlfriends?

She isn't going to get jealous. She made her assessment and ruled you out. It's possible you had a window but your lack of decisiveness in asking her out led her to friend zone you.

It's done. Move on. (And stop running with girls. Your easy runs are too slow that way.)

Jose el Plomero wrote:

Give up now or in 5, 10, 15 years this woman will be on the television saying you harassed her and you'll lose whatever job you have.

This new wave of social "justice" is going to collapse before then. All it's gonna take is the reasonable people of this world finally getting sick of being lumped in with the scum and being accused of things they haven't actually done.

Sounds like you two should go for a run, wear short shorts and let the dong fall out and flap in the wind a little bit. Let her see what she's missing

Long Dong Silver wrote:

Sounds like you two should go for a run, wear short shorts and let the dong fall out and flap in the wind a little bit. Let her see what she's missing

I stand corrected. THIS is the most logical answer you will ever receive on Let's Run.

Here is how I got the girl...

Every summer there was this girl, Wendy, who was a lifeguard at my pool. I couldn't take it anymore so I finally, in an effort to impress her, did something about it.

I started walking towards the diving board, removed my glasses, climbed up and jumped off into the deep end. Slight problem was I couldn't really swim, but she didn't know that.

Within seconds, my friends started shouting I was drowning and she (Wendy) had to jump in to save me. She had to get me to the pool deck where a crowd of people had gathered. She immediately started giving me mouth-to-mouth as I wasn't breathing. Little did she know I was fine.

Finally on one of her breaths into my mouth, I kissed back, grabbing the back of her head to prove how into I was.

She immediately grabbed me and pulled me up, walked me over and tossed my skinny, runner @ss into some bushes..

But for that one magical moment, I made out with Wendy and my friends all saw it.

Matt Lauer - I didn't know you posted here!

Woah man, first off you shouldn't of asked her to dinner on a first date. Way too much pressure for the both of you. Y'all would end up having so many awkward silences in between the food getting to the table and whatnot, dinner is just way too long of a date. Instead do something quick like grabbing a smoothie, coffee, ice cream, etc... Then let her know you have cool stuff going on in your life other than running, whatever that may be. Don't be too direct about it and straight up give her an autobiography of your life, but be relaxed. Also don't invest too much time in her, if she see's you're a pretty cool social guy that's friends with cool guys and pretty girls then she'll be even more attracted.

Invite her to a party and tell her to bring some friends, she'll feel less pressure and it will give you time to socialize and get to know her in a comfortable environment. Maybe even your boys can get lucky too. Last thing, don't interview her when talking EX: What's your major? Where you from? Nadadada! Break that awkward barrier and get comfortable with her.

(NO SMALL TALK)

MeHereYouWhere?! wrote:

The correct response to her saying she had a boyfriend is ALWAYS:

"What's your man got to do with me?"

Right answer. American women have two lists. The one they tell the boyfriend, and the one she talks about with her female friends. The second list is much more fun, for a while.

OP, you are clueless. There are endless blogs and videos, about how girls show sexual interest in you and, separately, how you need to act regardless of her interest level. Learn how to take action, be attractive, and be 100% honest and respectful doing it. It's a skill. Learn it.

Don't friendzone unless she will help you with one of her equally attractive friends. That doesn't mean silently pining for here while you meet/date/whatever her friends. Again, no lies and you have to honestly value the friendship and value her trust, just not in a sexual way. If you can't do that, then you need to take 10 steps back and work on yourself and your game.

OP, this is gold. Lots of blogs and videos suggest exactly these kinds of interactions. Again, just be 100% truthful and respectful.

Thanks for summarizing part of Sandlot for us.

the first response seems right to me.

you've missed your chance...if you ever had one.

its time to direct your attention elsewhere.

Thanks man! And you're right, there's plenty of social techniques and social skills you can pick up just from blogs that teaches you how to become a high status guy.

Never waste your time on a girl who is not interested in you. There are plenty of other girls. Go after one of them and forget this one. Even worse than being in the friend zone with this girl is that other girls will see this friend relationship you have and label you as a friend, making you undateable. Find some dudes to run with. If she has hot friends keep in touch for parties and such, but you really need to stop spending time with her.

After a while of spending less time with her and more time with other girls she might begin to show interest in you. If this happens and you're still into her you can't just start hanging out again. You need to make it clear you intend to have sex with her. Obviously you don't just say that, instead just sneak stuff into the conversation. Example: she says, "I'm going to see my parents this weekend." You say, "I'm not sure if I'm ready to meet your parents, we haven't even had sex yet."

To me, it seems like she genuinely considers you a friend. Nothing wrong with that, you could learn a lot from being friends with a woman. It'll teach you a lot about them that, if u r serious about being a basement bottom dweller, you can learn from. Then apply to your next crush.