Guys that cheated on your wives....do you regret it?

Wes Craven wrote:

Don't fvcking cheat on your wife.

Your wife is a hose bag. I had her then dumped her on your front lawn.keep your good Christian moral views, dummy.

There's no such thing as free p#$$y. You might cheat, you might get away with it, but that other chic wants something. She's going to hold that over you forever. She can blackmail you. She can just threaten to screw up your life by calling your wife. She could post all kinds of embarrassing stuff on social media.

So you can get some on the side, but you will pay, some how some way.. you will pay.

NotPC wrote:

There's no such thing as free p#$$y. You might cheat, you might get away with it, but that other chic wants something. She's going to hold that over you forever. She can blackmail you. She can just threaten to screw up your life by calling your wife. She could post all kinds of embarrassing stuff on social media.

So you can get some on the side, but you will pay, some how some way.. you will pay.

Yup, unless it’s with a hooker or something. Assuming it’s not, the other girl will use it against you to get whatever she wants.

Thought about it, but it's not worth it.

1) I love my wife and she's not cool with side chicks (knew this going into marriage)

2) I love my kids and couldn't bear the inevitable loss of custody

3) Even if I didn't pay for it, I'd be paying for it due to alimony/child support. No thanks.

Plenty of incentives to remain faithful.

I am somewhat bi and have a strong urge to scratch that itch from time to time. For the same reasons as above, I wouldn't do that without the wife's blessing. So far it's a no go.

Also helps that I live in the DEEP DEEP South where attractive women are consumed by the obesity monster early in their lives. Opportunities are few and separated by endless mounds of flab. It says a lot that the most attractive woman I've seen lately was a 50-something runner who showed up for my group's Sunday run. I'm under 35. She was fiiiiiine, but come on.

I love your wife too, we have sex weekly and our relationship is otherwise great, but I literally have sex with other women.

Oh ... I have no regrets cheating on your wife.

So you slept with someone who wasn't my wife? Cool.

Some people are just suckers for punishment. I suppose, in your defense, you can always say she knew what she was getting.

You shouldn't have gotten married if you're even considering that to be an option.

Not as much as their pitiful wives regret marrying the philandering SOBs

hahaha +1

Master of the Obvious wrote:

Please go write to Dear Abigail and get the hell off a running site.

Thanks.

NPH wrote:

I say go for it. You only live once. Your wife won't be hurt by your actions as long as you don't get caught. You just have to be absolutely sure you won't get caught, but that isn't too challenging if you are smart.

This is the biggest fallacy about having affairs.

Your affair will hurt your wife in ways you don’t understand, even if she never finds out.

It’s called ‘crazy making’ for women. She will know something is up, but feel crazy because she doesn’t have a concrete reason for feeling that way.

Also, it will hurt you. Your soul will be irreparably damaged. Feeding a craving for sex with other women will take you down a road you never thought you would find yourself on. All of your values (depending on what they are) will be violated.

I know all of this from experience, and I don’t say that proudly.

The devastation created by affairs is only seen in hindsight and is measured in ruined lives.

Completely agree. I failed miserably as a husband and three years ago had three different affairs over a several month period. Go ahead and judge me. I knew it was wrong and did it anyway, I was a selfish, arrogant, awful person. While my now ex-wife never found out about two of them, as a result of this poor decision making I’m now divorced, moved out of state away from friends and family and lost literally everything. While most of what was lost can be replaced eventually, the damage done to both the woman I swore to love forever and damage done to my soul cannot. There has not been one day that has gone by where I have not regretted my actions, nor thought of her. I cannot get her back. I have been dating and seeing other women and have a wonderful girlfriend now but still am wrapped and consumed with guilt and regret due to my past actions. Short story- don’t do it, not worth it.

I would never do anything like this to my wife if I got married. I'm waiting for my soulmate and will never touch anyone else. Your soulmate is for life and you should never touch anybody else. I like to think that I would be the perfect husband and will meet the perfect girl. I wouldn't marry someone which cheated/touched anyone either. Who would want that problems?

I think you should do it. Do you think I could have your wife's number?

There's a big difference between cheating 1 night thing, or an actual affair. A one off, maybe you flirt a bit and end up drinking with a woman and the two of you finally follow through once the inhibitions are down and circumstances present themselves.

An on going affair, to me that is just a bridge too far. It's not just a lie, it's an on going lie. You owe it to your spouse to just man up and divorce, or at the very least come up with a Bill & Hillary type agreement where you stay together for the kids/appearances but that's it.

short answer to your question:

A hard c0ck has no conscience.

The best advice is to think long and hard before getting married. Yes, there are some devoted, good women out there, but there all too many whose lifetime achievement is getting the ring. All too often, and I am one in this circumstance, men, especially when children arrive, become employees, and find themselves very low on their spouse's priority list. And most decent guys out there dearly love their children, and there is little doubt that that prospect of a man being deprived access to his children is a huge source of leverage for many women. This should not be taken as a misogynist statement, but this is the case in all too many marriages. The point is that a guy should avoid marriage unless he is certain that his spouse will keep the marriage a priority, and if married, should avoid having kids unless they are very certain that their life will remain in balance.