dpmrunner wrote:
While I don't go with the idea that men were "meant" to play sports and women to dance (I'm not into dancing myself), I agree with this advice. Taking her dancing doesn't tie in with weight at all. It's a party atmosphere and won't raise the emotional red flags that going to the gym might.
Other thoughts: check out walking tours of various attractions in your area that are in line with her interests--maybe a tour of some historic houses or gardens, etc. (depending on her interests).
Again, weight loss and diet won't be at the center of the conversation. It seems to me she's not ready to hear someone tell her to do something about her weight, but something indirect like these activities would feel less threatening.
Ultimately, the decision is hers, and no doubt she's aware of the problem as others mentioned. Thing to do is find ways to make it not feel like "exercise." I must admit, even though I run and do speed workouts etc., for some reason I don't think of it as exercise--I think of it as play. George Sheehan once said, "once you find your play, all else will be given to you."
Good luck to both of you!
well, y'all should isten to me wrote:i only read one page of this thread. i think i saw a couple of good points.
but, here's what it boils down to.
she doesn't exercise. she clearly doesn't like to exercise, otherwise she would be.
you need to find activities that are FUN and disguised as exercise.
like dancing!
most girls like to dance.
take her dancing! every night! if you are not romantically interested in this girl, form a dance club or something. that way, you don't have to pay a lot of money for stupid dance lessons or going to idiot clubs.
just start a dance club at someone's house, invite some people, put on the tunes, and DANCE DANCE DANCE LIKE IT'S THE LAST LAST NIGHT OF YOUR LIFE
she probably hates running. i doubt she likes sports. i doubt she wants to go the gym.
but dancing? what girl doesn't like dancing?
but most people don't dance, because it's just not a part of the daily routine.
make it a part of the routine!
and don't be like "let's dance in order to lose some weight."
be like "i want to dance all the time but i don't get the chance. let's start a dance club!"
DANCE DANCE DANCE.
men were meant to play sports. women were meant to dance. that's the balance of nature.