Does a girl's sexual past matter?

Dial it up wrote:

If a man has more sexual partners than a female, the sex is likely decent and longer than average. The other way around is probably like a hot dog in a hallway.

Ok, so, again, game on for guys sleeping with whomever as frequently as they wish because, you know, "they are good at it." But, if a woman does the same behaviour, use the derogatory, shaming words of your choosing.

It's called the Madonna–whore complex and you are living it. And so is the OP.OP and you will be sexually frustrated once you marry "the one." Good luck with that.

The OP has no business judging her. That is not to say the OP's girlfriend doesn't have some red-flag relationship issues if the OP's posts are true.

HonestThief wrote:

I disagree with this. Firstly, our society is hardly Puritanical anymore. No one hangs the slut in the street or stones her,

Huh? Plenty of shaming of women with active sexual history going on in this thread.

HonestThief wrote:A majority of people are seeking at least some form of relationship before they sleep with someone. The depth of that relationship varies, but aside from the 2 or 3 flings, most people don't enjoy sex with strangers. Also, most people want a longterm relationship with the person they are intimate with. Sex is so much better in a healthy, longterm, loving relationship than it is when she's your 10th girl of the week, or month, or even year.

I love this. It's either anonymous flings or strict monogamy. There are all kinds of sexual arrangements out there and as long as it's healthy, safe consensual arrangement, you have no business judging it.

Madonna–whore complex Look it up.

pop_pop! wrote:

There are all kinds of sexual arrangements out there and as long as it's healthy, safe consensual arrangement, you have no business judging it.

It's not your business to tell others who they want to judge. Nor is it your business to decide what's "healthy, safe, and consensual".

Yours Truly, Steve wrote:

http://www.letsrun.com/forum/flat_read.php?thread=1957467&page=0

What's so interesting about an 8 year old short and boring thread? Did you just learn to search the boards?

pop_pop! wrote:

Dial it up wrote:

If a man has more sexual partners than a female, the sex is likely decent and longer than average. The other way around is probably like a hot dog in a hallway.

Ok, so, again, game on for guys sleeping with whomever as frequently as they wish because, you know, "they are good at it." But, if a woman does the same behaviour, use the derogatory, shaming words of your choosing.

It's called the Madonna–whore complex and you are living it. And so is the OP.OP and you will be sexually frustrated once you marry "the one." Good luck with that.

The OP has no business judging her. That is not to say the OP's girlfriend doesn't have some red-flag relationship issues if the OP's posts are true.

You do understand I didn't make this up right? Its nature. A male can impregnate a female, and continue to impregnate many others soon after without being inhibited. Meanwhile, once a female is pregnant, its 9 months of baby cookin. Kind of silly for you to call out judgmental people in the most judgmental and assuming way possible.

Additionally, not every male who chooses to use loose women for sex and nothing more has some sort of complex. They also are not destined for a life of sexual frustration. My experience has been quite the opposite.

I get the whole feminism, its not fair, everything should be equal, blah blah blah. However, males and females are different. Biologically and otherwise. Not sure why the cool new thing is to act like men and women aren't different.

PS the hotdog in a hallway thing was a joke, but anatomically a vagina is more loose after being stretched so I'm not sure why you're arguing that.

zohan wrote:

yes it matters. There was a good thread on here a few years ago asking How Many is Too Many?

Great responses. Although I'm still calling BS on the guys that say "It doesn't matter."

How many is too many? 1 is too many. You should wait til marriage. That simple.

The fact you assuming I'm being judgmental shows you are insecure with your choices. I'm not judging people who choose a more promiscuous lifestyle, I'm simply stating most people prefer a more monogamous lifestyle. And did I say strict monogamy? No, I said some form of relationship and that the depth of that relationship varies. Then I stated my personal opinion shared by many that sex is better in a longterm relationship (note I dont say strictly marriage or x# of years).

Dial it up wrote:

pop_pop! wrote:

Uh huh....

And a guy that sleeps with many women lets women treat him like a slut, has no self respect and would never be taken home to the parents by the girl. Because, you know, something is wrong with that.

Am I right?

Women who like sex should be neither ashamed nor discouraged. Her sexual behaviour, just like a man's, needs to be healthy and safe.

Based on earlier posts, the guy has some kind of antiquated view of some appropriate number of sexual partners for his potential sexual partners. That is what it is and reasoning won't change it. He should probably just move on.

If a man has more sexual partners than a female, the sex is likely decent and longer than average. The other way around is probably like a hot dog in a hallway.

Speak for yourself - I've never had that problem.

They need to have had at least three partners, preferably 15, Ignorance is not bliss.

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Dial it up wrote:

If a man has more sexual partners than a female, the sex is likely decent and longer than average. The other way around is probably like a hot dog in a hallway.

Speak for yourself - I've never had that problem.

What problem are you referring to?

This thread is quite humorous. Bunch of concupiscent degenerates opining on the merits of chastity. People in glass houses....

Dial it up wrote:

................... wrote:

Speak for yourself - I've never had that problem.

What problem are you referring to?

Your 2 incher.

Dial it up wrote:

You do understand I didn't make this up right? Its nature.

Yeah that explains everything... :/

I see the errors of my ways. Men can have many partners as a matter of pride, but women will only ever be either whores or virgins.

pop_pop! wrote:

Dial it up wrote:

You do understand I didn't make this up right? Its nature.

Yeah that explains everything... :/

I see the errors of my ways. Men can have many partners as a matter of pride, but women will only ever be either whores or virgins.

True. But most men won't get many partners even how hard they try whereas a woman can get a new guy almost every day. So men will only ever be either Don Juans or losers.

This is statistics, you know. Oh well you don't.

a million one and done wrote:

mean, median, average, statistics

It takes a lot of Plato's Retreat Swingers to influence an average that has so many one and done 'traditional religious marriage' couples in the set.

I wonder what the numbers look like if we use a set of sexually active&actively dating individuals.

The numbers I gave were medians, so they're pretty representative of the typical person out there. I would guess the average would be significantly higher because there's a small but significant group of people with very high numbers of sexual partners. A lot of people do still get married by their early 20s also. Those who date and are still unmarried at 34 have probably had quite a few partners. Around 20% of men and women have no more than one partner in their lifetime according to the data I found.

I just want to say, thank you pop_pop! for your post and a few others. It's nice to see some people actually responding to some of the ridiculous misogyny going on on here.

small it up wrote:

Dial it up wrote:

What problem are you referring to?

Your 2 incher.

Poor attempt. Notice I said "probably" like a hotdog in a hallway. I don't bang sluts, no conquest in that. I take the Bj and move on

pop_pop! wrote:

Dial it up wrote:

You do understand I didn't make this up right? Its nature.

Yeah that explains everything... :/

I see the errors of my ways. Men can have many partners as a matter of pride, but women will only ever be either whores or virgins.

Sorry to burst your bubble but life isn't fair and everything isn't equal. If I were you I wouldn't look into this whole Easter bunny thing...