New coach has me confused and no visit

You would know if he were interested.

It's probably due to your demeanor and lack of self confidence. Replace coach with "girl" in your post and it's probably been your life since you were 11.

Just call him and say yo, yo, yo. Where's my skolly, yo?

New coach has me conFused wrote:

I'm a hs senior boy and my top choice has a new coach this year. I've run faster than anyone on their current roster when they were a hs senior, on the same courses. My grades and test scores are plenty good to get me in. The school is only 2 hours from my house. I don't get it though. I've been texting/talking with the coach and I've mentioned that they're my top choice.

Should I just come right out and ask something like "are you not interested in me?"

a new coach might have big ideas of what he thinks the program can be. He might be aggressively trying to get kids who are at a higher level than you. As they all start choosing different places over the next few months, coach may become more aggressive in courting you. Or maybe he just assumes you are going to be there and that's that.

What is your communication like with him? What does he ask, what does he say? Who initiates? Does everything seem good except that he has not asked you come for an overnight?

They may not be graduating any or only a few and need to get to a smaller number.

It seems to be going well except for no offer to visit. He has asked that I send him my results after every meet. He knows their school is my first choice and I know my times fit in well. It's not a reach school for me running or education wise. I'm going to an official to a conference rival in two weeks where I know I'll be getting decent academic money and plus whatever the athletic looks like but the other school was a distant second. I don't want to go where I'm not wanted so now I'm really confused.

as the prior poster pointed out, it's a numbers game. If they only have a couple spots open, they are going to be skittish about making offers, until they know one way or another what their very top recruits are going to do.

I had a kid a couple years ago get the same treatment you are getting. In fact his top choice would go in and out of communication for weeks at a time. He ended up committing to another school, but then his top choice called him back in May and suddenly had a spot for him. Clearly, a higher priority recruit had backed out. It was his top choice for educational reasons, so he went with them even though they did not treat him well throughout the process.

you can't look at it as them not wanting you. They are still communicating with you, and that's nice. But they are probably hoping for a few higher level kids. It's an objective choice on their part. They are looking for the most speed possible. Don't take it personally. Only time will tell if it is a good fit on both ends.

Thanks for the input. I appreciate it.

New coach has me conFused wrote:

The school is only 2 hours from my house.

Go visit the school on your dime with a parent, take the normal perspective student tour, then stop by the coaches office or stop by to say hello after practice afterwards. Is there a teacher workday in October (Columbus Day?)some time?

My daughter did that. She emailed the Monday before, the Thursday before then texted the coach at the start of the tour, (finally) and he and the assistant asked to have lunch with us.

If you take an unofficial visit, they know you have some level of seriousness. I bet they get the, "You're my #1 school" all the time.

New coach has me conFused wrote:

I'm a hs senior boy and my top choice has a new coach this year. I've run faster than anyone on their current roster when they were a hs senior, on the same courses. My grades and test scores are plenty good to get me in. The school is only 2 hours from my house. I don't get it though. I've been texting/talking with the coach and I've mentioned that they're my top choice.

Should I just come right out and ask something like "are you not interested in me?"

They are not interested.

But that's not fair.

You're confused. So get unconfused by having adult conversations with the coach that has the answers, not some whiny message board post to people who can only guess.

You do know that he currently has a team that he is coaching and that takes time, right?

He's coaching and dealing with his program. XC is great but you'll get your scholarship from your track times.

Show up at a practice and blow by his current runners dressed up like pokemon. Look, if he ain't interested then he ain't interested.

Scholarship? This kid can't even get the coach to respond. He just wants a spot.

Scholar Expert wrote:

Scholarship? This kid can't even get the coach to respond. He just wants a spot.

Just identify as a woman. Money and records will fall from the sky.

Write him one final letter expressing your interest in the program and desire for sponsorship. Indicate you would kindly appreciate a reply to your message. Then, as a parting statement, close with the following: You snooze you loose.

Just be direct and say you would like to visit and meet with them