There seem to be an awful lot of relationship, divorce, and sex related threads on this message board, as well as two other sports related boards that I frequent, and the more I read, the less I get it. Why would an American male get married in this day and age?
American men, when married, are at a high risk of divorce in a system that inherently favors the woman in the proceedings. There is nothing that you can lose when unmarried that isn't equally likely to be lost if you are married. Child visitation rights, child support, all of it. There is no advantage to being married.
If marriage is supposed to be forever, then why does it matter if you're married or not? If a non-marital long term relationship ends eventually, then it wasn't going to last as a marriage anyway. If it does last, then nothing of value is lost beyond a chance for a fun party and a moderate tax incentive; I hope people advocating marriage aren't suggesting people do it for the tax incentive alone.
A man can only suffer from marriage. Divorce settlements if the marriage fails, post-nuptual shutoff if it succeeds. If a woman comes to rely on a man for his resources, she can take his resources after the divorce. But does the man have recourse to get what the woman provided to him? Of course not. How many former housewifes are legally bound to clean their ex-husband's house, have sex with him, and be supportive of him? Fiduciary arrangements aren't just monetary you know!
So can someone, anyone, PLEASE explain to me why an American male would get married rather than just have an un-married long term relationship with a woman?