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I'm happy and glad that my husband is finally getting into better shape. In fact, I am the one who encouraged him to go on a hike back when he turned 40. He was never really overweight, just not in good shape and I was worried about him. Today, he is running and looks better than ever. When I noticed how he started to slim down or fit nicely in his clothes, I would tell him how great he looked. I see other women look at him and it doesn't bother me at all.
As a woman, I do notice men who are fit (even women for that matter) and don't feel insecure at all. I think if you feel good about yourself, there is no reason to feel that way.
I am sorry, my quote was pretty stupid. I didn't mean all or even most. More like some. I don't even count my wife as one of them.
I think your situation is different though, b/c your husband was not as fit as you would have liked and you were "worried about him."
My wife has never known me to run under 60 miles a week, so she is in a different boat.
I think she is reaching a stage in her life when she wants to settle down a bit with the running. She doesn't want to train hard anymore, and I just don't even see my self running any less. I think this might make her a little insecure.
Lets just say you had a good buddy that you lived with for 10 years, trained your asses off together and both raced very well. You didn't compete, he ran 1,500 and you ran 10,000, but you were both super fit.
One day you decide to let your fitness slide b/c work is really taking off. You are making good money and happy, but you were not as fit as you once were. No more sinewy arms and legs. You look like a normal fit person.
Well, even though you consciously made the decision, it might still irk you a bit. It would me.
On to my original statement though, there are women who are very threatened by a fit guy.
I remember in college, I was hanging out with a girl in her dorm room and decided to put on her jeans when she was out in the bathroom. When she came back in the room, she got really mad at me and felt like I was making fun of her.