Has to be asked wrote:
Pics of wife and friends? Any tales of college “experimentation”?
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Has to be asked wrote:
Pics of wife and friends? Any tales of college “experimentation”?
+1
The day will come when you are old, and the grandkids are over, and trash your house, and this will make you happy. Just saying.
Myself, I don't care WHAT happens as long as it's not the same exact thing as the day before. Take that as you will.
DeBron Lames wrote:
However, if you had 2-3 BROS over for the weekend, sat around drinking, leave pizza boxes all over, whatever, she'll flip out.
Rightly so, and get a divorce, because no intelligent woman would be married to someone who did that.
Frustrated Husband wrote:
As the title says my wife has two college friends visiting us and I can't wait for them to leave. They both brought their kids and a van busting at the seams with toys and other crap. They have been completely inconsiderate and have taken over the house.
One of them had the nerve to invite their aunt and uncle over to our house without asking us.
The evening they got here I saw one chopping fruit on our granite counter without a cutting board so I asked her to use a cutting board. I have not seen anyone use or clean a cutting board since then but I have seen their kids eat plenty of fruit slices.
I work from home and have had to deal with their kids yelling and playing in the living room all morning. It's gorgeous day outside and we have a park with a playground only 2 blocks from our house. Take them there so I can focus on my job. They are also visiting a new city so I don't understand why they are staying in the house all day and not doing stuff.
They stay up watching tv and chatting until past 11 o'clock. Again I am still working and would like to get some sleep.
Both of them complain about their husbands wanting them to spend less money and go back to work. One of them is definitely headed for a divorce in the future.
If they weren't leaving tomorrow morning I would lose it. As it is now I'll be having a conversation with my wife in the days after they leave. End anonymous rant. I'm posting this under the injury category since it is mental health related.
Forget all this. I'll bet the women have traveler's diarrhea every night. Plus, those kids are probably wiping their behinds with your clean towels and your toothbrush. Sucker!
8.5/10 :Very Solid
just enough detail with the cutting board tantrum to let us know it is a troll, but subtle enough to not give the game away.
I suggest just waiting till the last day and then just exploding at them when they are packing up the kids into the car.
Throw the cutting board at the window of their mini-van while shouting:
"42 slices! That's how many......FORTY-TWO! " Point at your bulging eyes to make your point. "I counted....I SAW every last ONE! Forty- FKING-TWO Slices! Incredible!! what is WRONG with you people."
Dear god,
I’m surprised at the lack of sympathy people have for you.
I was in the same boat except the role was reversed. My sibling came to visit with his wife and kids and proceeded to destroy our phouse within hours.
At the time my spouse was studying for her board exams so she needed time to study and the family could care less. We both made a pact after that to NEVER have kids as we like a tidy environment and we would never go to someone’s house and rip it to shreds. And I agree with you about going to a new city. The damn kids should go to the park or outside to do something. Probably watching tv and video games. Lazy little turds. And tell your wife to get a job and then you will stay at home all day and invite your college buddies over. Let her pick up after them. Lazy housewives. Get a job.
And what’s with wives that don’t work bitching that their husbands think they spend too much money?
We slave away all day and think “wow, I had to work an extra 2 hours in a miserable work environment so you could go out and blow $100 on some useless crap item you already have 10 of”..dumb women.
I feel your pain but this is one of the moments you should probably play it cool and be the bigger person. Let the kids have fun and get to know each other. Maybe the other families arent as fortunate as you.
Be a good guy about and try to think of the bigger picture. Smile. Laugh. If you behave well the wife will be happy and that is all that matter some times.
Flagpole wrote:
Wow, brother...this hasn't gone as you had hoped, eh?
Should tell you how wrong you are.
OP, consider the source. Now that this guy chimed in, I'm with you.
I would never let my wife’s friends or my friends for that matter stay with us. Two friends with kids? Never. I don’t like feeling like a guest in my own house. I also would never stay with anyone. I would rather be in a hotel than be a guess in someone’s house. I know people that rent vacation homes with friends or siblings and that seems crazy to me.
If this was a frequent scenario, or the visit lasted more than a few days, then I would have some sympathy and side with the OP. But it sounds like you've just been a little inconvenienced and annoyed for a few days so your wife can spend some time with old friends. Get over yourself. You'll feel better.
Ride The Pony wrote:
You sound like a grouchy old woman. "They cut an apple on my nice countertop!"
This is the one part that really resonated with me! (Grouchy old-ish man on this end.) I have expensive knives that I sharpen myself on water stones. Cutting on a granite countertop won't scratch the granite -- but it will absolutely destroy the knife edge. Almost nothing grinds my gears more than when a guest looks around, grabs whatever knife they find, and starts cutting something. Almost never the appropriate knife for the task; almost always cutting stuff raw on a counter or just as bad, on a plate; and it just seems rude to me if you're in someone else's home and you presume that you can touch anything at all without asking about where and what you should use.
I think youre well within your rights to be pissed at the multiple times they were inconsiderate. I have sympathy for how you’re feeling. I do agree with the rest of the posters that the best course of action afterwards is not to complain about it. Communicate with your wife on what you thought about things, but dont make it confrontational. This way you can hopefully plan together for the next time people are coming over and you’ll have a better outcome
Frankly, you've been lucky that you haven't had to take care of the kids while they get to talk, because that's what usually happens when their friends come by. They should go out to playgrounds and to do things, so make a schedule, find good things for them to do, and help them get ready. As for work, forget about it and go elsewhere. That's not worth the aggravation of trying to concentrate when kids are playing in the house. As for the granite countertop, what is the point of it if you can't just chop things on the counter? Women'll vent when they get together and it's dangerous because they'll convince each other they all have it really bad, because there will be no contrary voices, but anyway, be polite and work elsewhere.
It all sounds like fun to me. I'm old (58) and so much miss those days of young kids around the house.
bang them wrote:
Bang them both. That will teach your wife.
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I think that was an episode of Two and a Half Men.
One word chump: hotel.
Deebo wrote:
One word chump: hotel.
Amen.
When people want to visit me, and are angling for a night at the "ranch", I offer up affordable hotels that have a pool for the kiddies. And privacy for the adults! I don't pay for it, but I value my privacy, and usually the other people do to.
I learned this after watching a relative deal with too many relatives coming to visit her - she lived near some good vacation attractions. She should've been charging for the number of visits she was getting.
Engage in sexual conversations, casually over coffee... "Hey, we've been thinking about hall passes, need some fun...you ladies must be bored and horny too and I know having kids is stressful... kids are on their mobiles upstairs, they're not coming down for hours so spread for me in turn I'll get b@llsdeep and we will all have a great time!"
RandyMullis wrote:
It all sounds like fun to me. I'm old (58) and so much miss those days of young kids around the house.
This was my take as well except I'm around your age and still have 4 young to middle teens in the house. A valuable life lesson I learned whilst travelling overseas and playing the role as guests in many strange people's homes was that "guests are a gift from God."
I love having guests and we do it all the time. If you've got material possessions that you value more than human interaction then it might be time to start reevaluating your life.
Disclaimer: The OP is most definitely a troll.
Jefe in the CO wrote:
RandyMullis wrote:
It all sounds like fun to me. I'm old (58) and so much miss those days of young kids around the house.
This was my take as well except I'm around your age and still have 4 young to middle teens in the house. A valuable life lesson I learned whilst travelling overseas and playing the role as guests in many strange people's homes was that "guests are a gift from God."
I love having guests and we do it all the time. If you've got material possessions that you value more than human interaction then it might be time to start reevaluating your life.
Disclaimer: The OP is most definitely a troll.
That is your opinion. Troll or not, some people do not like to entertain and that is perfectly fine. Some people do, and good for them. Personally, I value my home that I paid good hard-earned money for and if I had people using knives on my granite counter tops, filthy kids stomping around like trolls on my hardwood floors and people generally being idiots all day, I'd be pissed too. There's a level of decency that should be met when visiting people. Regardless of whether the OP made this all up or not, this happens everywhere, everyday. Human interaction is great, to a point. And its obviously much different if grandkids are visiting grandparents or other RELATIVES, versus some idiotic low IQ college friends with their dumb kids, stupid toys and lame A@# mini-van. I'd be pissed just to have a mini van in my driveway.