Dumped over Holidays?

Did you manage to get a break-up hump out of the situation?

Ha I wish. I forgot to add that this charmer did the breaking up over the phone.

Only advice I can give is, don't get serious with a girl when you're on the rebound... the next relationship should be as short as possible. Go to a local 5K race or New Years party, chat up some nice girl who seems interested in a quick fling and make things happen. When you've just been dumped your standards tend to be lower and are more apt to get caught in a crappy relationship. Get back in the saddle and get your confidence back up.

This is my advice. Criticize it if you must, but remember, you asked for it.

Good luck.

Hi. Thanks for the advice, but actually I am a girl! Yes girls get dumped too! I know mostly guys post here, so I will probably get no sympathy. But really he is a jerk for what he did.

In these matters, it's very easy to give advice, and exceedingly difficult to accept it. The reality is that you've been dumped. It may have had something to do with running; it may have had nothing to do with running. Even good and basically honest people are less than forthcoming about their reasons for breaking up. My own view is that, if someone really wants to be with you, nothing as inconsequential as running is going to get in the way. Running is sometimes a convenient excuse for breaking up, and it is often a catalyst for breaking up, but I suspect that it is rarely "the reason" for breaking up. The one harsh truth that you can count on is that, right now, this person doesn't want the relationship that you want.

Sorry for assuming you were a dude. But my advice is gender-neutral. It's actually better for you being a girl, you have a MUCH better chance of finding a dude in search of a short term relationship... as a bonus you might find a guy in the same situation looking for the same thing. That way you both win and you both can move on with your life. From what you've said, you need to raise your standards just a tad :-D

Don't respond to her, she's evil, she's trying to get you to date her so she can ruin your running career.

haha. A_Goofy_Runner you are soo right I am a woman, therefore I am inherently evil. My mission is to ruin as many running careers as possible. Too bad my ex was able to see through my master plan. Damn!

If SeeDickRun1 is legit--and I doubt it--stay pissed off and don't start wondering why it happened or any of that nonsense. Such a calculated break up deserves no remedy. Chances are he will be back and you would be stupid to let him have his way right away. You shouldn't give him a second chance at all--but by all means don't mope and start looking for a replacement right away. Forget that rebound crap--you didn't have a boyfriend in the first place when you thought you did. Don't pass over the nerd that most girls wouldn't give a second shot, if you want a commited replacement. Ignore whatever your girlfriends might think--they are just bitches anyway.

My mission is to ruin as many running careers as possible.

Lol, more power to you!

Are you hot, SeeDickRun1?

If so, you're invited to my New Year's Party in Connecticut.

If not, you're still welcome if you have hot friends.

NYP you are probably serious--but you just canceled out any possible affirmative reply. Go to your mom and ask her why I just said this--dummy.

See Dick Run,

I was going to type almost verbatim what oldguy did there. He's right of course. Bottom line is that he didn't want to be with you anymore. I know that sucks, but reality can be a bitch. Also true though is that you don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you, and now that you know a little bit more about what NOT to get, you can do a better job finding a keeper the next time.

Taking advice on dumping from puny little runt runners? Hell, these little sissies are lucky to even get a girlfriend. A runt runner sure as hell woudn't dump a girl if he ever found one hard up enough to date him. Ha ha hahaha.

Flagpole Willy--you just gave same advice I just gave only in different words--and then you attributed it to oldguy. What--you pissed off at me too? You are making Mr. Chest look pretty smart.

I was dumbed last year on Valentine's Day. Nice, eh?

you probably deserved it

Yes it's true...I'm the guy who dumped See Dick Run. It is sad really, and I was sorry to do it but we had a problem, she is a sex-aholic. I assume she posted her because she knows I frequent these boards but the fact is she always wanted sex. Sex in my dorm room, under the cafeteria tabel at school, before practice after practice, etc. For god saked my balls were so shriviled it looked like two damn raisins. I'm sorry but I saw my PR's plumit and I knew, or thought I knew what I had to do. I now know my folly and sex is so much more rewarding then running. So please baby, take me back and lets get it on once more. I will quit running and let you run my life for good. You will always get the last say and whatever you want you will get. My money, my time and my "little friends." I was scared off by the fact that you were trying to trap me into the relationship by "forgeting" your birth control. I now know better and will never ever forget all the sacrafices you made for me...after all those guilt trips for going to practice were totally legit baby. I'm sorry hunny, give me a call and I'll be over to suck your toes as soon as you call.

Your little love bunny!

I told her to look for a replacement dude--she doesn't need you. Especially not if it is some pill thing you break up over. I hope she doesn't take you back--idiot.