Those of you dating a non-runner, how did you compromise on some of the things that come with running (running early, etc.)?

SalmonRice wrote:

I don't get what OPs relationship problem is about. If you care about each other, there should be no problem spending some time away from one another to pursue a hobbie you enjoy. You probably don't run much more than 1hr per day, so what exactly is this destroying in a potential relationship?

Stop being so prentious and sleep a few more hours with them if they want morning cuddles. Working late in the evening is hard on a person. Let them rest on the weekend and join them. Try relaxing on the weekend with them. Not every day needs to be balls out productive. The roads arent going anywhere. If you push your run to 9 or 10am, who cares. Even elites aren't that anal about running right on a specific hour.

+1.

Most of the fastest runners I know are flexible with their weekend run times. It seems it's the weekend-warrior/hobby-jogger-Olympians that are most obsessed with starting their Saturday and Sunday runs at exactly 7 am.

haha 90-100 and doubles with kids lol. I can't believe your wife tolerates this...and I can't believe that you think she's actually OK with it. father of the year!

In college, I dated a non-running girl for 3 years and it caused a few problems as I was on scholarship for all 3 seasons and had to stay pretty committed. She was hot with huge assets and got a lot of attention. Because I couldn't go out Friday she would go out with her friends and party more than I could. Her friends developed a very close relationship with the douchey lacrosse team and this caused tension with us because I wasn't dumb and knew they were scamming on her all the time. Stupid fights and she would get mad I was away at meets a lot of the time. This only got worse when I also got a 40 hr a week internship and basically, all the time apart destroyed the relationship.

However, had some great times and I didn't believe in the whole no-hanky panky the night before meets. The best is when she would come over hammered looking to score late on a Friday night and I would take her to pound town and then pass out. Great times and still miss her perfect rack.

My fiance now is not a runner but this has never been a problem as we're older and now in a more mature relationship. She has a great rack too. My whole life has been a lot of big boobies and running, what a life.

This should've ended the thread. The rest is just fluff. To paraphrase, the OP is just not into this person.

Clam Evans wrote:

If s/he's working til 10pm it sounds link you have like 4 hours after work to get a run in. No idea why you would wait til morning

Get up early, run then get back into bed with her- that's what I do.

DanRun4265 wrote:

The best is when she would come over hammered looking to score late on a Friday night and I would take her to pound town and then pass out.

Rape alert.

just another runner.... wrote:

However, they will sometimes work late such as around 10 PM, and I've now been trying to get to sleep by 11 (or 11:30 at the latest) PM so I can be up at 7 to get in a run

There are people with 1-2 hour commutes that have to get up at 7am to get to work on time. The time commitment and the time of day that you're running should not be a problem. Is it something else? Are you overly rigid and OCD?

I'll have you know that I did stay up late yesterday and then woke up later together in the morning, and didn't go get my run until later.

a word of advice wrote:

dump her as soon as possible. go sub 4. the females will follow.

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ProfessionalTangentrunner wrote:

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So one problem we are having, because my partner works late hours doing experiments (I say 10, 11 PM in my OP but in busy times it can be more like midnight - 3 AM) is that we haven't been able to hang out very much... and when we do it's only been an hour or two, maybe to grab a meal or something. How do I convey that I'd like to hang out more without coming across as needy?

How long have you’ve been dating? Just be honest with her and let her know how you would like to spend more time. Does she have time off on the weekends? Plan a day trip, be creative...

Depends. Sometimes, like this weekend, it also meant long hours and being in lab late.

Doesn't post 2 still apply?

just another runner... wrote:

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So one problem we are having, because my partner works late hours doing experiments (I say 10, 11 PM in my OP but in busy times it can be more like midnight - 3 AM) is that we haven't been able to hang out very much... and when we do it's only been an hour or two, maybe to grab a meal or something. How do I convey that I'd like to hang out more without coming across as needy?

Pretty obvious you're the problem here. If you really wanted to hang out more, you'd adjust *your* running schedule - JFC, it's just running - to fit your partner's schedule. If you're not training for the Olympics, your running schedule should be a lower priority than your relationship needs.

So I do.. but I work more productively on weekdays if I get up/sleep around the same time. I like to be in the office by 10 AM, which means it's also better for my health by I sleep by 11 PM. It is not just my running schedule but my work schedule too.

just another runner... wrote:

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So one problem we are having, because my partner works late hours doing experiments (I say 10, 11 PM in my OP but in busy times it can be more like midnight - 3 AM) is that we haven't been able to hang out very much... and when we do it's only been an hour or two, maybe to grab a meal or something. How do I convey that I'd like to hang out more without coming across as needy?

This doesn't seem like a problem with your schedule, but a problem with your partner's. This is a relationship question that has almost nothing to do with running...

To answer your question, I run communte, get lunch runs in, and do a lot of running on the mill at 9:30-10pm when everyone's asleep. I have a kid with another on the way and am able to prioritize both family and running. It's pretty great.

Yes, so this is a general communication question. Not just about running.