Wow. What a snobby girl. What is she, like 14?? That's the dumbest thing I've heard.
Wow. What a snobby girl. What is she, like 14?? That's the dumbest thing I've heard.
keep the canolli .... lose the girl
Dick in a Box
its inevitable wrote:
Runner Giver wrote:Thanks for the ideas. She told me last night that she loves me. I just kissed her back and did not say anything. (Cause I don't feel it at least not yet). Does this change what to give her???
Well good luck with the whole no reply thing. Unless it was discussed last night, prepare for her to start stewing and for it to blow on Christmas night if there is not a romantic gift or gesture equivalent to an "I love you" statement. If you are getting her a plant, it won't go well. There will need to be a romantic, personal element to the gift.- Ex. spa, jewelry (if she wears it), weekend trip, framed photos, very personalized gift. No mix tapes or minor things will fly, expect a romantic gesture gift coming your way.
Wow. I'm sorry that it went down like I thought it would. At least new Year's Eve went well but it looks like the pressure is really on for Valentine's Day.
Ouch on the "I love you thing." Yeah, you shouldn't say it if not feeling it, but she is definitely stewing over it, so... Make Valentine's plans. Now. And let her know you made them. This will reassure her that you envision this lasting, at least through February 14.
OP, how old are you and the girl?
Bump to see if there are any updates. Still together? Valentine\'s Day plans?
Still together. Still have not said the words. Still do not have my gps watch. Too early to worry about V day.
v day upon you. Any sign of the GPS?
Was V Day as much of a disaster as Christmas?
"She got me a Garmin and I got her a Christmas cactus". Haha! Dude I laughed out loud at this complete disaster.
I hope they make this relationship into a reality show.
well? we will pester until there are details. we are legion.
WHAT? This woman sounds insane! Why would she get a Garmin for you, then say I'm keeping it till you say I love you...that sounds like insanity..Why not just get you an appropriate gift for what a one month relationship would expect (like you did) and not be manipulative about it.
As a woman, I would advise you to leave this lady, she seems extremely manipulative...Many more reasonable fish in the sea!
I've been with my bf for 5 years and we only get "gifts" when we think of them and its special, not because the market tells us its the time of year to spend lots of money on each other...I think it is much more reasonable way of approaching it, and more genuine.
sooooo wrote:
Was V Day as much of a disaster as Christmas?
I had a pretty decent evening planned for Valentine's Day, I definitely have developed feelings for her, but just going with the flow. I have told her that I realize she is looking for more than that and I will let her know as soon as I can, but that for me feelings and words have meaning so I told her she has to decide whether to wait or not. She is generally cool with the situation. Clearly she was expecting some movement on Valentine's Day, but as it turned out she was on travel and because of the snowstorm did not make it back for our big Valentines Day date.
Appreciate all the comments, I do not think I am really in a bad situation, I can live without a Garmin.
The Christmas cactus is still blooming by the way, and her mom said "how thoughtful".
Runner Lady wrote:
WHAT? This woman sounds insane! Why would she get a Garmin for you, then say I'm keeping it till you say I love you...that sounds like insanity..Why not just get you an appropriate gift for what a one month relationship would expect (like you did) and not be manipulative about it.
As a woman, I would advise you to leave this lady, she seems extremely manipulative...Many more reasonable fish in the sea!
I've been with my bf for 5 years and we only get "gifts" when we think of them and its special, not because the market tells us its the time of year to spend lots of money on each other...I think it is much more reasonable way of approaching it, and more genuine.
not sure how many reasonable female fish are in the sea
5 years is a long time to be with someone and still be bf and gf, just saying you are not the norm
My gf and I lived together from 1963 until her death in 2002
throw back wrote:
5 years is a long time to be with someone and still be bf and gf, just saying you are not the norm
Norms are mathematical constructs real life is real,
married, white picket fence, 1.6 children, 0.6 dogs, church on Sunday, PTA on Thursday, dinner at the club with The Bickersons second Saturday of the month, tripleplay cable bundle with 4 premiums and two weeks at the lake in August are norms too.
A vibrator and any classic video from the 80's.
Good for you living la vida loco normal norm
Runner Lady wrote:
WHAT? This woman sounds insane! Why would she get a Garmin for you, then say I'm keeping it till you say I love you...that sounds like insanity..Why not just get you an appropriate gift for what a one month relationship would expect (like you did) and not be manipulative about it.
As a woman, I would advise you to leave this lady, she seems extremely manipulative...Many more reasonable fish in the sea!
I've been with my bf for 5 years and we only get "gifts" when we think of them and its special, not because the market tells us its the time of year to spend lots of money on each other...I think it is much more reasonable way of approaching it, and more genuine.
My wild guess is she is both young and immature. It won't get very serious. Or, it can't.
She might be able to simulate affection, but that's about it.
Today seems to be a relationship day on the forum? Any updates on how this turned out? Did you ever get that Garmin?