In Asian culture, this is kind of ok.
In American culture, this is only ok if the parent(s) are dependents and need to be taken care of.
In Asian culture, this is kind of ok.
In American culture, this is only ok if the parent(s) are dependents and need to be taken care of.
UA Runner wrote:
direwolf50 wrote:
I moved out at age 18 and never looked back. if you're financially independent and still living at home at age 29, you're either Italian or you have issues.
BTW, what no one here is saying is that parents today who allow this have issues too!
Exactly
Only a small part of being an adult is making a bunch of money. Living like an adult--paying bills, inviting girls over, going through the headache of buying a property, fixing things and maintaining your property--is not something you will experience living with your parents. Assuming normal circumstances, no reason to live at home in your 30s if you make six figures.
"But I'm saving a ton of money by living at home!"
Bull$hit. Saving it for what, that creepy road trip you're gonna take by yourself? You're just avoiding socializing with the opposite sex, and perhaps too afraid to sleep with the lights off at night.
I'll translate the two above for those who can't:
"I try to ignore my fear of my own mortality by hopping on the hedonic treadmill, having meaningless, personally degrading one night stands, which is what I consider 'socializing with the opposite sex', frivolously spending money on things which mostly waste my own time and energy with little real satisfaction to gain from it, all to try and appear higher status than I really am, and I look down on those who have actual meaningful adult relationships because they've made better life decisions than I have, because that's how I psychologically deal with my own poor choices. I also don't understand that renters do vastly fewer chores and property maintenance than adults with parental cohabitors, mainly because I was so desperate to justify my own poor choices that I didn't think of the most basic responses to my argument."
The only thing right about living with your parents in your 30's and beyond is the loser label you will instantaneously acquire amongst your peers. And your parents' friends will pity them and quietly hate you for being a leech.
CuriousPerson wrote:
I'll translate the two above for those who can't:
"I try to ignore my fear of my own mortality by hopping on the hedonic treadmill, having meaningless, personally degrading one night stands, which is what I consider 'socializing with the opposite sex', frivolously spending money on things which mostly waste my own time and energy with little real satisfaction to gain from it, all to try and appear higher status than I really am, and I look down on those who have actual meaningful adult relationships because they've made better life decisions than I have, because that's how I psychologically deal with my own poor choices. I also don't understand that renters do vastly fewer chores and property maintenance than adults with parental cohabitors, mainly because I was so desperate to justify my own poor choices that I didn't think of the most basic responses to my argument."
The notion moving out from your parents automatically equals being reckless, sleeping around, buying a wakeboard boat, making poor decisions and regretting them is untrue. I mean.. it is a lot of fun, actually, but it's not the only way.
Besides, making poor choices is how you learn to make better choices. Telling your eventual spouse that you know XYZ because your mom told you, not because you know from your own experience, will not earn you a lot of respect.
jamin detector wrote:
The only thing right about living with your parents in your 30's and beyond is the loser label you will instantaneously acquire amongst your peers. And your parents' friends will pity them and quietly hate you for being a leech.
This translating business is fun:
"I can't read the basic prompt about the theoretical person being a net asset and not a leech because my brain won't tolerate humanizing one of the few groups I'm allowed to look down on so I can feel better about myself."
To those cluelessly taking the opposite side as I am: all of humanity outside the small slice of time and place you are in condemns your outlook. The great democracy of the dead looks down on your myopic views; both all your own ancestors outside the last two or three generations and all of the other peoples of the world, present and past, thankfully choose and chose differently. You fundamentally misunderstand the human condition, what matters, and how to live the good life. If you weren't so bigoted, I'd frankly feel sorry for you.
just saying... wrote:
Back to the question, it depends on where you live in. In some European and in most Asian countries, there's nothing wrong with adult kids living with their parents as long as the kids contribute their fair share and get along with their parents. But most Americans will look down on it. There's nothing objectively right or wrong, it's just cultural differences.
You saved me a lot of typing time. Thanks!