I live at home with my mom, who doesn't want me to leave because she is single and lonely, i have 100% freedom to come and go as i please, i work 1 mile away from the house, im fresh out of college and im now saving up... why rush out?
I live at home with my mom, who doesn't want me to leave because she is single and lonely, i have 100% freedom to come and go as i please, i work 1 mile away from the house, im fresh out of college and im now saving up... why rush out?
2 months.
I was a 2-month old baby living in Vietnam. Then the American soldiers came and burned down our village. I lost my whole family. But later I was adopted by a hippie couple from Sonoma, California which is where I spent most of my childhood.
I think the reason for living with your parents is more important than the age. After my sophomore year of college I stopped coming home summers because I had a research position. I still called my parents house home though. After I finished school I kept working at the lab for a bit until I found a good job. At this point I moved back home for about 6 weeks, just because it allowed me to take my time finding a place I liked. Why rush to find a place that you will hate for a year when you have the option not to?
I have a friend who had a similar situation. I want to say he was around 27 at the time. He had a job and lived several hours away from his parents. When he got his dream job back in his home town he moved back in with his parents for about a month until he got his own place.
Went away to school at 18, came back every summer. Got a job 2.5hrs away when I was 21; got a better job at home just before turning 26. Now my bank account goes up $2000/mo instead of $6000/yr. I love it at home, in my tiny room, living back with the family. I have no current plans of moving out in the future - been there, done that. I had no sense of pride or independence because I was living on my own and supporting myself. Honestly, what does it matter whether or not you can do it? To me, the most responsible thing you can do for yourself is saving as much cash as possible.
A housing arrangement I'd made fell through at the last moment so I went back to my parents house for just a few weeks when I was 24, until I got something else. They're nice parents, but it was not a pleasant time. Having to answer a lot of questions and account for your movements is a drag.
This is letsrun...maybe you should ask how late has your parents let you stay up/out so far? :)
After graduating and waiting for my 1st semester at my Master's university I moved in since they lived 1 town over at 23yr old for 1.5 mo!
...siblings?
On My Own wrote:
18 years old.... I held down a job, paid my own expenses, graduated with a 3.2 GPA.
I wouldn't add 3.2 High School GPA to your list of accomplishments.
Just sayin'
On My Own wrote:
18 years old.
Turned 18 and moved out even though I was only a month into my senior year of high school. While I might have jumped the gun a little bit, it nauseates me that so many pansy-azz people these days glom onto Mom & Dad for so long.
And don't tell me it can't be done. I held down a job, paid my own expenses, graduated with a 3.2 GPA and ran well enough in XC and track to earn a half-ride to a mid-major D-I college.
Awesome.
dougfunny wrote:
and im now saving up... why rush out?
Are you five?
i'm surprised how insecure everyone seems to be. i lived with my parents on and off for two years after i graduated college. i could have lived on my own the entire time if i wanted to, based off hard-earned employment. i did it because i loved them and i loved living with them, and loved being in my hometown where i had a fair amount of good friends.
people that are THAT desperate to prove themselves just by moving away from their family - AND be obnoxious about it at the same time - generally fall into one of two categories:
1) they seriously have something they are trying prove
2) they want to think they are better than anyone who dares have the self-confidence to say they love their parents.
i hope my kids want to live with me when they are in their 20's. and if they do, it will NOT be because they are lazy. just because some of you have had experience with one type of person, does not mean that the rest of the world falls into a category of your design.
On My Own wrote:
18 years old.
Turned 18 and moved out even though I was only a month into my senior year of high school. While I might have jumped the gun a little bit, it nauseates me that so many pansy-azz people these days glom onto Mom & Dad for so long.
And don't tell me it can't be done. I held down a job, paid my own expenses, graduated with a 3.2 GPA and ran well enough in XC and track to earn a half-ride to a mid-major D-I college.
that logic makes no sense. here is what you are basically saying:
because barack obama grew up as a minority, gained scholarships to elite schools, and became president of the free world, that means "it can be done."
you are taking your own example, just as arbitrary as taking any one individual person's life example, and claiming that as justification for saying "don't tell me it can't be done."
you're basically assuming everyone will have the luck, skills, and x-factor that you did to "succeed" (which you apparently define as leaving your parents - congrats buddy).
i am in no way advocating laziness. only empathy. don't pretend you can put yourself in someone else's shoes. everyone is in a different situation. sure there are "panzy-azz" people out there that leech off their parents. but not everyone is skilled, talented, or fortunate enough to land a job and get a scholarship, and have that be enough to go to college, JUST BECAUSE YOU DID IT. it's just not logical.
Again, I'm not sure what "On My Own" means by making it. How do you define "can't make it on your own"? Sounds like some of you who abandoned your parents "can't make it on your own" too well as it is.
Let's say it's about being financially responsible.fine - we could compare net worths? for me living in my parent's home is not only fun (and it is for most people if your parents are successful and live in a decent to large sized home)but it's free (or almost free). The house is big enough that I have plenty of privacy and it's as though it's my own home.
And With this housing bubble, why rush? Heck I could go buy a house right now but with no wife or kids, what's the point? Again, I love any time I spend in my hometown living in my parent's spacious home running on the awesome network of trails. Also, I enjoy interacting with the neighbors and being a hometown hero by dominating in the local road races. I also enjoy coming back to coach and train a bit with my high school team. Brings back great memories.In fact, I can't wait to go home from my apartment and stay there for a few weeks around Thanksgiving (for fun!)
I'm not like you. My portfolio keeps rising as I keep saving money, but by your definition I am scum and didn't make it in the world.
The way it is wrote:
The truth of the matter is that leaving your family is a disease. One which America has in spades.
It is vastly more healthy, natural, strong and mature to have multi-generational families than the absurd one or two adult households that we now have in America.
I agree with your point, up to a point. If you have a good family, then I think it can be wonderfully fulfilling to share lives. Nothing better.
On the other hand, there are instances where some individuals are better off separating themselves and moving out in life to pursue independent routes.
In general though, multi-generational families make more sense to me as an ideal.
21. I also had a 2 jobs at the same time and a girlfriend. Gas to work was my only expense and chinese takeout bc dinner wouldn't be made every night. I saved tons of money.
In the city where I live, adults living with their parents is a cultural tradition for people who are Ukranian or Polish. They often live at home until they are married. I can't understand someone who doesn't want to experience total independence, and I have no respect for this choice. I know men from those backgrounds who moved out before they were married, but still allow their mothers to come to their house (their mom has a key) to clean and do laundry, essentially behave as a maid would. Un-frickin-believable.
I saw an article saying that 'kids' staying at home into their thirties is very common in Italy. They have a word for it which translates to 'big baby.'
Now with Obamanomics it is on the rise in the US too. I believe the term 'boomerang' for this phenomenon is starting to catch on.
Just one more way that Obama is making us finally as sophisticated as the Europeans.
CanadaRnr wrote:
In the city where I live, adults living with their parents is a cultural tradition for people who are Ukranian or Polish. They often live at home until they are married. I can't understand someone who doesn't want to experience total independence, and I have no respect for this choice. I know men from those backgrounds who moved out before they were married, but still allow their mothers to come to their house (their mom has a key) to clean and do laundry, essentially behave as a maid would. Un-frickin-believable.
It's a tradition because living on your own whilee poor is stupid.
23 years, 6 months, 4 days. That final year was very difficult. On the other hand, it was over 26 years ago and I get along great with my folks now.
I would say it's unacceptable to still be there if you have a "real" job. Moving out just to move out while you're working part time could end up hold you back more than you'd think. And also.. once you go dont come back, dont yo-yo back and forth.