THE MORE IN COMMON, THE MORE EXPERIENCE TOGETHER, THE BETTER: The more you have in common, the better. If you work (or work out) together and see each other work hard - that can build real respect.
My baby and I were/are both peace-justice activist organizers. We met at a hunger strike. Given that each knew the other was taking serious risks for other people; we knew from the get-go that we had a lot in common.
We spent 4 visits of 3-4 hours each, over a one-month period, getting to know each other. We made the committment - 31+ years later; we're still honeymooning.
That's about the INITIAL getting together.
IN MOST RELATIONSHIPS, SEX IS T-H-E KEY: Imo, the key to STAYING TOGETHER, to long-lasting love is the sexual part of the relationship.
We have a "no veto over sex" mutual agreement. If either is in the mood, the other can't say no. Being a "super-athlete", means I have just about unlimited endurance and she is gorgeous - so I''m ALWAYS ready and she has never once said "no". (That's 21,000+ times (thru to male orgasm) that we've made love - first 26 years 2 times a day; since then once).
THE FREQUENCY OF SEX SHOULD CORRESPOND TO AS MUCH AS BOTH CAN HANDLE WITHOUT GETTING TOO EXHAUSTED TO FULFILL ALL OTHER NORMAL RESPONSIBILITIES: Naturally not every guy can make love at that frequency. The key is NOT the frequency exactly. It is that the couple make love as frequently as they can handle (and that nothing beyond emergencies is allowed to get in the way of it). You can tell when you're getting into the "too frequent" area when you / she can no longer handle all the other various responsibilities life throws at us. (Never a problem for us).
ONLY A WOMAN CAN COME LIKE THIS: btw, her orgasms are Earth-rocking, involving screaming like a Banshee for up to 45 minutes non-stop. They "knock her out" so much; that she can't handle more than about one every week or two. (Boy would I trade my daily ones for her infrequent, all-out symphony-orchestra ones!)
2ND KEY: PAYING ATTENTION TO HER: Another key to long-lasting love is how the guy treats the girl. (Most women are trained by DNA and by their moms to serve others, including their guy - so this is seldom a big challenge in a relationship). Guys, on the other hand, don't seem to get much training at all in how to view and treat a woman (naturally I'm not addressing homosexual relationships here). Imo, IF the guy SPECIALIZES in treating his lady sweetly; she'll love him to death in return. For him to do that (and get all of that in return) he must learn how to pay attention to her needs. Most guys don't even realize what almost every woman understands - to understand someone else, you've got to pay attention and ask lots of questions and make the necessary adjustments based on the answers.
3RD KEY: REALIZING THAT SHE IS THE BIG DEAL, NOT YOU: I know I'm a really special guy (always doing the right thing, always putting others first). But in my eyes, my baby is astonishing; far beyond me - I'm ever so lucky that she allows me to be her guy. Imo, all heterosexual guys should feel this way about their girl. Only women can: do astonishing things in bed; get pregnant, fabricate kids, do childbirth, do breast-feeding and just give-and-give-and-give to others naturally.
You get one of those in your life, only a fool wouldn't do EVERYTHING in their power to please her like your "queen".