Yoga, my wife, a dilemma, help me!

You need to watch this film . https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Woman_Next_Door

You just told this information to the entire world on the internet, and you're not willing to tell it to your wife?

What is wrong with you? Grow up! Tell you wife the truth. How is this even a dilemma?

theJeff wrote:

Your spouse is someone who knows the worst thing about you and still loves you. If you cannot talk to your wife about this, I seriously recommend couples counseling.

Seriously.

It's not that i'm afraid of talking about this with her. It's an activity she enjoys and I don't want to do anything that would lessen her enjoyment of the activity.... but she keeps on insisting on wanting to drag me along with her to it.

LRCPD wrote:

Rick Sanchez wrote:

There was no stalking. Friendzoned, probably. Whatever it was, it's in the distant past, and should probably stay that way.

I can't say it's a schedule thing, the classes my wife attends are all evening and weekend classes, which is the only time it would fit into my schedule, if it would fit.

Plot twist- OP has been stalking yoga instructor all along. OP suggests yoga class to wife, then fakes hamstring injury hoping wife will invite him to class. Not wanting to appear too eager, OP declines wife's repeated invitations.

How about this plot twist, this isn't her original instructor. Her original instructor moved out of state and this was her replacement.

Option #1. Yoga is silly and why open this can of worms when you really don’t have to? Either that or go to a different place.

So you go, wearing loose short shorts and boxers. Midway through the first pose you ensure that you have a large bone and move so as to make it find its way loose. It's important that the yoga instructor see this. There is a small possibility of arrest, perhaps divorce, definitely ostracization, but I would guess that you won't have to go back to that yoga class, so there's that.

If you aren't comfortable with this, make it clear that you didn't get anything out of the class, and there are other things you would rather be doing (like trolling on LetsRun). You can also say that you tried yoga before, and you did not get anything out of it.

dude, since your wife already does yoga why don't you just say that you'd prefer that she teaches you yoga at home instead since you'd feel more comfortable with that.

then when it comes time to your session have the heater cranked up and be like oops it's a little hot in here, it may take awhile to cool down after i turn the air on so we may as well take off our clothes.. then get to clappin them cheeks in some of the craziest positions you could ever have imagined (inverted scissor legged position..etc.) and then you both will be happy and she won't bring up bringing you to yoga anymore and instead view you as some type of sex king.

This story would be more interesting if you were married to your wife 16 years ago.

Your wife is probably going to mention you to the yoga instructor at some point. Agree to do yoga, but to a different yoga place, since the last thing you want with two women is for them to have you in common.

Disclose to the wife that you used to have a "thing" with and for the yoga instructor. Afterwards, assure the wife that while the instructor is pretty and you did have a thing for her, she is not "as beautiful and sexy as you are, babe".

Then, once the wife is curtailed by your cunning remark, offer having a 3-way love interaction amongst you all. It could spark the dying flame of your relationship ;)

If you think “threesome” is two words, I’m wondering if you know how many people are in a threesome.

Rick Sanchez wrote:

theJeff wrote:

Your spouse is someone who knows the worst thing about you and still loves you. If you cannot talk to your wife about this, I seriously recommend couples counseling.

Seriously.

It's not that i'm afraid of talking about this with her. It's an activity she enjoys and I don't want to do anything that would lessen her enjoyment of the activity.... but she keeps on insisting on wanting to drag me along with her to it.

Then there is no problem. Tell her the truth and move on. If she still wants to go, wants you to go, or wants to practice with a different instructor, great.

Unless you were married at the time there is nothing to be embarrassed about, unless you told your wife she was the first.

4) go but disclose the past history

Yoga is great for runners + it was 16 years ago your wife shouldn't care

Pics or we don't believe you

vivalarepublica wrote:

This story would be more interesting if you were married to your wife 16 years ago.

This is literally my first thought. The OP never disclosed the length of his relationship with his wife.

If he had a thing with yoga teacher while married or involved with your wife, DO NOT EVER GO TO THIS YOGS CLASS!

If there was a gap between this yoga girl and your wife, definitely go to the yoga. When your wife finds out about the relationship that’s immediate Dread level 7 at least. It’s always good to subtly remind your wife that you’ve had options and you can have them again in the future.

Do not mention anything about any other woman.

I suspect there is something else OP doesn't want to reveal to your SO about the relationship that you haven't disclosed. That is the only rational reason this would cause you any grief.

Do many of you walk around pretending you had no life before your SO? What kind of relationship do you have with an SO if you can' t tell them, "I had a casual thing with her before we were a couple."