Early in 2016 I did something really stupid and cruel to the woman I adore. I didn't cheat on her or hit her or anything like that. We had an on again, off again relationship, but I loved her and still do.
What I did was terrible. I betrayed her trust and without going into too many details because she sometimes reads this board, I jeopardized her credibility.
I was angry over something I thought she'd done and lashed out.
I can't take back what I did because it's already out there and done.
She hasn't talked to me since my really stupid, hurtful action, and won't return my calls.
Is there anything I could do to fix this and win her back?
Have you ever done anything unforgivable and had someone forgive you?
This has been eating at me for months and not a day goes by that I don't regret my actions. I'd do anything to make things right again so that at the very least we could be friends and I could have her in my life again in some way.
Any suggestions?
Lost my soul mate and it's all my fault. How do I get her back?
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Still in Love,
If this woman is your "soul mate" then if the love is still there for you and for her, maybe one day she can forgive you.
I've heard of people forgiving the most heinous of acts, crimes even. One woman I read about once in Asia had acid thrown in her face by a jilted lover and she was forever disfigured. She was probably Buddhist, but in any case, she was interviewed and said that forgiving that person for their actions was a burden lifted that she could no longer carry.
While I don't know what exactly you did to betray the woman you loved, it sounds like it was impulsive and you sound sincere in wishing you hadn't taken that action.
Have you tried writing her a letter and telling her how sorry you are? Have you apologized?
And, is it that you still love her, or you want to be forgiven?
Lots of questions, but hopefully food for thought.
Good luck to you. -
Still in Love wrote:
Is there anything I could do to fix this and win her back? NO
Have you ever done anything unforgivable and had someone forgive you? NO
Any suggestions? NO
three of a kind -
Any suggestions?
search for another new piece of meat -
I wont bother to advise you what to do because it sounds like you're trying hard to let her know you love her and you're sorry, and there's nothing more you can do than that. But I will say you need to console yourself that 1. People make mistakes however terrible and if she doesn't come back she simply doesn't love you at the same level you love her, and 2. There's no such thing as a soulmate. There are varying levels of affection and trust and when you put together high levels of each, you are in love. I hope you're able to get her back, but if you don't you'll be fine and will most likely find another great relationship one day. Good luck.
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"Betrayed her trust."
Is that code for sticking it in her arse? -
If you win your local turkey trot (assuming it's sub 16 time) given she reads this board that might make her randy enough to take you back. Unless she meets someone better at one of those anti trump protester protest.
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Send her a pic of your dic*, assuming it's respectable. If not, then I don't know how to help.
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Still in Love wrote:Any suggestions?
She sounds emotionally healthy if she cut you out.
It's over.
Seek therapy so you don't repeat the behaviour and move on. -
pics?
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I lost my soul too, mate. Sold it to Lucifer for a Trump victory
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I refuse to offer my advice until you tell us what exactly you did.
I'm willing to bet you made what at the time seemed like a completely logical assumption, but in hindsight realized that it was based on nothing concrete. In reality, it was just you acting out on your insecurities effectively sabotaging the relationship. You've made an @$$ out of her and you.
I think the word "soulmate" gets thrown around a little too loosely. A soulmate means that you care more about the other person than you do yourself. By betraying her trust and as you say "jeopardized her credibility", you've proven that you're living a lie, brother. You liked the idea of her being your soulmate, but through your actions you've made it abundantly clear that you are not hers. It's a two-way street man. I'm sorry that's a little harsh, but you're probably young and naive so you need to hear it.
Look at me, making assumptions of my own. Some people never learn... -
I don't know why, but reading all those horrible comments on letsrun always cheers me up
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Plenty of fish in the sea.
"Soul mate" is bunk. Out of the billions of people on the earth you think you just happened to bump into the "one and only"?
Buck up, get over it and grow the heck up already. -
She's with me now. Thanks for your outburst.
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Go fishing wrote:
Plenty of fish in the sea.
"Soul mate" is bunk. Out of the billions of people on the earth you think you just happened to bump into the "one and only"?
Buck up, get over it and grow the heck up already.
Right. Which tells you OP has some issues to work through. -
There is probably not anything further you can do.
You want her back for your own selfish reasons? Is getting back together best for her? Try to look at the situation from her point of view.
It's a painful lesson learned, and unfortunately it will not be the last time you lose someone you love. Happens to everyone.
Don't make that mistake again. -
Thanks again buddy.
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Watch the movie Swingers. It will make you feel better.
Then forget about her and move on! -
craigenegger wrote:
I don't know why, but reading all those horrible comments on letsrun always cheers me up
lol
