Personally, socially, physically, pretty much every way imaginable. Every interaction I have with another person is just really weird and uncomfortable.
I am socially inept, a bad conversationalist, and am physically clumsy. Just all around awkward.
Personally, socially, physically, pretty much every way imaginable. Every interaction I have with another person is just really weird and uncomfortable.
I am socially inept, a bad conversationalist, and am physically clumsy. Just all around awkward.
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well, I'm not physically clumsy but the rest of it, sure. I don't really have a personality, and I can't carry a conversation.
I just don't like other people that much, so I lose interest in conversation.
awkward andy wrote:
Personally, socially, physically, pretty much every way imaginable. Every interaction I have with another person is just really weird and uncomfortable.
I am socially inept, a bad conversationalist, and am physically clumsy. Just all around awkward.
Yes, this is exactly me. I just can't interact with people. Every interaction with people is VERY strange and uncomfortable.
And I'm physically awkward. Always tripping over things, breaking things, and generally screwing everything up.
I feel like I screw everything up. Work, relationships, everything. I'm an incompetent human, and that makes interacting with people very awkward.
gfdfsdfadf wrote:
I just don't like other people that much, so I lose interest in conversation.
Are you my girlfriend?
No
I'm also a bad conversationalist.I can't carry a conversation for very long
Social skills can be improved. A lot of people are shy and struggle socially, and a lot of them are actually good at hiding their social anxiety. Learn to gradually face your fears and build your confidence. Try new things and consider failure as a step forward to learn from. Look at people. Observe people. It generally eases tension because if you don't look at them and your anxiety tells you that they're judging you, you'll always be in your head thinking negatively. Get out of your head and approach interactions trying to make the other person happy and feeling good rather than thinking about if they're judging you. People are actually pretty understanding and non judgmental. If they are not, then they probably have insecurities that inhibit these common traits. Good luck and I hope you find happiness.
Yep, I know I am 90% of the time. Except at work. Somehow I make it through work without feeling this way. Probably because there is pretty clearly defined etiquette in a professional setting. But in strictly social settings, where I can ‘be me’, I’m always self conscious about my appearance, the way I speak or the things I say, etc.
I think part of it is not truly knowing myself yet, and the other part of it is having some shame about who I am.
I get really awkward on dates. My last one was a disaster. There was so little talking that I literally remember every word said. We met at starbucks. She was 2 hours late without any fuking sorry. I was standing at the entrance waiting the whole time. I passed the time by stretching my muscles. She eventually arrived.
Me: Hey how are you, nice to see you again.
Her: Hi, I'm good how are you?
Me: I'm good too now that you are here.
Her: Cool lets get a coffee it's cold and wet out here.
Me: Tell me what you want and I'll get it.
Her: Oh thanks that's sweet, I'll have a pumpkin latte and banana bread cake. Do you mind if I get a seat I'm to tired for queuing?
Me: No problem. I understand. I do a lot of running so I get tired legs too. I have a marathon coming up.
Her: Oh that sounds tough. See you in a minute.
While I was getting the stuff she spent the 5 minutes on her phone. She didn't evan look over at me once.
Me: So here is your coffee and snack.
Her: Oh thanks how much do I owe you.
Me: Oh no girls shouldn't have to pay. This is my treat.
Her: Ok haha, that's sweet.
Me: I hope you enjoy it. I really like coming here. Do you come here often?
Her: Haha sometimes.
Me: It's a nice place to chill out
Her: Ye sure is
Me: I hope that rain calms down outside. I was running in it earlier. It was torture.
Her: You went running, with that outside. That's crazy.
Me: I know it isn't easy. I hate the rain but I don't let it get in the way of my marathon training.
Her: Good luck with that.
Me: Do you ever run marathons
Her: Haha I'm not that fit. I only run when I'm late for something.
Me: What do you like to do.
Her: What do you mean.
Me: What are your interests.
Her: Like hobbies you know.
Me: Yea what are your hobbies.
Her: Haha I like shopping with my girlfriends and dancing.
Me: I would love to take you shopping someday. The mall over on Cumberdale Drive is great.
Her: Haha yea maybe.
Me: Cool.
Her: Yea
Me: This coffee tastes amazing.
Her: Yea mine too.
Me: It looks good
Her: ha thanks.
Me: I could stay here all day
Her: I have to go to dance rehearsal
Me: Oh that's a shame it is great to be here. I hope your dancing goes really good.
Her: Haha I meant I can't stay all day because I have rehearsal today. I'll stay until I finish my cake and coffee.
Me: Thanks. Silly me.
Her: No problem
Me: I hope the dancing is going well
Her: Thanks, yea it is
Me: Oh cool
Her: Ha thanks
Me: I wish I could dance
Her: You should learn it's fun
Me: I am more suited to running
Her: It's good to learn new things
Me: I will. Running is my favorite hobby. I am inspired by the best runner. Bekele. Do you know him?
Her: I've never heard of him but I'm sure he is interesting.
Me: He is my favorite runner and probably my hero.
Her: I don't really like running. I enjoy dancing and yoga.
Me: I bet your a great dancer.
Her: I'm ok. It is good for meeting new people.
Me: It is amazing meeting you.
Her: Ha thanks.
Me: I really like you and want to meet again.
Her: We will. I'm running late I better go. Lets meet another time.
She reached her hand out to shake mine. She smiled nicely at me and walked away. She still had most of her cake and coffee left on the table.
Me: It was great to come here with you. I really want to see you again. Enjoy your dancing. Take care.
Her: Thanks you too.
She rushed out and that was 2 weeks ago. I've tried sending messages but get ignored. Did I handle the date well or is something wrong with her? Maybe she is the awkward one
OMG that's awful cringe material. I can't even repost it. I need to try to get that dialogue out of my head. It's haunting me.
You should consider medication to help you with your social phobia. *cringe*
I think the girl is the one who needs medication. She doesn't have the ability to answer messages and can't evan finish a coffe and cake. She can't evan smile when she laughs. She was miserable and never tried to make conversation. There was loads of awkward silences and the date was so short. If I see her again I'm going to tell her what I think of her.
There were so many missed opportunities for a good conversation in that exchange. Can you see any?
I'm still cringing for you, BTW.
Don't try to reconnect with her. She's in hiding right now.
How would you have handled her. What would you have done from the beginning. It was hard from the beginning because I was waiting for her so long.
Us distance runners are a unique bread.
Banana Bread wrote:
I get really awkward on dates. My last one was a disaster. There was so little talking that I literally remember every word said. We met at starbucks. She was 2 hours late without any fuking sorry. I was standing at the entrance waiting the whole time. I passed the time by stretching my muscles. She eventually arrived.
Me: Hey how are you, nice to see you again.
Her: Hi, I'm good how are you?
Me: I'm good too now that you are here. ***WEIRD***
Her: Cool lets get a coffee it's cold and wet out here.
Me: Tell me what you want and I'll get it.
Her: Oh thanks that's sweet, I'll have a pumpkin latte and banana bread cake. Do you mind if I get a seat I'm to tired for queuing?
Me: No problem. I understand. I do a lot of running so I get tired legs too. I have a marathon coming up.
Her: Oh that sounds tough. See you in a minute.
While I was getting the stuff she spent the 5 minutes on her phone. She didn't evan look over at me once.
Me: So here is your coffee and snack.
Her: Oh thanks how much do I owe you.
Me: Oh no girls shouldn't have to pay. This is my treat.
Her: Ok haha, that's sweet.
Me: I hope you enjoy it. I really like coming here. Do you come here often? ***WEIRD - it's STARBUCKS! Also "come here often is played out and gross***
Her: Haha sometimes.
Me: It's a nice place to chill out
Her: Ye sure is
Me: I hope that rain calms down outside. I was running in it earlier. It was torture.
Her: You went running, with that outside. That's crazy.
Me: I know it isn't easy. I hate the rain but I don't let it get in the way of my marathon training.
Her: Good luck with that.
Me: Do you ever run marathons ***YOU'RE STARTING TO SOUND RUNNING OBSESSED***
Her: Haha I'm not that fit. I only run when I'm late for something.
Me: What do you like to do.
Her: What do you mean.
Me: What are your interests.
Her: Like hobbies you know.
Me: Yea what are your hobbies.
Her: Haha I like shopping with my girlfriends and dancing.
Me: I would love to take you shopping someday. The mall over on Cumberdale Drive is great. ***WEIRD YOU SOUND LIKE A SUGAR DADDY. I WOULD LOVE TO TAKE YOU SHOPPING SOMEDAY? WHO SAYS THAT ON ONE OF THE FIRST DATES***
Her: Haha yea maybe.
Me: Cool.
Her: Yea
Me: This coffee tastes amazing. ***WHAT? IT'S STARBUCKS. HOW GOOD COULD IT TASTE? STOP***
Her: Yea mine too.
Me: It looks good
Her: ha thanks.
Me: I could stay here all day ***AT STARBUCKS? WEIRD***
Her: I have to go to dance rehearsal
Me: Oh that's a shame it is great to be here. I hope your dancing goes really good. ***GREAT TO BE HERE? DUDE YOU'RE TRYING TOO HARD TO MAKE IT SOUND LIKE YOU'RE HAVING A GOOD TIME. JUST STOP***
Her: Haha I meant I can't stay all day because I have rehearsal today. I'll stay until I finish my cake and coffee.
Me: Thanks. Silly me.
Her: No problem
Me: I hope the dancing is going well
Her: Thanks, yea it is
Me: Oh cool
Her: Ha thanks
Me: I wish I could dance
Her: You should learn it's fun
Me: I am more suited to running
Her: It's good to learn new things
Me: I will. Running is my favorite hobby. I am inspired by the best runner. Bekele. Do you know him? ***DUDE SHE DOESN'T CARE***
Her: I've never heard of him but I'm sure he is interesting.
Me: He is my favorite runner and probably my hero. *OK STOP*
Her: I don't really like running. I enjoy dancing and yoga.
Me: I bet your a great dancer. ***WHY DO YOU THINK THAT? YOU SOUND CREEPY AF***
Her: I'm ok. It is good for meeting new people.
Me: It is amazing meeting you. ***CREEPY***
Her: Ha thanks.
Me: I really like you and want to meet again. ***TRYING TOO HARD, COMING ON TOO STRONG. WHY WOULD YOU SAY THIS? IT'S SO OBVIOUS THIS DATE ISN'T GOING WELL. PICK UP ON HINTS***
Her: We will. I'm running late I better go. Lets meet another time.
She reached her hand out to shake mine. She smiled nicely at me and walked away. She still had most of her cake and coffee left on the table.
Me: It was great to come here with you. I really want to see you again. Enjoy your dancing. Take care.
Her: Thanks you too.
She rushed out and that was 2 weeks ago. I've tried sending messages but get ignored. Did I handle the date well or is something wrong with her? Maybe she is the awkward one
This is a joke, right? On the off chance that this isn't a joke and you are truly clueless, I have made annotations for you on all the places you sound awful and creepy.
Nobody waits 2 hours.. 0/10
You can think what you want but I doubt you could have made it successful more if you were on the date with her. I was nice, friendly, complimenting, generous, showing interest in her. What would you have said that isn't so creepy. I'm not creepy btw. I did exaggerate liking the coffee and place so much just to sound like a positive person and not a negative complainer. I wanted to lighten the mood.
Banana Bread wrote:
I get really awkward on dates. My last one was a disaster. There was so little talking that I literally remember every word said. We met at starbucks. She was 2 hours late without any fuking sorry. I was standing at the entrance waiting the whole time. I passed the time by stretching my muscles. She eventually arrived.
Me: Hey how are you, nice to see you again.
Her: Hi, I'm good how are you?
Me: I'm good too now that you are here.
Her: Cool lets get a coffee it's cold and wet out here.
Me: Tell me what you want and I'll get it.
Her: Oh thanks that's sweet, I'll have a pumpkin latte and banana bread cake. Do you mind if I get a seat I'm to tired for queuing?
Me: No problem. I understand. I do a lot of running so I get tired legs too. I have a marathon coming up.
Her: Oh that sounds tough. See you in a minute.
While I was getting the stuff she spent the 5 minutes on her phone. She didn't evan look over at me once.
Me: So here is your coffee and snack.
Her: Oh thanks how much do I owe you.
Me: Oh no girls shouldn't have to pay. This is my treat.
Her: Ok haha, that's sweet.
Me: I hope you enjoy it. I really like coming here. Do you come here often?
Her: Haha sometimes.
Me: It's a nice place to chill out
Her: Ye sure is
Me: I hope that rain calms down outside. I was running in it earlier. It was torture.
Her: You went running, with that outside. That's crazy.
Me: I know it isn't easy. I hate the rain but I don't let it get in the way of my marathon training.
Her: Good luck with that.
Me: Do you ever run marathons
Her: Haha I'm not that fit. I only run when I'm late for something.
Me: What do you like to do.
Her: What do you mean.
Me: What are your interests.
Her: Like hobbies you know.
Me: Yea what are your hobbies.
Her: Haha I like shopping with my girlfriends and dancing.
Me: I would love to take you shopping someday. The mall over on Cumberdale Drive is great.
Her: Haha yea maybe.
Me: Cool.
Her: Yea
Me: This coffee tastes amazing.
Her: Yea mine too.
Me: It looks good
Her: ha thanks.
Me: I could stay here all day
Her: I have to go to dance rehearsal
Me: Oh that's a shame it is great to be here. I hope your dancing goes really good.
Her: Haha I meant I can't stay all day because I have rehearsal today. I'll stay until I finish my cake and coffee.
Me: Thanks. Silly me.
Her: No problem
Me: I hope the dancing is going well
Her: Thanks, yea it is
Me: Oh cool
Her: Ha thanks
Me: I wish I could dance
Her: You should learn it's fun
Me: I am more suited to running
Her: It's good to learn new things
Me: I will. Running is my favorite hobby. I am inspired by the best runner. Bekele. Do you know him?
Her: I've never heard of him but I'm sure he is interesting.
Me: He is my favorite runner and probably my hero.
Her: I don't really like running. I enjoy dancing and yoga.
Me: I bet your a great dancer.
Her: I'm ok. It is good for meeting new people.
Me: It is amazing meeting you.
Her: Ha thanks.
Me: I really like you and want to meet again.
Her: We will. I'm running late I better go. Lets meet another time.
She reached her hand out to shake mine. She smiled nicely at me and walked away. She still had most of her cake and coffee left on the table.
Me: It was great to come here with you. I really want to see you again. Enjoy your dancing. Take care.
Her: Thanks you too.
She rushed out and that was 2 weeks ago. I've tried sending messages but get ignored. Did I handle the date well or is something wrong with her? Maybe she is the awkward one
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