Single, 35, no kids: what does society think?

I am the OP. And I am a troll. I can't believe how successful my trolling effort was!

Troll win!

Need to study wrote:

However, in my experience, most of the people I know that are still single at that age are socially awkward. Many come from backgrounds where their own parents were either divorced, never married, or not happily married. Fortunately, both my wife and myself were brought up by parents who loved and respected each other. We came from large families and our brothers/sisters are also happily married. I have loved being married and having a family, but it isn't for everyone.

ahhhh... the self-righteous, "Only f@#ked up people get divorced" meme.

Didn't read most of the thread, but a never-married, no-kids, in-shape guy in his mid 30s is probably more likely to get laid than any other male demographic category.

Marriage as a signalling practice is relevant in the trailer park, and that is about it.

Modern, educated urban professionals do not care about your marital status.It is such a crap shoot.

I'm single, 40s, no kids, great career, great salary, savings, home, blah blah and blah. For me, marriage and cohabitation are simply out of the question. This man is no fool. I'd rather die alone than have to go through a single @$$ raping in court. Given the relationship minefield we live in, I even installed motion activated day/night cameras in the non-private areas of my home. Not taking any chances. Divorce and false rape/DV are life enders. Watch your back!

Lol - what is "a single @$$ raping in court"

You with the cameras in non-private areas. Relaaax. It's a beautiful day! No one is out to hurt you luv :)

M SURE YO MUM WAS LIKE THAT ....DO U KNOW WHO YO DAD IS

Lyndon LaRouche wrote:

Need to study wrote:

However, in my experience, most of the people I know that are still single at that age are socially awkward. Many come from backgrounds where their own parents were either divorced, never married, or not happily married. Fortunately, both my wife and myself were brought up by parents who loved and respected each other. We came from large families and our brothers/sisters are also happily married. I have loved being married and having a family, but it isn't for everyone.

ahhhh... the self-righteous, "Only f@#ked up people get divorced" meme.

I just read this entire thread thinking it was recent...

To be fair to "Need to study," it sounds like he was saying the inverse of what you inferred. That if a child's parents divorce, it can sometimes (he says "many," not "all") hurt the chances of that child connecting later in life.

I never wanted them.

I finally found a lady willing to marry me but she died of brain cancer in our 17th year of marriage.

it's tough to find someone that docent want kids either.

All of us who know from the start that we don't want kids know what we are in for when the time comes.

it's like Springsteen said about the road we are on "Nobody kidding' nobody about where it goes"

And I am nearly there.

it's good that we do what we really believe in..kids were not right for me.

Im 61 years old now, no family and realize that within the next 30 years, I'll be taken care of by some tattooed lady named Wanda in some shit hole group home someplace, who'll cuss me out when I can't control my bowels and crap in my depends.

I really dread that day.

It's coming and theres nothing I or anyone else like me can do about it.

Hey man, I am really sorry to hear about your wife. That fvcking sucks and I have no idea what you must have gone through but I am sorry.

Don't be so negative. You're 61, but my grandfather met a woman at 73 and they lived together until she dies at 90 and he died at 93. Hey... at least you don't have to worry about the kids thing anymore :)

Personally, I wanted kids. I have a lot of respect - I mean A LOT OF RESPECT - for people who don't want kids and don't have them. Too many people don't want kids and have them anyway, which is unfair to the kids and to society.

Wanda can go to hell. Get yourself a lady and take care of each other. Or just go do your own thing and go down swinging!

Simple. Just hire a hitman to take you out on a random day at a random time in your 70th year.

Be proactive!

Your Father wrote:

To answer the OP:

Something is wrong with a guy who hasn't married by 35. You have a wire a bit loose. It doesn't make you a bad person, but it signifies something is wrong.

Travel, freedom, money? What good/fun are these things without a wife and/or family? What, are you going to go travel around and spend money alone? None of your married friends are going to go on a vacation with you. If they do, aren't you just "burdened" by them?

Are you going to go travel with your good buddy Jim? Oh, no, that is fine. We totally believe that you and Jim are just platonic buddies who happen to go to Venice or St. Johns together each year...

Get real...

Argo piss yourself. I'm 68 never married, no kids, retired, still able to run. At 35 I was the envy of almost everyone in the running community as well as my workplace. Yeak got ragged on a lot about my status, even a fist fights as some jagoff thought I was ogling his sexy wife. It's all about how you feel about yourself.

For the record I do ogle women young, older and prepared to face the consequences. Also do have a few female close friends.

Insecure about my standing wrote:

I'm single, never married, and no kids. Age 35. I work full time and run recreationally. Running is my primary hobby. I've never married, and don't see myself ever doing so.

So...how does society view me? Loner, loser, perv, what?

It's all about how you feel how your life is, where you are going, what you want, etc.

See my previous post, thought I'd respond to that rather condescending post to you.

Jack Farrell's Nemesis wrote:

[quote]Your Father wrote:

To answer the OP:

Something is wrong with a guy who hasn't married by 35. You have a wire a bit loose. It doesn't make you a bad person, but it signifies something is wrong.

Travel, freedom, money? What good/fun are these things without a wife and/or family? What, are you going to go travel around and spend money alone? None of your married friends are going to go on a vacation with you. If they do, aren't you just "burdened" by them?

Are you going to go travel with your good buddy Jim? Oh, no, that is fine. We totally believe that you and Jim are just platonic buddies who happen to go to Venice or St. Johns together each year...

Get real...

To, Your Father

You were trolling?

Sadly enough what you posted IS the kind of attitude which is directed to anyone who departs from the 'norm' or what's 'respectable' in our society. As if married with kids is all that respectable - loved that old sitcom :)

I'm one who has never had any close friends anyhow, not a joiner, cannot be persuaded to do any volunteer work these days, used to view racing as more of a mano a mano deal. Was a running club member but was always turned off by how cliquish and gossipy people could be - hence the couple of brawls I got into, which got me banned from a few things.

This is really what's up. That woman that you've met who's traveled to a lot of countries? That means gotten with a lot of guys. More easy sex than most guys could get. The thing is that they wait for you to do all the work so they don't appear easy. Don't be fooled.

I think about my single friends in their late 30s and wonder why. Too immature, alcoholic party boy, unrealistic relationship expectations, difficult to get along with, shitty partner, bad personality, eccentric person, spent too much time focused on career goals, missed their chance.

I don't think they are gay. Usually the closet cases are married to keep up appearances.

Dude keep yourself healthy and you may have the most active social life IN the rest home! Most of the occupants of the rest home are female so the males are in high demand. At that point it may be more friendship than dating but still it might be enjoyable.

Bump

The real reason this matters is that you will be judged over your marital status when you interview for jobs. Employers like to see married people, they think they're mature or stable or something. Sucks but that's life. I know one guy who considered wearing a wedding ring to an interview.