Post-nuptial shutoff?

The Next Huck Finn wrote:

Agreed. Divorce seems the way to go here. Plenty of women want to have sex. We're 9 years and it's 1-4 times a week. Outside of the 4-5 weeks before and after she gave birth I don't know if we have gone much longer than a week. Now don't get me wrong it's. Ot as hot as 9 years ago but she knows it's important.

If the wife doesn't get that, it's over.

Unfortunately....most don't get it.

All most chicks want is for you to bang their ass silly and get the hell out. I have followed that rule religiously for over 20yrs and it's never served me wrong.

Just took the end of the day to re-read some of these.

Don't know if I should be bummed that I am having to press more and more to get the one time a week shag or if I should be happy I am getting a regular weekend shag after 18 years of marriage....

Used to be able to get morning love or mid-week love. Now, have to hope I can get the wife in the sack before she falls asleep on Friday or Saturday.

Still, doesn't sound like it is as bad as most out there.

Buster McThunderstik wrote:

Just took the end of the day to re-read some of these.

Don't know if I should be bummed that I am having to press more and more to get the one time a week shag or if I should be happy I am getting a regular weekend shag after 18 years of marriage....

Used to be able to get morning love or mid-week love. Now, have to hope I can get the wife in the sack before she falls asleep on Friday or Saturday.

Still, doesn't sound like it is as bad as most out there.

Quality?

LongTimer wrote:

Married 25 years here...For the past 15 years, it's been once-a-month. (A great month is twice, a bad month is none) 'It' happens only on a Friday or Saturday night, never on a 'work' night, never when the sun is up, never when the lights are on, only in our bed, never two nights in a row and always after a bottle of wine. At least I know when the time is right! She's still a hotty, not fat, and a great @ss so she's not hiding her looks and I'm sure she's not getting it behind my back. It's just never been that big of deal for her

Honest to God truth....

Minus the wine this sounds familiar. What is so wrong with daylight?

Lol. This stuff can't be real. Why would someone you are married to not want to have sex? I would think marriage would increase sex because of the commitment and safety. You guys must be lying.

Will go several weeks without doing it. Been together for three years.

I'm bumping this thread to get updates and any new perspectives.

I'm old and single, and I sometimes have pangs of remorse about not marrying, but after reading this I think I avoided a whole host of other problems.

What do you married guys think: did you marry the wrong person or did you marry the right girl and she changed? Did you guys talk about marriage sex before you got married? Then did it change no matter the talk and agreement?

OK, inspired by this thread I have been keeping track.

Jan 1 2012 through May 20 2012 my wife and I have done it 337 times. It has slowed a bit from when we were in our twenties but it seems fine to me. So I don't think that all marriages result in zero sex.

All you single guys, don't be terrified of marriage. Just be terrified of marrying someone who you do not really know. Also be terrified of the repercussions of not truly loving your wife (which includes helping out A TON, listening A TON, and making her feel special CONSTANTLY).

Age: 51. Years married: 26.

337 times in 141 days! That's about 2-3 times/day, every day, and also assuming that you've been around each other every day this year.

That's incredibly impressive, and you are a fortunate man, or it's very hard to imagine.

^is this for real

any one else not believe it

Unreluctant Test Specimen wrote:

OK, inspired by this thread I have been keeping track.

Jan 1 2012 through May 20 2012 my wife and I have done it 337 times. It has slowed a bit from when we were in our twenties but it seems fine to me. So I don't think that all marriages result in zero sex.

All you single guys, don't be terrified of marriage. Just be terrified of marrying someone who you do not really know. Also be terrified of the repercussions of not truly loving your wife (which includes helping out A TON, listening A TON, and making her feel special CONSTANTLY).

Age: 51. Years married: 26.

Yeah right, d-bag.

City Slickers II wrote:

Bump for 20 weeks with no action!!!! WEEEEEE!!!! Thinking I can make it to summer with no action from the wife.

New Years Eve - no action!

Valentines Day - yeah right!

Last week - tried to, she just looked at me with blank stare, nothing!

Birthday is coming up in April - and you can bet I will be ignored! no action!

Anniversary in May - hey, we didn't do the nasty last year for our anniversary and WE WERE ON VACATION! Why should I expect anything wonderful on our 3rd anniversary!

NEVER GET MARRIED.

NEVER GET MARRIED.

NEVER GET MARRIED.

I'm responding to my own post...

About a month a half ago I asked for a divorce. I'm hoping things only get better from here.

I think we maybe had sex fifteen times in our near 3 years of marriage. It was terrible.

If I could pass along advice to those in thinking about getting married:

1. Make sure you've dated at least five years before taking the plunge. Apparently one and a half years wasn't enough - even though we spent all of our free time together.

2. Make sure your partner doesn't have control or jealously issues.

3. Make sure your partner isn't under three or more mood stabilization prescription meds

At my age, mid-30's, it's safe to say I never want to get married again. I truly admire those who are able to make it work. We couldn't.

Dude, this is silly - who cares if it true. I love my wife, I am horny as the next guy but I don't think I would want sex everyday two to three times a day. That would start to get boring if nothing else.

Unreluctant Test Specimen wrote:

OK, inspired by this thread I have been keeping track.

Jan 1 2012 through May 20 2012 my wife and I have done it 337 times. It has slowed a bit from when we were in our twenties but it seems fine to me. So I don't think that all marriages result in zero sex.

All you single guys, don't be terrified of marriage. Just be terrified of marrying someone who you do not really know. Also be terrified of the repercussions of not truly loving your wife (which includes helping out A TON, listening A TON, and making her feel special CONSTANTLY).

Age: 51. Years married: 26.

For me, I cut off the next day. We never had sex again. It seems that the whole thing was a con. After stealing all my money and possessions, I now pay her substantial child support every month. (She was pregnant when I married her.)

Oddity wrote:

I asked my wife if there is anything that she is lacking and the answer was "no". I talk with her, go on vacations, take care of our child, make good money, work out, clean, give her workout time and go out with friends time.

You obviously don't respect her. You "give her workout time and go out with friends time"? Is she a slave the rest of the time? Maybe if you respect her then she will want to have sex with you on occasion.

Epic wrote:

Unreluctant Test Specimen wrote:

OK, inspired by this thread I have been keeping track.

Jan 1 2012 through May 20 2012 my wife and I have done it 337 times. It has slowed a bit from when we were in our twenties but it seems fine to me. So I don't think that all marriages result in zero sex.

All you single guys, don't be terrified of marriage. Just be terrified of marrying someone who you do not really know. Also be terrified of the repercussions of not truly loving your wife (which includes helping out A TON, listening A TON, and making her feel special CONSTANTLY).

Age: 51. Years married: 26.

Yeah right, d-bag.

Wow, the morons on here who think that their life sucks and therefore everyone else' must also suck are so pathetic. Some marriages work. Don't hold your failure against other folks success.

In fact, your knee-jerk loser response sounds an awful lot like the folks who hate financially successful people. You know, the old "Hey I'm a loser making $27k per year therefore all those millionaires out there either don't exist or must have inherited/stolen their wealth."

My hat's off to the successful married folks, perhaps because I consider myself to be one of them. But I'd like to think (naively perhaps) that even if I were as big of a loser as you I would not hold that against those who are winners.

What's silly is that you felt threatened enough by that post to feel a need to respond and somehow try to negate it. If you would be bored by sex two or three times a day, that's fine. Why in the world would you feel the need to call someone "silly" who happened to (apparently) enjoy having sex two or three times a day?

Unreluctant Test Specimen wrote:

OK, inspired by this thread I have been keeping track.

Jan 1 2012 through May 20 2012 my wife and I have done it 337 times. It has slowed a bit from when we were in our twenties but it seems fine to me. So I don't think that all marriages result in zero sex.

All you single guys, don't be terrified of marriage. Just be terrified of marrying someone who you do not really know. Also be terrified of the repercussions of not truly loving your wife (which includes helping out A TON, listening A TON, and making her feel special CONSTANTLY).

Age: 51. Years married: 26.

Just out of curiosity, how do you find time to read message boards with all that sex?

Oh, and congrats on being married to a nympho.