Do a lot of guys find it intimidating when a woman runs 50, 60+ miles a week?

I think it goes like this:

A lot of guys – "Wow, she seems a bit obsessive compulsive"

Runners – "50-60 miles? Pfff, must be a hobby jogger."

Hobby Joggers – "Wow, SO inspiring!!"

My girlfriend ran more miles than me last week. I'm still crying myself to sleep about it.

I eat salads

No, it's not intimidating when a woman runs 50 to 60 miles per week. I like it when they do. Many I know do so. I dated an Olympic Women's Marathon Trials qualifier for awhile. It was enjoyable, not intimidating.

How are we on the third page? This thread is useless without pics.

I would have thought that the concept of altitude training was something the average Joe would have heard of, but I'm also a track fan, so maybe I assume too much.

Even so, weird response from the dude. What man or woman wouldn't want to date someone athletic?

Bring Back the 880 wrote:

Even so, weird response from the dude. What man or woman wouldn't want to date someone athletic?

From what she told us, he didn't do or say anything to indicate he wouldn't. All we have to go on is "how she felt he felt."

Bring Back the 880 wrote:

I would have thought that the concept of altitude training was something the average Joe would have heard of, but I'm also a track fan, so maybe I assume too much.

Even so, weird response from the dude. What man or woman wouldn't want to date someone athletic?

Fat lazy people, that's who.

You certainly won't get much protest from posters on LR. This forum is all about high easy mileage.

robert678 wrote:

hobby jogalog wrote:

I admire women who are badass in their chosen sport. I think it's attractive. I would think that if some dude found your dedication intimidating (to the point where it threatened his masculinity), he would probably not be worth your time.

I agree with this guy completely. Very well said.

+2

Snow boarding bro isn't worth the time.

If OP posted a pic I think this site would crash and mom's would be wondering what happened to the sheets.

There is a difference between being intimidated by something and thinking someone is self-centered. I have no idea if you are self-centered, but I once knew a woman who said that some men were "intimidated by her dancing" (she was really into competitive ballroom dancing). I have to say that she came across as very self-centered, and my own thought was "you are 30 years old, time to move on from making a hobby the center of your life."

Just some honest thoughts. I'm sure some psycho will read this, think it hits too close to the mark and accuse me of not knowing what it means to be a competitive runner.

pop_pop!_v2.2.1 wrote:

robert678 wrote:

I agree with this guy completely. Very well said.

+2

Snow boarding bro isn't worth the time.

Agree, except snowboarding bro is undoubtedly tongue-wagging material and immensely secure with his masculinity.

Snowboard bro thinks it's damn hard to walk those 20 meters to the lift from the end of the slope to the lift. He was shell-shocked when he heard 50-60 miles.

You're a troll, because 50-60 miles a week is nothing. It's not running a lot.

Out there wrote:

Come on now! Why has no one asked for pics?

Because we're not interested in flabby pothead snowboarders or emaciated female runners.

OP, I have gone through a similar experience as this, and overanylzing or not it's definitely right for you to care because you know it's a topic that you have a lot to speak on. Probably same thing with him and snowboarding/skiing. I'm sure if he went on about some crazy elevation he's dropped in or backcountry ride, you would have listened and inquired more about it because there's no point in being intimidated or offput by someone's personal passion that you know nothing about. People always have to 'figure you out' for some reason, and the worst are the one's who make their decision in the middle of dinner.

I will say that even though I'm a guy, it's less gender and more generation. I live in a town that is pretty big by itself, but is even bigger with a good sized D2 school in it. Being out of college for a few years now & single, I notice the dates I go on with people my age who are still in school or just graduated can sour mid-date like this. Might be running, might be something else, but it's like you can't share too much.

Last date I was on, the girl told me that she did competitive band, so instead of making a preconceived judgment on that and obviously steering away from that (not that I was against it, but it's not for me), I asked her more about it because I figured she really enjoyed it if she brought it up. Turns out she travelled for it, played all of instruments I knew nothing of, and in the end it was cool that she had a unique passion that she enjoyed. She told me she was a runner when I met her, so when she asked me about my running I tiptoed around anything that would ward her off. Didn't matter, because once I get the question," So, you're not like, a 'serious' runner, right?", with obvious tones hoping I say no, I know I'm done. It's happened a couple of times too, I don't get it but I feel like it'll be less of a trigger point for people the older I get.

People out there run 70-80 mpw, work, do the little things, and have friends that know nothing about it because it doesn't effect their time together.

It could mean that he had some appreciation for what it would take to do that much running. I don't think you should write this one off just yet.

Canada Girl wrote:

I maybe because long term, it means I'm never going to get fat? .

This. I rationalize that it's not me being shallow if I'm also putting in lots of miles and staying fit long term.