Would you rat out a cheating friend?

nosnitch wrote:

OP here. I almost see it more as ratting out the cheating wife more than ratting out my friend. My friend is single. And from his perspective, which I somewhat agree with, if she hadn't cheated with him she would have with someone else.

Most people seem to be saying keep my mouth shut. What happened to do onto others as you would have done to you? I would really want to know if I was being cheated on.

I'm intrigued by the anonymous idea. But I don't want my friend to get shot or something. What I really want is for my other friend to know his wife is cheating, but not know who it was with.

Are you f'ing kidding me? What ever happened to mind your own f'ing business?

What do you f'ing know? Maybe the husband already knows. Maybe he tolerates it. Maybe it's ok with him as long as he thinks that others don't know. Maybe you opening your little drama queen fat mouth will make a tolerable situation into an intolerable situation and destroy his marriage. Then won't you feel like such a great do-gooder.

Repeat after me: You have no f'ing idea what the overall picture is. You have absolutely no right to be interfering in other people's business. There are two people whose business the affair definitely is - the wife and the one she is having an affair with. Neither of these people are you.

God, I hate little bitches like you who think that their higher calling in life is to mind other people's business.

No, I would not. But I would tell my friend that it was wrong and cut ties if it continued. I would say I can't be complicit with it.

Quite the dilemma, but it's probably best to keep your mouth shut. If you say something, chances are that everybody ends up hating you. If you stay quiet, and the husband finds out(probably already knows something is up), he may be upset with you but will obviously have bigger issues to address.

Why are you so sensitive?

the real question here wrote:

Why are you so sensitive?

I had thought to ask same question, after I read. Maybe he is the best friend of OP, or she is the wife. Right ? Confession pls.

nosnitch wrote:

Lol, won't be doing that, but she is very attractive. I think she has some kind of complex though because she is always trying to show off her body. I don't think I've ever seen her in loose fitting clothes.

Would you mind to share it from mail ? Trust me, I have respect to privacy. I just wonder. Anyway,if you wanna talk about theese feel free to mail me. martinjorgensen at yandex dot com

We also can discuss about what you would do next.

if it's a brand new marriage and there are no kids involved, then maybe. otherwise gotta keep quiet.

Most cheaters eventually get caught. If it was your good friend I would tell him, but since it's your good friend doing it, I would just let Karma do its job. Its not your problem and you may get egg on your face for getting involved.

I had something similar happen to me and I ended up telling my buddy his wife was cheating on him. He had a kid that turned out to not really be his and it totally F'ed his life up. We are still good friends and he has thanked me many times for telling him, but I still question my decision because he was definitely happier before he found out. I guess sometimes ignorance is bliss.

nosnitch wrote:

. What happened to do onto others as you would have done to you?.

People stopped believing religious BS.

Atheists Handbook wrote:

nosnitch wrote:

. What happened to do onto others as you would have done to you?.

People stopped believing religious BS.

I'm pretty solidly atheist but give me a break, the golden rule is a great way to live one's life. The gospels are full of wisdom, even if the divinity part is nonsense.

nosnitch wrote:

Last night I found out a good friend of mine was sleeping with another friend's wife. My good friend is single and he is not friends with my other friend, but they do know each other. My loyalty is to my good friend, but I think what he is doing is wrong. I told him that and said I thought he should stop. He said okay. Even if he does stop he already slept with her. I know if I was married I would want to know if my wife was banging some other dude. I'm so torn!

Of course you rat out his wife.

Who needs a friend like you if you ignore this?

So if someone is complacent when they witness or know of abuse or rape, they are in the wrong too. Cheating is spousal abuse and should be reported. Sure it happens often but it is abusive behavior. Back in the day cheating when married resulted in the death penalty (adultery). If You want the perks of marriage and a relationship then don't cheat or else stay single OR get in an open relationship that's mutually agreed upon. Just because it's common doesn't make it right. It is downright egregious. I'm also willfully choosing to create my own grammar laws, so ignore my ignorance of the English grammatical agenda.

Atheists Handbook wrote:

nosnitch wrote:

. What happened to do onto others as you would have done to you?.

People stopped believing religious BS.

Until they realize they are about to die....

Hypocrite!

tell your buddy that his wife cheated on him. If she slept with your good friend she's probably getting a lot of other strange sausage. Get him out of that marriage

Stop thinking about other people and morals. Think about yourself. You want to be friends with both of them and you want your lesser friend to know is wife is a whore. So do like others have suggested and send an anonymous message. Bonus is you get the entertainment value of watching the drama unfold. Keep winning.

mjorgensen wrote:

Would you mind to share it from mail ? Trust me, I have respect to privacy. I just wonder. Anyway,if you wanna talk about theese feel free to mail me. martinjorgensen at yandex dot com

We also can discuss about what you would do next.

Ok. I sent. Don’t anyone ask same pls. Just mail that guy.

There is a real risk that if you do it anonymously your friend will suspect you and may question you.

Make a decision on which person/friend you support and pick a side.