Got dumped! run performance suffering

If he's the one asking for space/time and you still want to be with him, then you have one realistic option. Give it to him.

Typically, when a guy says he isn't sure what he wants, what he really means is that he wants to look around for someone else. He very well may come back soon, but at that point, it's up to you to decide if you want him back or if you are too jaded to trust that he'll stick around this time.

Your not alone, almost anyone that has been in a few serious relationships has been in a similar situation.

My gf of several years told me that she needed time alone. Even though we had a great relationship. She dated a few guys, after 6 months realized i was the one. She wanted to start it up again, but i had moved on.

If its meant to be he will come back. But its up to him to initiate.

mic

This could only be written by a girl. The guy is into running, school, and other things. I didn't see your name on the list of things he's interested in. If you didn't make the list, move on.

You'll run much faster hating him every step of your next XC race. Just think of him when you look at the girls ahead of you.

Even though its the hardest thing in the world to do... you should start trying to move on and begin healing. Don't wait around for him to decide... what if you get back together and he decides to do the same thing again? You will start hurting just as bad all over again.

As blinded as I may be i really do think he is just very overwhelmed. His mother has major medical problems, he's working partime, he's at a crossroads trying to figure out what faculty he wants to pursue, while juggling running.

I know he is uncertain whether I am the one.

The thing that hurts most is he does not want anyone to help him. I have told him that if in order to help, it means were just friends i would be ok with that.

Concentrate on yourself.

Here's what i do: I go to the bar pickup a lil hottie. Make sweet love to her. If i wake up the next morning, and am still thinking about my ex i know it as meant to be.

Best way to get back at him, perform!

Take your anger out on your competition and just dominate, everytime you hit a hill, get mad and kill it! You'll have the race of your life and feel great doing it.

Good luck

miserable wrote:

As blinded as I may be i really do think he is just very overwhelmed. His mother has major medical problems, he's working partime, he's at a crossroads trying to figure out what faculty he wants to pursue, while juggling running.

I know he is uncertain whether I am the one.

The thing that hurts most is he does not want anyone to help him. I have told him that if in order to help, it means were just friends i would be ok with that.

It sounds as if he is not ready to committ to you. People are rarely so overwhelmed they don't have time for love.

Stay celibate, you're better off in the long run, especially in this era of potentially-fatal STD's.

Remember, if you're intimate with someone, you are being essentially intimate with EVERYONE ELSE they've been with.

When in doubt, don't.

it's over. suck it up and move on. you'll thank yourself later.

When I first had to let a sweet lady down, I was nice and all and did the whole "I'm not sure where I'm at" thing, but she didn't get the hint. So, for the next few hundred, I just went for a short to-the-point sentence - "Look woman, it's over." A couple of times I had to resort to an open hand slap to the face, but that was only to protect myself, and once to protect her as she tried to cut her wrists. Granted, I'm worth it, but not everyone gets to do what they want to do, even if it was worth it.

Seriously though, love is never a one-way street. If it isn't reciprocated, then it's not worth pursuing - that's called stalking or at a minimum obsession.

Wait until you are in a place in your life where the men have time for you. The sooner you decide he isn't for you, the sooner the pain will end.

Good luck, and don't fret. There's someone out there for you who will make this joker look like Shrek.

Ask your self why you would want to be with someone that does not want to reciprocate your feeling.

Some of my best training has beenn after breakups.

The Voice of Experience wrote:

Stay celibate, you're better off in the long run, especially in this era of potentially-fatal STD's.

Remember, if you're intimate with someone, you are being essentially intimate with EVERYONE ELSE they've been with.

When in doubt, don't.

Ummm....condoms?

Do you live anywhere close to Philly. I can help you forget about him for an hour or so anyway. No STDs here.

NO. However, I should have elaborated.

Relationships are the rocky shoals of life. After a certain age the hormones don't percolate so much and it's

a lot easier to deal with.

I agree. You should move on. Although it hurts now, you will be better off in the long run.

grizzled veteran wrote:

it's over. suck it up and move on. you'll thank yourself later.

guys are like trollies,

there'll be another around in 10 minutes.

tommy wolfe

ps: oh yeah, this only holds if you believe it.

ps2: and the point isn't the guy. it's how your stomach feels as you fall asleep at night.

I mean no offense to you personally miserable, but I KNEW you had to be a woman by the subject title. In my experience woman run much better when they have a significant other, while men run much worse!

I dunno, i seem to run awesome when i'm tappin that ass. Its way too much work pickin up girls & juggling running