im afraid of getting older

Look up most "interesting man in the world commercial" on you tube.

Also compare Hugh Hefner's life at 19 versus 30, 40, 50.

Age will hit you when you are in your late 30's/early 40's. You will start to think about when you were 18 or 25 or 30. Do you look at a 10 year old now and think when i was ten... ? You are a baby, lots and lots of years ahead, not even half way to dying, enjoy life.

Track Fan wrote:

Age will hit you when you are in your late 30's/early 40's. You will start to think about when you were 18 or 25 or 30. Do you look at a 10 year old now and think when i was ten... ? You are a baby, lots and lots of years ahead, not even half way to dying, enjoy life.

no, but its weird i look back to when i was 16 or 17 and it feels like it was forever ago. Im enjoying life now... but 18 is such a wonderful age and im not ok with it ending for me in 3 months

Mid 20's is awesome. Its pretty much college-homework+more disposable income.

Actually, college is not that great once you think about it. You drink shit cheap ass beer when you party. And until you are 21, you spend half your time trying to just get some beer. What you think is a cool party is really just a bunch of drunk guys hanging out in some dump of a rental house waiting to either pass out or puke. You have no money. You don't understand anything about the real world. You don't get any respect from anyone. College girls look great, but are an emotional mine field, either looking for their Mrs., jumping from one dorm room to another or on some chastity bible quest. And you are either spending your parents' money or racking up debt that you will carry for the next 20 years.

I am 38. I weigh as much as I did after college. I am running as fast as I ever have (started later, though) and continue to improve. I get respect from people because of my job and things I have done in the community. I eat what I want and drink amazing beer and wine. I pick where I want to go on vacation, what car I want to drive and see whatever shows, movies, etc. I want.

Sure, I work a job. It isn't fun. But, you will soon find that college classes are not fun.

thanks precious roy for that post. I have just gotten done with hs and can tell you that the girls there are definitely emotional minefields but I thought it got better in college when they were a little older

I worry more about dying before I get old. I want to live at least as long as everyone I love.

I am a twenty-something and got let go from my real job a few months ago. But I'm living it up and plan on working abroad in different countries (just for the experience, even if it pays poorly). As long as you don't have a significant other, kids, or debts, you can go on all the adventures you want. It depends on what you want out of life. Maybe I have the feeling that I could do anything but at the same time, I also have to worry about having a real job eventually. I think if I could change one thing, it would be the time I wasted after school trying to get a 'real job'. I could have done the Peace Corps or something like my friends did.

Maybe you could be a teacher or a doctor. Or a paramedic. Their routines are a little different than a typical office person.

I know a guy who went to a fancy university for undergrad and then straight to a fancy law school. He has a decent paying job that he was lucky to get but he also has a whole lot of debt and he has to and that doesn't seem very fun. Something like that would scare me. Going into a bunch of debt for a degree that doesn't even guarantee you a job. And then if you get a job, hoping you don't lose it because you need to pay of the debt.

I'll get piled on for this response, I know...

I am early thirties with a wife and daughter.

I had a great time in High School. I loved college; ran fast, partied with girls, crazy friends, etc.

i am happier right now than i have ever been. I have a wonderful family that brings me true joy, not something contrived. i still run a lot, not as fast really, but not slow either. For some reason, that doesn't bother me, I really don't care. i am fit and ripped.

i get to do what i want with whom i want.

I love my child, she is so special to me.

You have a lot to look forward to, don't be scared. 18 is great, so live it up and have fun, but there are good times ahead for sure.

i swear.

I'm pretty sure this is a troll. I mean who thinks 18 is the best and is not looking forward to college and their 20's? I know for you you probably think 30's is old. But it's not.

Right now you have your parents providing everything for you. But you have to live by their rules. When you spread your wings and get out of your nest... you'll realize that life is much more rewarding after high school. You have money to spend how ever you want, you have your house to do what ever and when ever you want. You get to hang out with whom ever you want. Life is pretty good. And the 40 hour work week? What are you lazy? Want the silver platter handed to you? Come on, 40 hour work week is a small price to pay for the money you'll be making. Plus, you'll more than likely enjoy your work, enjoy your co workers and will look back thinking this is so much better than school!!!

Plus, you can't even imagine how easy it is to pick up women in their 20's and 30's. It's crazy.

And don't bash retired people. Many of them are enjoying life more than you and I have. Those who aren't enjoying their retirement weren't smart with their savings and are stuggling financially due to their own decisions.

Life is what you make of it. If you always think that 18 was better... then you'll never be happy with what you have today (at age 19 in December and so on.)

track wise - Masters track starts at 30 amd lasts as long as you want and are not sick or badly injured-

thanks for your response, im not a troll and I wasnt bashing retired people. I said I feel sorry for retired people, maybe they have money, but money cant buy youth. I didnt say I wasnt looking forward to college, just the fact that college appears to me at least, to be the last good days of my life (forgive the hyperbole, but you were a teen once so maybe youll understand)

Here is the deal... Not sure if this will make sense but I will try...

You will start to realize that each stage in life starts to agree with you.

Sure, you are nostalgic for the old days, but you enjoy what is going on now.

Something I really worried about when i was young was women. i thought it was going to SUCK once I was past 25, and the women got older. Well, i am married so it doesn't really matter, but you begin to realize that you develop a taste for older women, almost more so than younger. Girls in their early 20 are obviously still attractive, but the ones in their 30s just seem better looking, I don't know...

I just hope this keeps up as I age.

Enjoy while you got it. I am 45 now, but when I was in my early twenties I must have slept with every walking lady with a vagina. Latinas, orientals, blacks, white, you name it. As long as it had a vagina. Now i'm happily married to a wonderful lady, with no kids. I can't pick up girls anymore cause I just don't have it in me to hurt my girl, or do I have the looks. Have fun now, travel, see the country, if not the world. Love life, help people in hard times, doing this brings satisfaction.When you get older do not regret what you could have done. This why people get divorced time and time again. Always remember that in twenty years the way you perceive life will be different than it is now. Quit worrying about what people think. JUST do your thing!

XCMiler wrote:

okay so im 18 and 9 months getting ready to start college. After a truly nostalgic senior year im not ready to move on. Im excited to start college but scared that it signals the last good 4 years of my life. Im afraid of turning 19 in December not because its a bad age, but because its closer to 30 40 50 and so on. Im afraid of being in my late twenties up unil mid forties because of the 40 hour per week dead set routine without any fun that ive seen so many adults live. Im afraid to be older than that and look in the mirror and see my face get wrinkly and notice myself running slower... Ive seen old people pretend to have fun in their retirement, but who cant help but feel sorry for them in their pathetic state

1) College is a blast, and way easier in many ways than high school -- fewer courses at a time, no chores to do at home (assuming you go away to college), lots more fun. And I LOVED my high school years, but college was even better.

2) The thing about getting older and having a job is that now you have MONEY. Dude, I loved college life, but I wouldn't want to go back. I prefer being able to spend money on stuff when I want.

3) You WILL get older and slower. Find a way to deal with it. I suggest wine, women, and song (when you are old enough for the wine that is).

4) You can structure your working life any way you want. Want to just work part time? Then live a frugal lifestyle and do that. Want to be retired by 40? Then work like crazy for 17 years or so and invest half your income and retire at 40. As you get older, you will know more and more people who are retired and love it. My parents travel all the time and they love it; they can do anything they want at the drop of a hat. I know a guy who retired from his corporate job at 51 and has now been running marathons all over the world since then. Just because the majority of the mooks out there spend their days sitting in a cubicle, that doesn't mean you need to. PLAN the way you want your life to be and then MAKE IT HAPPEN BROTHER! Not sure why you feel retired people are in a pathetic state or are pretending to enjoy themselves. A lot of them have more money than ever due to investments and no more debt, and they can have a great bunch of fun. Even when you get really old, as long as you're healthy enough to fly, you can go fly to a beach and have the staff bring you drinks. I could get used to that.

it just seems that the only plus about getting older that you guys are giving me is the money. My dad is pretty wealthy, yet I know that he was less fun at his 200 dollar per person restaurant with his fake friends than I do going over to Chipotle with the pals and then hanging out in some parking lot smoking a bowl, or looking for mischief

XCMiler wrote:

it just seems that the only plus about getting older that you guys are giving me is the money. My dad is pretty wealthy, yet I know that he was less fun at his 200 dollar per person restaurant with his fake friends than I do going over to Chipotle with the pals and then hanging out in some parking lot smoking a bowl, or looking for mischief

You have absolutely no idea what will be in your life when in 10 years from now. It looks like you are not giving any room to let anything new and exciting enter your life. If you peak at 18 I feel bad for you already.

I couldn't wait to go to college when I was your age. High school was okay, but you have so much more freedom in college. I remember during the first week of my freshman year (before practice and classes started), I'd run in the middle of the night just because I didn't have my parents there to worry about me. Yeah, I know I was a rebel haha.

The good thing about college was that it helped me transition to the "real world." My parents were still there if I needed them, but I had the opportunity to be on my own schedule, take care of my own responsibilities, make some mistakes, etc.

I was also able to be myself and figure out what I actually wanted to do with my life. This part was scary (in a good way), but turned out for the better. When I look at people I went to high school with that didn't go to college, they are still stuck in high school. Living in the same town, married to each other, working at Wal-Mart or whatever because they comfortably settled.

I think most people who are unhappy are that way because they settle. They settle for what they are told by their parents, peers and society in general. You said yourself that you've "seen old people pretend to have fun in their retirement, but who can't help but feel sorry for them in their pathetic state." This is an assumption on your part. How many older people do you really know?

The thing with high school is that there are too many people telling you what to do. It's up to you to be happy. You will be fine. Pretty soon you won't even care that they didn't put you in the yearbook ;)

I am 39 and thought exactly like you when I was your age.

And you are right.

You have one shot at being that age so make the most of it and don't try to grow up too quickly. You have the rest your life to work and have responsibilities and the rest of your life is much longer than you have lived so far.

The two worst days of my life were high school graduation and college graduation. I knew I loved what I was doing at the time and I didn't know what the future held.

The most exciting days of my life were when I got married and when I had my kids. Because I now knew what the future held and had something to look forward to forever.