expensive boat to be in wrote:
Yes I'll celebrate 40 years of ridiculous spending soon. She generally avoids high ticket items but that's almost worse. So much junk - and with the kids grown we're in downsizing mode. This should be interesting....
Thank you and congratulations on 40 years. That’s exactly what it is, cheap stuff. The annoying stuff isn’t the money being spent, it’s things we don’t need taking up space in the house.
Got any marriage advice? We’re approaching a decade together.
Your wife is a hoarder. Move to a bigger house.
That's most unusual wrote:
Your wife is a hoarder. Move to a bigger house.
Nope, just a whore. Those nice clothes and makeup she buys? They're to impress me.
You have 3 options:
1) Accept that your wife is a spending addict who will bury the house in garbage and that there's nothing you can do about it. She will not decrease her spending.
2) Get a divorce
3) Give her an allowance. Cut her off from your work money and take away her credit cards. Give her a prepaid visa card she can use every month. This option will lead to divorce, but at least you tried.
esess wrote:
Lots of guys. You are not alone my friend. I’d say at least a third and more likely half of women in US have this affliction. Hopefully you realized this before marrying and there are positives in the relationship that outweigh this negative.
Thrift is despised and ridiculed in this country when it should be admired.
American motto "there's no shame in bankruptcy".
It starts with your Govt. Talk about setting a poor example.
She ended up w you as a booby prize in life so I guess she deserves something for the aggravation
Yes, it's retail therapy its awful. It's what she does with her free time. It's just shopping for shopping sake. Frustrating.
Welcome to marriage.
Headacher wrote:
expensive boat to be in wrote:
Yes I'll celebrate 40 years of ridiculous spending soon. She generally avoids high ticket items but that's almost worse. So much junk - and with the kids grown we're in downsizing mode. This should be interesting....
Thank you and congratulations on 40 years. That’s exactly what it is, cheap stuff. The annoying stuff isn’t the money being spent, it’s things we don’t need taking up space in the house.
Got any marriage advice? We’re approaching a decade together.
The only advice I can offer is to roll with the ups and downs. Neither are permanent. We've had many! I know that some people can't see past any present difficulties.
As far as the spending - I just figure there's probably something about me that bothers her just as much (although I can't imagine what). Sometimes I mention that there's a little less in the retirement fund than there could have been.
expensive boat to be in wrote:
The only advice I can offer is to roll with the ups and downs. Neither are permanent. We've had many! I know that some people can't see past any present difficulties.
Aww. Cliches. Cliches always help. Not!
The irony of it all would be if the OP is the owner of every color style released in the 4% / 4% FK / Next%
You are going to end up with an overflowing house of crap and be wondering where all the money went
Buy a bunch of useless stuff yourself and enthusiastically tell her much money you saved. For example, but a pool strainer, a hamster cage, and a boat trailer, and tell her you saved a ton of money. When she points out that you don't have a pool, hamster, or boat, just say "I know, but we'll need all this stuff when we get those things with the money we're saving!" This will make her more conscientious of the things she buys, or start an argument that ends in an agreement that you'll get each others permission to buy things above a certain dollar amount.
Sounds like she has too much time on her hands. Time to give her some babies. Failing that some new boobies. You would then at least get some benefit.
My wife mostly wastes money on food. She likes cooking to an extent but mostly baking and half the time she bakes stuff for her friends/coworkers etc... She'll buy high price ingredients for all of it too. The rest of the time its eating out. We've had this argument for years, whenever we talk about money and how we should cut our spending she doesnt seem to understand how much is actually being spent on food. Generally we are spending close to the same on food as our mortgage its ridiculous.
Headacher wrote:
She spends money on useless things. Who else is in the same boat?
You bought a boat and you're bitchin' about her spending?
eating out a ton wrote:
My wife mostly wastes money on food. She likes cooking to an extent but mostly baking and half the time she bakes stuff for her friends/coworkers etc... She'll buy high price ingredients for all of it too. The rest of the time its eating out. We've had this argument for years, whenever we talk about money and how we should cut our spending she doesnt seem to understand how much is actually being spent on food. Generally we are spending close to the same on food as our mortgage its ridiculous.
Use the same credit card for all food purchases, and nothing but food purchases. That will automatically provide a monthly statement of all the money spent on food and where.
My wife mentioned to me the other day that I dont appreciate her frugal nature and her acumen with personal finance. We have no debt, college for kids paid for, very nice house, etc. Not being stupid, I told her I was in error for not being sufficiently appreciative, and meant it. Many of her friends shop constantly, and spend every last dollar. At the same time, she is the child of two Holocaust survivors, so I think the savings instinct in her comes a bit more easily than with most.
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I mean...My husband has a problem with buying way too much stuff. Too expensive car, all the expensive outdoor equipment not used for every sport imaginable, eating out for lunch every day. I doubt this is specifically a woman problem.
esess wrote:
Lots of guys. You are not alone my friend. I’d say at least a third and more likely half of women in US have this affliction. Hopefully you realized this before marrying and there are positives in the relationship that outweigh this negative.