Would you rat out a cheating friend?

the only smart person here wrote:

surprised nobody has sent this, but why not send an anonymous email/fb message? that way you can (imo) do the right thing, and publicly plead ignorance so no one knows it's you.

This is a great idea! How do you send an anonymous fb message though?

Would NOT.

None of your god-damned business.

What the hell is wrong with people that they think it is their f'ing business to nose into and report on other people's personal lives?

None.

Of.

Your.

God.

Damned.

Business.

Surfacearea2VolRatio wrote:

I’d advise going Switzerland on it. Why get yourself tangled in a situation in which you are likely to suffer detriment just for doing something good? If it’s the principle of the matter then just cut those friends out of your life. No need to clock in hours unpaid with occupational safety risks.

"Just for doing something good"?!? How the hell is being a busy-body and minding other people's business "doing something good"?

great idea wrote:

the only smart person here wrote:

surprised nobody has sent this, but why not send an anonymous email/fb message? that way you can (imo) do the right thing, and publicly plead ignorance so no one knows it's you.

This is a great idea! How do you send an anonymous fb message though?

No, that is an idiotic idea. Cowardice piled on top of busy-bodying is NOT a good look (nor is it "the right thing to do").

Mind your f'ing business.

It depends. Would you want to know? If you would want to know, report it anonymously. Don't directly involve yourself. Use caution. Always ensure plausible deniability that you were the deep throat.

John Utah wrote:

don't say anything

get new friends

This ^

Dang, I keep agreeing with John Utah recently!

There is no way opening your mouth will make either your life, or the situation better.

Unless you are a total drama queen and want to jump into the middle of a crap storm, bury your head in the sand and never speak of it again.

Pics of the wife?

OP here. I almost see it more as ratting out the cheating wife more than ratting out my friend. My friend is single. And from his perspective, which I somewhat agree with, if she hadn't cheated with him she would have with someone else.

Most people seem to be saying keep my mouth shut. What happened to do onto others as you would have done to you? I would really want to know if I was being cheated on.

I'm intrigued by the anonymous idea. But I don't want my friend to get shot or something. What I really want is for my other friend to know his wife is cheating, but not know who it was with.

You should get stitches for even considering it wrote:

Pics of the wife?

Lol, won't be doing that, but she is very attractive. I think she has some kind of complex though because she is always trying to show off her body. I don't think I've ever seen her in loose fitting clothes.

Grab a manicure and tell the ladies at the shop about the affair. The news will spread like wildfire. Your best bud will have plenty of time to react.

It's really the perfect solution.

nosnitch wrote:

You should get stitches for even considering it wrote:

Pics of the wife?

Lol, won't be doing that, but she is very attractive. I think she has some kind of complex though because she is always trying to show off her body. I don't think I've ever seen her in loose fitting clothes.

I’m surprised nobody mentioned letting the wife know that you know. Now you can blackmail her to perform favors for you.

OP,

Blackmail the woman . Make her sleep with you.

Win-win!

You're welcome!

Do your so-so friend a favor and tell him. You are condemning him to maybe YEARS with a duplicitous, cheating wife if you don't. Moral imperative.

Only if I was trying to smash his wife. Otherwise, stay in your lane. He's your friend.

nosnitch wrote:

I think what he is doing is wrong. I told him that and said I thought he should stop.

You told him how you felt. That's enough.

Beyond that, what happens between other people is none of your business.

You don't actually know what happened, and trying to cause problems for others smacks of questionable ethics.

They say... wrote:

you condone his cheating by doing nothing. You're as big a scumbag as him.

That's totally wrong.

The OP has control of his own life only, not anyone else's.

He said what he wanted to say, and he has the choice to not be friends anymore, IF that's what he wanted to do.

Either way, that's between them, not some random control freak, and is none of your business.

Shoebacca wrote:

My problem with cheaters and those who sleep with cheaters is that once you find out you realize that so much of their public life is a sham. It also makes it difficult for you to trust what you know about them; it's likely that you only know what they want you to know about them. How well can you really trust your good friend once you find out you didn't know so much about him? Maybe he wasn't as good of a friend as you thought he was.

If you already don't know how your friend is, then he's not that much of a friend to you anyway.

Charlie wrote:

End the friendship with the guy who is cheating and tell him you are going to tell the guy then tell the guy being cheated on about it. Before doing this stuff get a concealed weapons permit and learn how to shoot to kill. Start wearing a body cam then when this e friend goes off on ya and you drill him you can post it on youtube and go viral.

or

mind your own business

Awesome.