Told a female co-worker to calm down and everything would figure itself out -> NEARLY FIRED

90% of the comments to this post confirm how unpleasant an all-male work environment would be. I've worked for over 20 years in an office (a law firm) filled with smart, strong women and don't see or hear any of the stuff some guys are describing here. I suspect that those who portray female colleagues as harpies aren't or are unable to tell the full story of how their own actions might contribute to how those female colleagues act towards them.

Good lord.

I guess the lesson here is, never tell a woman to calm down. I once told a girlfriend to calm down and ended up in a heated argument for 2 hours, most of which had nothing to do with the original incident.

Good luck my brother.

Ghost of Igloi wrote:

Well I just figured there are a couple PC triggers: Trump, veganism, racism and toxic masculinity. So, far we have left politics alone.

Gee and ghost of igloo is worried that people might take offense to him in an office setting. I can't figure out why...

I never undersood how incels exist until reading this message board.

Russian trolls and incels. Just another day for Letsrun.com.

Caller out of racists wrote:

Ghost of Igloi wrote:

Well I just figured there are a couple PC triggers: Trump, veganism, racism and toxic masculinity. So, far we have left politics alone.

Gee and ghost of igloo is worried that people might take offense to him in an office setting. I can't figure out why...

That is what I find interesting. You throw around the insult “racist” like it is nothing yet you judge “calm down” as a major crime. In your office setting you are surely viewed as obnoxious and your colleagues are most likely afraid to say anything that smacks of honesty. So you go through life living a phony existence. Phony input and phony output.

Why do you think you were so naive as a youth to believe men and women were the same?

Coopersville wrote:

Considering you posted the definition of condescending for all of us who aren’t as intelligent as you, I’m going to guess that she and your boss where spot on with their interpretation of the situation.

Bravo, sir (or madam).

Proves the opposite point wrote:

90% of the comments to this post confirm how unpleasant an all-male work environment would be. I've worked for over 20 years in an office (a law firm) filled with smart, strong women and don't see or hear any of the stuff some guys are describing here. I suspect that those who portray female colleagues as harpies aren't or are unable to tell the full story of how their own actions might contribute to how those female colleagues act towards them.

This is because you worked at a law firm, which typically attracts high performance/intelligent/hard working people, regardless of gender.

The average corporate/office job experience is very different, and often times, not positive.

UKnowNN wrote:

Why do you think you were so naive as a youth to believe men and women were the same?

Because of PC culture, feminist ideology, and passion for "equality." We're supposed to believe women can do anything men can do and that men and women are on average very similar, that the only reason women earn less or achieve less is because of discrimination. Work a few different jobs in the real world with a mix of men and women and it becomes unambiguously clear why women earn less. Twelve men who all hate each other can work more productively together and with less drama than two women who are supposedly friends. Also, men WANT to work. Women do not. A man will voluntarily work 50hrs/week for a 40hr/week job just out of competitiveness, drive, and because he wants to, whereas a woman in the same position will show up late and leave early every day averaging out to 35, even 30hrs/week. Certainly not always, but I see it very often. I could give a dozen anecdotes just from the small pool of people I know and/or work with.

^^^ Yes, listen to this man. Just remember ladies, men are perfect and you should feel blessed and lucky by any attention they bestow on you because women are just silly incapable little things that have no innate worth outside being an object used for their fucking.

That's the reason I keep my pie hole shut and cross my arms and do absolutely nothing at work when something happens. Better safe than sorry.

Ghost of Igloi wrote:

Caller out of racists wrote:

Gee and ghost of igloo is worried that people might take offense to him in an office setting. I can't figure out why...

That is what I find interesting. You throw around the insult “racist” like it is nothing yet you judge “calm down” as a major crime. In your office setting you are surely viewed as obnoxious and your colleagues are most likely afraid to say anything that smacks of honesty. So you go through life living a phony existence. Phony input and phony output.

Ghost of igloo,

I do not "throw aroudn the insult "racist" like it is nothing." I use it very intentionally to describe you, who has a very long and vile history of posting racist comments here. Nowhere have a commented on "calm down" much less called it a major crime.

I have no worries at my job or anywhere less because I treat people with dignity and respect instead of making racist and sexist remarks that offend people. You might try it some time.

caller out of racists wrote:

I do not "throw aroudn the insult "racist" like it is nothing." I use it very intentionally to describe you, who has a very long and vile history of posting racist comments here. Nowhere have a commented on "calm down" much less called it a major crime.

I have no worries at my job or anywhere less because I treat people with dignity and respect instead of making racist and sexist remarks that offend people. You might try it some time.

"racist".... "racist comment".... "racist and sexist"

Is Mike Godwin still alive? Shouldn't he make an effort to update his law?

I dare you to post a racist comment from the registered Ghost of Igloi handle. It does not exist.

In the meantime don’t be cavalier on how your colleagues really feel about you. You are obviously a snake not to be trusted.

runn wrote:

Heill wrote:

What a load of BS. You could absolutely get a female coworker in trouble for saying that if you wanted to.

I didn't say you COULDN'T- women get away with more, that's all.

GEEZUZ- I've had coworkers tell me I look real good in my running shorts. They've told me I'm "ripped".

I choose not to do anything about it. It really doesn't bother me- find me a guy (especially on let's run (lol)) who doesn't like being complimented.

Women have commented on how much I eat and "stay so skinny", other things like that.

Imagine saying- That shirt shows off your wonderful breasts.

In the post I quoted you said, "and that's okay", implying they could get away with it. This isn't true. If the runner wanted to make an issue of it, the woman would get in trouble. That was your error that I was pointing out. Sure, they get away with more, so why embellish?

It's intellectually lazy and frankly inaccurate to paint with such a broad brush as you to make absolute statements about groups of people. Be better.

Issued a termination letter this afternoon and to contact the HR department sorority with questions and concerns prior to tomorrow morning at 9am. Of course this is after those respective people in that department have left for the day.

This is the real world people. Is letsrun hiring or should I just "calm down" for the moment? I figured theyd wait til Friday.

I know numerous women who are complete workaholics, in the office all day every day, there every night, on the weekends, holidays, summer break, you name it. And I know numerous men who don't work hard at all. On the other hand, I also know numerous men who are workaholics. As for drama, considering the crime rate for men, I'm not going to just assert that women are more dramatic than men. There may be generalities that would hold, but these are not them.