Last night I found out a good friend of mine was sleeping with another friend's wife. My good friend is single and he is not friends with my other friend, but they do know each other. My loyalty is to my good friend, but I think what he is doing is wrong. I told him that and said I thought he should stop. He said okay. Even if he does stop he already slept with her. I know if I was married I would want to know if my wife was banging some other dude. I'm so torn!
Would you rat out a cheating friend?
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Don’t. Don’t involve yourself in another person’s affairs. You can use all that effort and stress to run it out instead!
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and everyone else a favor and STFU. Bury it. You know nothing.
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Snitches get stitches
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Snitches get stiches
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They say who you keep as company reflects your values. So you condone his cheating by doing nothing. You're as big a scumbag as him. You will suffer a similar fate by his hands someday.
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Yeah, I'm with the others. Keep your mouth shut. You may not realize it, but this happens ALL the time. Half the women in running club are cheating. It's a freaking cesspool, but I just shut up and run.
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That's an old dilemma that must have been around for thousands of years! In some states in the US it's a civil wrong that can lead to a lawsuit.
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nosnitch wrote:
Last night I found out a good friend of mine was sleeping with another friend's wife. My good friend is single and he is not friends with my other friend, but they do know each other. My loyalty is to my good friend, but I think what he is doing is wrong. I told him that and said I thought he should stop. He said okay. Even if he does stop he already slept with her. I know if I was married I would want to know if my wife was banging some other dude. I'm so torn!
I’d advise going Switzerland on it. Why get yourself tangled in a situation in which you are likely to suffer detriment just for doing something good? If it’s the principle of the matter then just cut those friends out of your life. No need to clock in hours unpaid with occupational safety risks.
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OP, this is a tough one. I have a question to everyone telling him to stay quiet. What if it was a little different. What if he found out if a guy he was kind of friends with was sleeping with his best friends wife?
If he doesn't tell and then the BF finds out he knew, he may lose his best friend because of it.
br43 wrote:
Yeah, I'm with the others. Keep your mouth shut. You may not realize it, but this happens ALL the time. Half the women in running club are cheating. It's a freaking cesspool, but I just shut up and run.
Oh do tell more.
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br43 wrote:
Yeah, I'm with the others. Keep your mouth shut. You may not realize it, but this happens ALL the time. Half the women in running club are cheating. It's a freaking cesspool, but I just shut up and run.
Too funny. My club is the same way and it's way more women cheating. All these 35+ narcissistic women who think they are better than their husbands because they are in better shape. It's crazy. Hopefully the husbands are getting some side action too. -
sucks being you
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my club too wrote:
br43 wrote:
Yeah, I'm with the others. Keep your mouth shut. You may not realize it, but this happens ALL the time. Half the women in running club are cheating. It's a freaking cesspool, but I just shut up and run.
Too funny. My club is the same way and it's way more women cheating. All these 35+ narcissistic women who think they are better than their husbands because they are in better shape. It's crazy. Hopefully the husbands are getting some side action too.
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nosnitch wrote:
Last night I found out a good friend of mine was sleeping with another friend's wife. My good friend is single and he is not friends with my other friend, but they do know each other. My loyalty is to my good friend, but I think what he is doing is wrong. I told him that and said I thought he should stop. He said okay. Even if he does stop he already slept with her. I know if I was married I would want to know if my wife was banging some other dude. I'm so torn!
Is this one of those posts where you refer to said person as "My friend" when it's actually YOU?
Here is how that same post would read:
Last night I slept with a friend's wife. I am single. I think what I did was wrong. I think I should stop. Even if I do stop, I already slept with her. I know if I was married I would want to know if my wife was banging some other dude. I'm so torn! -
My problem with cheaters and those who sleep with cheaters is that once you find out you realize that so much of their public life is a sham. It also makes it difficult for you to trust what you know about them; it's likely that you only know what they want you to know about them. How well can you really trust your good friend once you find out you didn't know so much about him? Maybe he wasn't as good of a friend as you thought he was.
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So your friends wife is loose? Go hook up with her.
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don't say anything
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End the friendship with the guy who is cheating and tell him you are going to tell the guy then tell the guy being cheated on about it. Before doing this stuff get a concealed weapons permit and learn how to shoot to kill. Start wearing a body cam then when this e friend goes off on ya and you drill him you can post it on youtube and go viral.
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mind your own business -
surprised nobody has sent this, but why not send an anonymous email/fb message? that way you can (imo) do the right thing, and publicly plead ignorance so no one knows it's you.
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I would not rat him out. But the next time you see your other friend's wife you should launch into a happy rant about how great it is that they seem like a stable, loyal couple at a time when so many marriages end in infidelity and betrayal. Tell her that her marriage to your friend gives you hope that you can also find a great woman to stand by your side through thick and thin.
