Funny, I was thinking the same thing when I read your post.
We have the ability to defy expectations, independent of how others view those actions. I didn't say a woman wasn't under certain pressures to be a homemaker, but how she chooses to react to those pressures is up to her, as are a number of choices that a man has to make, or a black person, or a rich person, or a Minnesotan, or a Frenchman, etc. We aren't free to be considered as we like, but we are free to act as we like.
My original post does not address women. It addresses men, and the legal and social implications of getting married... which incidentally does not have to be to a woman. Keep an open mind.
I deny neither pervasive racism or sexism. Differences in both race and gender are distinct and real, but any rational thinker understands that they are functionally irrelevant. There are always more differences within groups than between groups. Progress has been and is being made towards this rational understanding. All that said, your point here and my response to it are irrelevant to this thread's purpose, which doesn't ask about women's role in some marriages, but why a man should or shouldn't marry. The answer to that question may involve women, but it doesn't have to.
The option hasn't been offered to me. It isn't offered to most men in this day and age. Most women are turned off by a man who earns less than they do.