brofest333 wrote:
Married guys. I am 25, and had a serious girlfriend for 3 years steaming from college. By the end I just was so bored with only being with 1 woman. Things got old, things got boring. There was nothing new or sexy or exciting. This largely was a sign we probably shouldn't date anymore but I also felt the exact same thing from an earlier relationship. Now I just want to go on as many dates as possible, see and meet as many women as possible. It isn't even a sexual thing, I just got bored with being with one person all the time. The thing is we had great chemistry too, she was hilarious and never got mad.
So married guys does this feeling of wanting to be around other women sort of just fade in your mid 30s? It definitely hasn't changed at 25.
It sounds to me like maybe you guys didn't actually have a ton in common. I have met many people in long term relationships who think they're supposed to be together but who are not at all right for each other. Personally, when I'm around people (and women) who I get along with great AND who I have a lot in common with (outlook on life, interests, hobbies, sense of humor, etc), the fun times are endless. If I found myself with a girl like that I would have no desire to ditch the relationship for anything, though of course my eyes would still stray.
I recently got out of a 9 month relationship with a girl who was reasonably smart, very nice, and low-maintenance. I do not miss the relationship at all though because I couldn't go hiking with her, watch movies with her, or talk about any book I was reading with her. Those are three pretty big things. I mean, if you're married, you're going to spend a lot of time watching TV and movies together. Hiking is a huge part of my life. If I can't take a girl hiking with me, we're going to be spending a lot of weekends apart. I read every day and read really interesting and thought-provoking stuff, so if I can't even give a 5 minute synopsis of a 400 page book with you without you staring blankly at me and then talking about your friend's dog, I don't think the relationship is destined for greatness.
In your example, it sounds like you guys got along great, had fun with sex, etc, but weren't really compatible beyond that, and when you're looking for a "soul mate" or "life partner," you need to be seriously compatible in a few different ways.
I'm 25, single, never married and have only had a few serious relationships though, so take my advice with a grain of salt.