Very active sex life. Don't want kids for awhile though. Should I get a vasectomy?

Had Some Myself wrote:

nancyreagan wrote:

Just say no....from someone who has had one, I wish I hadn't. Ejaculation just isn't the same. Straight talk.

Are you serious? How has it been different? I noticed absolutely no differences in orgasm, ejaculation, or anything related. I kind of expected to, and was paying attention afterward, but didn't.

The same, ejaculation is. Different the first time after the vasectomy, running across the street was. Hurting much, my balls were.

mypredictor wrote:

I had one around a year ago. It was mainly for my wife who was paranoid about getting pregnant again. I don't like that i had it done. Not because I may want kids again - I dont. I just hate the idea that I had surgery when a condon does largely the same job. The first couple months I had some discomfort and it reminded me that I had elective surgery. Surgery should only be done when needed. No regrets, but give it some good hard thought first.

My brother got one because his wife insisted. A couple of years after, they divorced. Not many years later, their only son was killed in an accident. Now he is alone and unable to have any children to bring him joy in his old age.

Steve Martin wrote:

mypredictor wrote:

I had one around a year ago. It was mainly for my wife who was paranoid about getting pregnant again. I don't like that i had it done. Not because I may want kids again - I dont. I just hate the idea that I had surgery when a condon does largely the same job. The first couple months I had some discomfort and it reminded me that I had elective surgery. Surgery should only be done when needed. No regrets, but give it some good hard thought first.

My brother got one because his wife insisted. A couple of years after, they divorced. Not many years later, their only son was killed in an accident. Now he is alone and unable to have any children to bring him joy in his old age.

Good thing I have 2 kids.

No_thx wrote:

I've thought about getting it done but that's it - a mere thought.

It seems so unnatural that I can't do it. Also what if I, God forbid - perish the thought, lose my wife and need another woman to help me rear the kids. The new wife will want something in return, likely kids. I've not read up on reversals but regardless if that's even possible it sounds as retarded.

Unless I get someone with Baggage and an Ex, loaded with drama.

The ideal would be to get someone younger without children and with stamina.

You want to rear your kids? That is the sickest thing I ever heard.

The first couple months I had some discomfort and it reminded me that I had elective surgery.

Unless your doctor was a butcher the only discomfort you had was in your head. No, not THAT head!

Richard Headley wrote:

The first couple months I had some discomfort and it reminded me that I had elective surgery.

Unless your doctor was a butcher the only discomfort you had was in your head. No, not THAT head!

Incorrect. 20% of men have discomfort for months after the procedure, and that does not mean anything went wrong. We're becoming a little brainwashed into thinking these "routine" surgeries are absolutely nothing to worry about.

It's a simple procedure, takes 10-20 minutes and was back to normal in a week. No more condoms or IUD crap with the wife - her sex drive is insane after getting off the pill.

You can opt for a needle-less/scalpel-less procedure, as well as the open version which has even less risk for any discomfort. 6 of my friends have been done at the same place as me and not one has any issues. The doc said he sees 1 or 2 minor issues in 1000 ops.

Now if you go to a butcher in a back alley with a cleaver, all bets are off.

A reversal is around 65-70% effective and costs 15+ thousand. I also waited until 2nd kid was over 1 year just in case. No regrets.