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Anyone who uses that word does so to show that they can get away with it. Not only that, and more importantly, they do it to show that you can't, if you don't look like them. In so doing, they show that they're the kind of person who has no problem with inequality as long as they're on the beneficial end of it. They get off on the notion that they can do something that you can't. That's why people use that word.
But go ahead, go on pretending that it's just another pesky double standard.
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What are you talking about?If a bunch of black people are alone (in places you probably do not frequent much) and are using the word among themselves, who are they trying to show they can get away with it? They are not trying to show anybody anything. They are having a conversation among themselves in the way they see fit. They are not trying to send a message to a bunch of people who wouldn't be caught dead in that neighborhood. In that setting, the idea of inequality and who benefits by ones choice of words is entirely irrelevant. Most of the time when black people use that word there is no political statement being made, and it certainly isn't used to somehow keep white people in their place or denigrate them.
Hard as it may be for you to accept it, what white people think is not at the center of a black person's every thought or action.
Harrison might very well have muttered the same thing about Jahlil Okafor had he been asked about him instead.
When one woman calls another woman a b*tch, she is not being mysoginistic or attempting to somehow subjugate the other woman. Depending on the context, she could be messing around with a friend, or she could be expressing displeasure with another woman, but she is not asserting some sort of superiority based on her gender.
When one gay person calls another gay person a f*g (if they chose to do so for some reason), it would likely have a very different meaning than if the same thing were said by a straight person.
This is not to say that I condone the use of any of those words or that I would advocate that anybody use them. But, when I hear them, I understand that their usage has to be interpreted in light of the context in which they are used. Who is saying the word to whom, under what circumstances, and the nature of their relationship/interaction is all highly relevant. If you feel aggrieved because you probably should not be saying any of these words ever and you somehow feel like you ability to express yourself freely is being infringed upon, then you need to take that up with the people who you feel are keeping you from using those words, after you do some self-reflection on why it is so important to you to be able to use those words in your conversations.
Question. If Harrison had just called Kaminsky a b*tch, would you have thought he were being sexist?