A not close friend has terrible body odor every time l have seen him recently should I tell him

Should you tell him? You should definitely tell him.

How old are you? Much younger or older than him or about the same age?

If you just want to tell someone you see every so often that they stink, don't bother.

If you're willing to help him do something about it, start by getting to know him and his situation better. It might be that he's living in his car and doesn't have access to a shower.

coach ja wrote:

How old are you? Much younger or older than him or about the same age?

I am 48, but l feel strange about it. He might get offended or something.

Another Option wrote:

If you just want to tell someone you see every so often that they stink, don't bother.

If you're willing to help him do something about it, start by getting to know him and his situation better. It might be that he's living in his car and doesn't have access to a shower.

I know he had a condo in January in a decent area of town. He might get real mad or something. What should l say next time l see him," you seriously need to deal with you body oder if you want a job and wash your hair too"?????

Don't. You're not the first human being with the sense of smell.

obv smell him as hard as you can without breaking eye contact

bad body order wrote:

Another Option wrote:

If you just want to tell someone you see every so often that they stink, don't bother.

If you're willing to help him do something about it, start by getting to know him and his situation better. It might be that he's living in his car and doesn't have access to a shower.

I know he had a condo in January in a decent area of town. He might get real mad or something. What should l say next time l see him," you seriously need to deal with you body oder if you want a job and wash your hair too"?????

Wear a face mask and don't take it off when you see him inside.

Social Distance from him. Do 6 meters instead of 6 feet.

Lack of hygiene can be a sign of depression. It may be laziness but this is something to consider. You can mention it to him and he may thank you later after he showers and shaves.

The poor guy sounds depressed and in grief. How about asking him how he is doing/expressing concern for him and getting to know him FIRST, and then encouraging him to continue to take care of himself/being forward focused instead of just jumping in with negative feedback?

"May I say something? I know it is none of my business, I am noticing your poor body odor. If I can do anything to help, please talk to me."

Be prepared either for the silent treatment or an outburst.

If outburst, do not reply back or argue. Just say "I know" or " I just wanted to share" or something similar.

One time I ran out of deodorant, my boss told me, “you stink.”

I said really? I ran out of deodorant a few days ago.

I didn’t take it personally.

tell him unless he's a horse to lay off the dmso. you're welcome.

Unless you are willing to work with him to combat his BO problem, which sounds like just the tip of the iceberg of issues, then you probably don't want to become the victim of someone else's mental illness here. Some of our friends are deeply troubled, beyond any point where we personally have the skill to save them alone. Stepping into the firing line can be a huge negative for you. Can, not necessarily will. You must make your own determination/gamble.

Some people are afraid to be honest with another's odor problem, simply because it's not "polite" to point out such a fault. I used to work with a guy who never went to the dentist (fear and cheapness...he had the money) and probably didn't brush his teeth. He could sink a ship from 10 feet away with his breath.

Eventually, I realized that I was tired of playing the politeness game and enduring his rancid breath, so I decided to be frankly, but benevolently, honest with this guy. I knew I was not putting myself in harm's way. Whenever I smelled his bad breath, I told him that his breath stank, and that I wouldn't go out on a break with him (evening work schedule) unless he brushed his teeth. And, in his case, that he'd end up seeing more doctors and spending more money in the future, should he continue to avoid a health issue. He understood, but he was too afraid of dentists to really take care of the problem. (Amazingly, he had a wife and kids!)

THE POINT IS that I was safe, in this case, and I knew it, and even if others played the politeness game and continued being his victims, I was no longer willing. So I acted, with kindness, but honesty. There was a small selfish element, sure, but I was tired of hearing others talk about his damn breath all the time. And, in the long run, the man's health was probably at risk because of mouth disease, so I was actually trying to get him to change for better personal health. After all, he was a family man (believe it or not!).

In your case, if there is ANY potential for you to become the victim of physical abuse, don't even consider trying to save the person. It's similar to non-family member with alcoholism, a smoking or overeating problem, a gambling addiction, etc.

Do you owe him money? Yes? DON'T tell.

Does he owe you money? Yes? DON'T tell.

Hope that helps.