Parents cut me off. I have no idea what I'm going to do.

Pull yourself up by your bootstraps.

I have been on my own financially since age 17.

My mother became homeless, and went to live with her mother.

My father - somewhat famous in track circles, was horrifically abusive and abandoned the family.

I went to school on a track scholarship back when men received track scholarships, so I was lucky.

I never thought of smoking weed or drinking anything more than a minimal sip or two or letting my grades slip. There was no Mommy around to give me money or back me up. I had less margin for error, and damn well knew it. I actually was very fortunate in real world practical terms but did not think so at the time. I did not miss the money or financial support from my parents, but of course I really missed not having functional, caring parents to love. I made my own family.

The original poster here should have recognized that in fact he too, had little margin for error, and well, to act like it. I have trouble having sympathy for guys in this situation but I remind myself that living a life with supportive parents who start life on third base has its own set of problems. No one has a right to their parents money to go to college or do anything. Be responsible to the guy in the mirror, and do it well.

So you paid for your girlfriend to go on vacation with her friends while you stayed home? Basically you paid for her to go off and get drunk and get some international D. Sucker.

Mooch off all your successful friends and vote for Bernie, then you can get your tuition paid on the back of the tax payers. That will show your parents! Feel the Bern!

This thread is useless without pics of the girlfriend.

I didn't read anything on this thread... BUT...

The answer is to start a GoFund me campaign to pay your expenses, no matter how frivolous.

It's the millennial way!

Getting cut off is the best thing that can happen to you. Maybe it'll wake you up that you're throwing your life away. Anyone who gets dui is a loser. Your gf is a loser. And you're a loser for doing that. Drinking is a dead-end street. And driving under the influence is just insane. Be thankful you didn't kill yourself or anyone else. If you killed my son or daughter doing that, I'd kill you with my bare hands and that would take care of that.

Your parents didn't cut you off to save money. They want you to wise up. Man up. Grow up. Be responsible. Just do it. Make this the first day of the rest of your life.

If you become responsible, date and marry a decent girl, and have kids, some day you'll be able to warn them about the dead-end street you were going down. Life is too good to throw it away.

$1000 a month allowance??? You are an idiotic rich kid who finally got some sense kicked into him. I guarantee I wouldn't spend any money on drugs or alcohol and I'm in college. You are stupid for paying for her plane ticket. You should've slept on the couch and she sleeps on your bed but if you are both adults as you claim then it doesn't matter that your parents cut you off.You should be fine. You are even more of a dumba** for drunk driving, you should have been arrested. Stop saying you are just a regular college kid, your parents probably don't give a crap about any other kid, they are looking out for you. And no kid gets that big of an allowance, they work a job and make money. Transfer to CC and get a decent AA to get a career. And look up the definition of allowance, the money isn't meant for you to spend as you please. And dump your trashy gf. Get your life together or you won't have one

LoL. This is a funny made up story. Who gets an allowance past 3rd grade?

When you make mistakes you’re a kid. When you want to disrespect your parents rules in their house you’re an adult. (Sleeping with G.F)

You’re used to a certain lifestyle and your parents took that away from you. In my opinion your parents should have never given you an allowance. Once you’re an adult, you’re an adult. That is when they needed to cut you off.

I believe that cutting a child off when they make a mistake is wrong. I believe that what they should have done is cut you off when you became an adult. parents should not use money over your head as a form of punishment.

My husband has wealthy parents and I grew up poor. I told him that they need to cut him off and guess what he did? In three years My husband rose very high in a company and is very successful.

I am also very successful and his parents have more respect for us because I told him that we are adults and we will not except their money and they will love us unconditionally or they don’t have to be a part of our lives. That is what my parents taught me and that’s what I’ll be teaching my children. money is not a tool. money is not a weapon.

Move past this and learn how to be an adult if you wanna be called an adult. Your parents need to realize that they shouldn’t be using money to control you. If you want to spend your money (earned by you) on cocaine that’s your business. And that’s when they *could* step in and help you emotionally rather than with guilt and shame.

I am truly sorry for your troubles. You deserve credit for owning up to your less than stellar choices. My own perspective is that, even with your bad choices, your parents are making an even worse choice. By cutting off financial support they are basically admitting that the only thing that matters in a relationship is money. A better decision would be to continue supporting you but insist that you get some help for impulsive behavior. I have some perspective on this as a parent and also because I was cut off by my parents when I was 18. The situation was somewhat different because in my case my parents, also wealthy, cut me off because they did not want to support my decision to study music in college. As a result I did not begin college until I was old enough for colleges to consider me independent. That was eight years--so I began music school at age 26. In some ways that set me back in life but in other ways I was vastly more appreciative of my college education when I did get there. I now have a PhD in music and a very good career. My parents still try to contact me but I have not had a single conversation with them since 1985. By telling me that they would not support my educational choice they said "money is what matters in our relationship". I disagreed with that philosophy and quite frankly I have never regretted having them out of my life. I have three kids of my own, two in college, and they have screwed up a few times, but what my wife and I have taught them is that making mistakes is part of life, and we do our best to help them understand why mistakes are mistakes and to move on. I wish your parents had taken that perspective. This is just my view, and I really wish you the best. You will find your way, either on your own or with your parents. In my case I had some very lean years age 18-22, living in group houses making money in retail and playing in bands--but I really learned how to live and take 100% responsibility for life. It is not what I would have wished for my kids because it was hard, but it was the best path for me not having parents who truly loved me.

Thanks for bumping 3 years later.

OP- you still out there trolling? Got any life updates to share?

WinnWinthrop wrote:

My parents still try to contact me but I have not had a single conversation with them since 1985.

You will regret this. I was in agreement with some of your post then you drop this bomb. What a petty reason to not talk to your parents. By and far a music degree is basically toilet paper. Good for you for going your own way AND making it work. And you even admit that you were MORE APPRECIATIVE because you had to earn your way in YOURSELF. Who do you think you have to thank for that? Oh yeah the parents YOU IGNORE BECAUSE YOU ARE A GROWN UP BRAT THAT STILL FEELS THEY SHOULD HAVE BEEN HANDED THEIR EDUCATION because your parents did well for themselves and therefore you are OWED their money. Absolutely not.

When they are dead I hope you can finally feel released from this horrible prison you live in and realize that family is more than money (and you still believe this even as a grown ass adult what the hell is wrong with you)

Interesting how you have so much information about my family. You aren't my cousin Ed by any chance? If so, it's been so many years since we have spoken, but clearly not enough years. Curious about your sentence; "By and far a music degree is basically toilet paper." Whatever you studied it clearly wasn't English. I actually don't care what you think of a music degree. I didn't earn it for you. (Incidentally, did you mean my B.A. in music, my M.A. or my doctorate? Perhaps you meant all of them? I am guessing that.) Music is heaven on earth to me and has give me and many other people joy, and I have my professors to thank for a large part of that--not my parents. They where happy to pay for expensive religious boot camp, but never for music lessons. And about my parents, how can you be so sure I will regret not being in touch with them? I did not ask to be born into their family, just as I did not ask to have my teeth knocked in by my dad when he drank too much at my middle school graduation. I also didn't ask to have a mother who covered for his a$$ after several violent assaults. So, no will not regret never speaking to them again. But I am glad you are so sure of other people's business.

My Goodness boy, GROW UP.... be a man, and a responsible ADULT. I'm assuming your parents work for their money. You are not entitled to all this irresponsible, juvenile behavior and your parents are not required to foot the bill for your bad choices and immaturity. I had to reread your post twice. "persecuted"??? No, it's called "accountability" Geeeeez. Id have cut you off long before they did. SMH

CherylPop wrote:

My Goodness boy, GROW UP.... be a man, and a responsible ADULT.

He did. This thread was created 4 years ago.