I live way beneath my means, and women judge me HARD for it.

Nuns live like that.

When you're 55 you'll be an attractive catch for divorced mothers of three. Until then keep living humbly.

Yet another thread where an incel is smelling his own financial farts.

Humbler wrote:

Are there any women who understand the concept of living humbly?

No, not in the USA at least. American women are programmed and trained, from birth, to be materialistic spending addicts.

Unicorns wrote:

Humbler wrote:

Are there any women who understand the concept of living humbly?

No, not in the USA at least. American women are programmed and trained, from birth, to be materialistic spending addicts.

+1

Go to Asia. Asian women love frugal men.

OP, are you in a position to financially weather the upcoming nasty global recession?

Take a closer look at yourself. You say you live "way" beneath your means. Maybe you're just cheap. There's a way to live between extravagance and cheapness. I have a friend who used to go to place that served day-old coffee just to save a dime. He was a slave to money. Like the Buddhists say, "Moderation in all things."

hart crane wrote:

Yet another thread where an incel is smelling his own financial farts.

I see you've got the shaming language down pat, see you at the next Elizabeth Warren rally. He just got out of a long term relationship so assuming he's celibate that makes him a volcel.

old guy 73 wrote:

Take a closer look at yourself. You say you live "way" beneath your means. Maybe you're just cheap. There's a way to live between extravagance and cheapness. I have a friend who used to go to place that served day-old coffee just to save a dime. He was a slave to money. Like the Buddhists say, "Moderation in all things."

This is definitely possible. I know a few people who are just relentlessly frugal. Most of them are nice enough people, but I'd hate to be in a position to actually be a part of their spending decisions or be impacted by the outcomes of said decisions. A lot of people who consider themselves to be "smart with money" are actually so obsessed with money that it takes over everything.

Another possibility is that the OP has some other glaring personality issue and he just incorrectly blames his frugality for his lack of relationship success.

I think OP is right.

Most women live beyond their means because they were never taught financial responsibility as indulged daddys girls... someone always bailed them out and shielded them from the real consequences of overspend.... now, either they have pwhipped manchildren to bail them out all the time or they use seeking or other p2p sites to rip off lonely dudes like LR leaders or they simply leech off males in socalled "partnership."

I once met a hot chick who was into me but on learning more about my lifestyle - which was like OP simple and did not represent 100percent disposable spend - she called me "cheap." This commentary was supposed to goad me into defending my manly standing by showing her I had money and would spend it.. on her of course lol... This was really ironic because she was about to go down into BK with her uncontrollable spending habits.... luckily I found out, then she expected me to bail her, I said no way Jose-a and walked.

I don't deal with women who overspend and expect/use guys to bail them out. Nightmare for everyone.

Keep living humbly. Eventually you will meet a woman with sense that understands the concept of delayed gratification. At least that is what happened to me.

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Thank you.

“d because the woman felt like I "cheated" her in some way by having money that I wasn't spending on her. ”

Sounds like a complete psycho.

If we believe everything you say about the women you’ve been dating to be true, it sounds like you’re a really poor judge of character and are going for the wrong women. Try dating a strong, independent woman with a career. You’ll find how much a guy spends on them to be very low on their list of priorities because they can take care of themselves. They’ll actually find the fact that you’re responsible with your money to be a plus. What they won’t find attractive is your misognystic generalization that women want to bleed men dry. My opinion is grounded in dating women (and marrying one) that fit the profile above.

You are very smart for doing this. Albert Einstein said that compounding interest is one of the wonders of the world. The problem that I have learned through personal experience and from watching what my friends have gone through is that most American women are spoiled brats and are materialistic. They care more about how nice their car is or your car than they do about saving for the future. They want nicer clothes, house, shoes, car, furniture, deck, swimming pool, apartment, condo, hand bag, it goes on forever. Their stuff and your stuff have to be better than their friends' or neighbors' stuff. When you meet a girl someplace, you basically have to give them your resume before they decide if it's worth their time to talk to you. I could go on, but that is the base root of it.

every time I read one of these threads, I end up thinking the same thing...... Thank god I don't live in the USA

down south wrote:

When you're 55 you'll be an attractive catch for divorced mothers of three. Until then keep living humbly.

Exactly!

And since there's a 30% chance you won't live out your 60s (US actuarial statistics ) and better than even odds you don't make it out of 70s, you won't live long enough to waste that hard earned cash so she and her brood can enjoy more of it.

A dog will always love you and never judge you based on your spending habits....

My Chinese gf hates it when I spend too much money, she’s got more savings then me hahaha