Guys that cheated on your wives....do you regret it?

happily married wrote:

It's not cheating if you don't get caught. Anonymous sex is great.

Read the other thread for more info on my situation, won't repeat it here.

Yup.

As long as you do not respect your wife enough to think that she is entitled to determine what information is important to her in deciding how to live her life then by all means go for it.

tough to justify usually wrote:

I can see both sides of this, but think it is tough to justify in many marriages. I would be really upset if my wife was getting boned by some other dude, in no small part because I don't want to be dealing with sloppy seconds and possible disease. Really this makes me shudder to think about. I make no moral judgment over what others decide is okay, but I don't want to deal with affairs in my marriage. I think it is very difficult to make polygamous marriages work out for everyone involved. A lot of chance for hurt feelings and STDs. I know I would deeply regret boning some other chick, even if times can be hard in marriage.

I am a woman who posted the 'empathy' statement. I figured that once you put yourself in the position of the "cheatee" and imagined your wife having sex with other men that you'd whistle a different tune. It works both ways, lads.

His wife could already be cheating on him without his knowledge. Right now he believes that she isn't cheating on him, so he is happy. If he cheats on his wife, all he has to do is not get caught. She will believe he isn't cheating and be happy. The actions don't matter. All that matters is what a person believes to be true. No one knows absolutely everything about a person. This can just be one more thing he chooses not to reveal.

I am shocked.

I am shocked.

HE wrote:

Probably the best advice I can give you is pay a weekly visit to a MP and get a HE. Nothing wrong with a good manual release - relieves the tension and desire. With NO cheating.

I once cheated on jamin with Island. shhhhhhhhhh don't tell jamin

Your right. Your not the best guy to give advice. Your just a cu- t!

Your wife has you down pact. She knows exactly how long she has to let her stretched womanhood re-tighten to the fit your accustomed to, but don't worry, it's just great anonymous sex right?

As the consensus says, don’t do it. You will ruin a great thing and end up with nobody. Women are professional investigators and always find out. You might think you are smarter and can hide it, but you aren’t. She’ll find something suspicious and once the suspcisian sets in you lose the trust she has for you. Once you lose the trust the marriage in inevitably doomed. It’s just a matter of time before something small like forgetting to take out the trash blows up into “you cheated” and it’s over.

Its never worth it. Avoid trouble, just use your imagination and masturbate.

Just wait a couple years and then you can start slamming robots.

You should just admit it to yourself that you want your wife to peg you. Ask her to do it. It will spice up your marriage.

Who digs this stuff up after months. Get a life.

Have some honor and integrity and don't do it. Everyone wonders what it would be like with someone else, but don't do it. She doesn't deserve to be betrayed by you. If you married her, you promised to be faithful. Man up and be true to your word.

And don't think nobody will know if you don't get caught. What cheaters fail to realize is that it changes you, the way you look at yourself, the way you look at your wife, your kids, your entire worldview.

My last relationship taught me a lot,it taught me not to ignore signs and my gut feeling.Now I know my worth,know what I want and won't settle for less again.No regrets,I need to learn those lessons and thanks to cyberrnectic@gamil.com for making this happened.

Monogamy is definitely unnatural for our species.

Convince her to have a few days a year off where either one of you can do anything you want. This way your not technically cheating because it’s technically allowed.

And never ever tell her if you do do anything with anyone else. Women never forget anything.

Interesting that pretty much everyone says, "As badly as we all want to cheat on our spouses, we should all suffer it out and choose not to." Makes me wonder why we're all choosing to be in a situation that makes us unhappy/dissatisfied.

Fannie Pack wrote:

Its a simple matter of - Do you care if you get caught?

How about the third option, "Babe, I got a wandering eye. How can I satisfy it in the marriage? That's how adults handle it.

This is NOT one of those times to get into complicated sexual relationships like swinging or open relationships. Because the marriage has to have both partners who are honest and can communicate before you do something complicated.

Don't cheat, jerk.

Besides, cheaters never win. Look at the POTUS.