Wife says I should gladly let her eat food off my plate without asking first. Is she right?

Just wow... wrote:

We'll get served at a restaurant, for example, and before I take my first bite of food or she tries hers, she'll reach over the table with her fork and snag a hunk of food off my plate. No, "oh, that looks good, can I try that honey?". It irritates me, and she knows it and gets very angry at my for this, as if I'm the bad guy here. She says this is what people who are intimate with each other do, and it's a sign that I'm selfish and I lack in that capacity. Seriously???

seattle prattle wrote:

i just tried and experiment, inspired by this thread.

Wife eating lunch, so I grab a spoon, walk in, and make a gesture to have some of her soup, but hesitated because I thought I was going to get my head bitten off.

Nope. She says "go ahead - it's good."

Then it occurs to me, could this be a guy/girl thing - like women are just more accommodating and congenial, and guys more territorial?

seattle prattle wrote:

i just tried and experiment, inspired by this thread.

Wife eating lunch, so I grab a spoon, walk in, and make a gesture to have some of her soup, but hesitated because I thought I was going to get my head bitten off.

Nope. She says "go ahead - it's good."

Then it occurs to me, could this be a guy/girl thing - like women are just more accommodating and congenial, and guys more territorial?

ok cuzz wrote:

As long as I can eat off her 'plate' whenever I choose...

not the same wrote:

seattle prattle wrote:

i just tried and experiment, inspired by this thread.

Wife eating lunch, so I grab a spoon, walk in, and make a gesture to have some of her soup, but hesitated because I thought I was going to get my head bitten off.

Nope. She says "go ahead - it's good."

Then it occurs to me, could this be a guy/girl thing - like women are just more accommodating and congenial, and guys more territorial?

But the key difference is that you asked if you could have some. I don't think anyone would be bothered by being asked. It's the taking without asking that is the problem in the OP's situation.

Just wow... wrote:

OYe wrote:

I guess it's worked out, then. Still strange to me that this is an issue that bothered you enough to post about it.

Because I took her out to dinner last night, hoping for a nice evening out, and it came up again. It just never goes away. She didn't actually take food off my plate last night but it just came up in our conversation so I jokingly took her croc of soup from in front of her and started eating out of it to give her an exaggerated example of what she does, and she gave me the silent treatment the rest of the night until we got into the car. That's when she finally explained to me, in quite angry terms, how she views my attitude on this.

Just wow... wrote:

We'll get served at a restaurant, for example, and before I take my first bite of food or she tries hers, she'll reach over the table with her fork and snag a hunk of food off my plate. No, "oh, that looks good, can I try that honey?". It irritates me, and she knows it and gets very angry at my for this, as if I'm the bad guy here. She says this is what people who are intimate with each other do, and it's a sign that I'm selfish and I lack in that capacity. Seriously???

Jed Clampett wrote:

My sisters do this to me all the time, even now that we are "older." I do not like it but they usually are able to get to my food before I can stop them. I've never been married but I understand this is something women do. I am not sure if I would require them to not do that. I think you have brought up an interesting question. Why do women do that? What does it mean about women? Why don't men do that?

This could be a GREAT THREAD ON HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS.

Just wow... wrote:

We'll get served at a restaurant, for example, and before I take my first bite of food or she tries hers, she'll reach over the table with her fork and snag a hunk of food off my plate. No, "oh, that looks good, can I try that honey?". It irritates me, and she knows it and gets very angry at my for this, as if I'm the bad guy here. She says this is what people who are intimate with each other do, and it's a sign that I'm selfish and I lack in that capacity. Seriously???