How did you and your partner decide on how many kids you would have?

Ah, the old "kids will make you happier" myth that parents who want grandchildren dish out to their children who's marriage is failing.It never works. Keep telling yourself that it does, but just look around.

Sbabsbsvabsbs ndns wrote:

Actually, you were miserable to begin with, kids might have made you happier.

3 or 4....the world cannot support parents like you any longer.2 is the max that should be legally allowed. Preferably there should be a hiatus on childbirth for the next 50 years to allow mother earth to repair itself.

Lenny Leonard wrote:

fred wrote:

We were watching the Duggars on TV and the number just came to us.

So zero?

I kid.

My wife and I did talk about this. I think 3 or 4 kids is what we are shooting for. I have one sibling and she is one of 4.

Before we got married, my wife said we should have two and space them two years apart.

So we had two and spaced them two years apart.

Raising kids ain't no joke. You better be in it to win it. We had 2 kids right out of high school at 18&19 what a long strange trip it's been.

lol another koolaid drinker wrote:

3 or 4....the world cannot support parents like you any longer.

2 is the max that should be legally allowed. Preferably there should be a hiatus on childbirth for the next 50 years to allow mother earth to repair itself.

It would be pretty bad if there were no births for the next 50 years.

You need people at all age groups to keep things going.

Imagine when today's newborns are 50 and today's 30 year olds are 80 and there is no one in the world under 50.

when you are in retirement years, or at any age, you need young people to keep the production of food going, to keep supplies going, etc.

people need self control wrote:

Over population is rapidly becoming our biggest problem and getting more severe.

Turns out that this is probably not true.

1. The world's population growth (and yes, it's still growing) is not exponential, and hasn't been for some decades. Estimates vary, of course, but total annual births are now slightly lower than they were 30 years ago. (Some estimates actually see a decline in world population in the next hundred years' time.)

So I don't think it's actually getting "more severe," and I doubt that it's our biggest problem in any case: god-belief may win that one.

2. Though there are more people on the planet than ever before, it's also (probably) the case that a higher percentage of the world's human population gets enough to eat than ever before. This could be because:

3. Most (did I say "all"?) of the world's (human) mouths also have two hands. Most of the world's population, over the course of their lifetimes, is a net plus in terms of getting people fed.

cherry picker wrote:

http://www.worldometers.info/world-population/

The main problem is that it's the failing countries/cultures that reproduce.

We agreed that we wanted (unspecified number) kids while we were dating, but it wasn't until after we had been married for a few years and I got pregnant that we decided one would suffice. My kid is awesome, and my pregnancy was easy as far as those things go, but we agreed that financially speaking we could only provide the quality of life we wanted for one kid and still afford a nice retirement. Though honestly, even if we could support more, one is plenty. Much respect to anyone who can handle more.

Rythum method. It works! We have 5.

"We" didn't. I did. I grew up with 7 brothers and sisters - working class poor.

We had a baby girl, then a baby boy 13 months later. I got snipped.

The End.

After 2, we said "no mas!"

My lady bore me a daughter, whom I love, but we needed a son to carry on the Flagpole name, so I said, "woman, get in there and make me a son!"

She did because I wear the pants in the family.

No need to tell I said that though.

Family Style wrote:

How did you and your wife/husband figure out how many you would have?

We and the wife visited the Lets run forum boards and let our emotions and reason be guided by the posts of people we knew nothing about, even the registered users. We made assumptions about those posters (which may have been incorrect) and followed up on the feelings those posts gave us (posts that may have been taken out of context of the actual circumstances, appearance and realities of the posters).

thejeff wrote:

After 2, we said "no mas!"

After the divorce, we stopped having kids!

And 25 years later I stopped paying support for them.

We planned to have three as we thought that was a good number. However I almost died giving birth to my second child and I said no more after that. The experience was very scary what I can remember of it.

We have one. I think we are unsure if we will ever have a second. I always thought I wanted two. Then we had one. Now I'm not sure, and it's not because I don't like being a father but it's a different experience than I expected in many ways. So I would say, don't set any numbers. Have a kid, see if you like it, imagine adding to the experience, and then decide whether or not to do it again.

Ca$hclay wrote:

It's not a mutual decision. However many she wants she gets.

^

This!

"Once we had some experience with that little assh0le" - Jesus Christ!!

"it became clear that zero was the right number of kids for us" ... I agree.