Experience with Being Cheated On

Since you don't have kids, you need to get out while you can. You will NEVER trust her again. Every trip she takes you will be wondering.

I have a similar story, take what you will from it.

Got married in 1993, and in 1998 my wife was going dancing with a friend once a week. She'd come home all riled up and it was working for me. Well one night she didn't come up riled up. I was a bit let down, but we're talking 1am or something, and I was tired, so didn't pursue it.

Eventually it comes out that she had gotten drunk and slept with the brother of her friend. It was somewhat shocking as I too didn't think she'd do something like that (she was a bit of a prude).

We did have a kid though, so we talked about why it happened and things like that, and I accepted her apology. She promised to never go out with her friend again (no contact), and I would promise to never bring it up again.

Well that worked, and we went on for another 14 years of marriage, before divorcing in 2012 for completely unrelated reasons.

The one night stand was never an issue for us after discussed, forgave, and moved on.

Pics?

It's over. Time to move on.

She told you. She told you immediately. That's worth something if you want to remain in the relationship.

True love is hard to find. Sometimes you think you have true love and then you catch the early flight home from San Diego and a couple of nude people jump out of your bathroom blindfolded like a goddamn magic show, ready to double-team your girlfriend.

my friend cheated on her two year boyfriend and told him immediately. They broke up and I slept with her.

She then stopped seeing me and is dating somebody else. Such is life.

Mitch M wrote:

She told you. She told you immediately. That's worth something if you want to remain in the relationship.

True love is hard to find. Sometimes you think you have true love and then you catch the early flight home from San Diego and a couple of nude people jump out of your bathroom blindfolded like a goddamn magic show, ready to double-team your girlfriend.

She tells you immediately that means she wants to make you angry. Go go go.

Kick her the f out. People who cheat will do it again - whether relationships or PEDs.

If you think she's clean you can consider taping her one more time for old time sake first. Otherwise take her on a long drive and let her out of the car and drive away.

She didn't tell you for you, she told you for her, because she thought that telling you would cure her guilt, when you eventually forgive her like a cvck.

When she does things, she does them for her. Like when she banged her college friend the other day.

If you forgive her it will just eat away at you, and eat away at your nervous system. You'll want to forgive her, but it will always resurface, your resentment of her, and your sense of being emasculated.

And don't think that she'll respect you for forgiving her. Quite the opposite.

I think you will get good results moving on. You still have to put it behind you , but at least you can.

"All lies in jest, 'til a man hears what he wants to hear and disregards the rest"

https://youtu.be/sstgcbGsew0?t=50

run away wrote:

Since you don't have kids, you need to get out while you can. You will NEVER trust her again. Every trip she takes you will be wondering.

this.

if you can live with the constant nagging doubt in back of your brain then stick with it...I couldn't.

also, the I got drunk and made a silly mistake thing indicates a serious character flaw. I mean, whats to stop it happening again?

if she had developed an emotional relationship with someone over a period of time but then realised she loved you more it would be understandable. but if she can't even control herself for one single random night then i wouldn't be entrusting this person with my happiness.

run away wrote:

Since you don't have kids, you need to get out while you can. You will NEVER trust her again. Every trip she takes you will be wondering.

This is the correct response. She made a mistake but you will never fully trust her. Time to move on and find someone who shares your ideas of being faithful. Do not have a kid with this woman.

Homes, she banged him while drunk. More primary than your trust in her is this:

How can you be sure 1) they used protection and 2) he (and now she) isn't infected with sexually transmitted disease?

Order her to get tested for STDs. Don't so much as touch her until the results come back.

2 BBCs + Stranded Teen wrote:

Homes, she banged him while drunk. More primary than your trust in her is this:

How can you be sure 1) they used protection and 2) he (and now she) isn't infected with sexually transmitted disease?

Order her to get tested for STDs. Don't so much as touch her until the results come back.

A pregnancy test might be wise too.

Once a cheater always a cheater. Infidelity is never forgivable if you have standards and an ounce of self-respect.

your ages are less concerning. that said, break up. if you are here posting about it you probably have your mind made up.

She is almost certainly an alpha widow, which drastically increases the chances of an unsatisfying relationship and future relationship failure.

No kids? Slip out the back, Jack.

Unless you are tied. Get out.

How would you like to have kids and then she does it again? Or, you started hating on each other at some time and blurt it out in front of your daughter that the mom always was undependable, but you married her anyway.