Need advice: broke up with my fiancee

best remedy:

Start dating another girl and ASAP.

if this is true, i'm very sorry. not many people have gone through something like that, so not many will know exactly how you feel. However, here is some advice:

think long term. you will almost certainly meet another great girl if you keep your eye out and get out of the house. regardless, a few years down the road, you know you won't be feeling like you do now. so there's no point wasting the coming months feeling sorry for yourself.

ps. not running is ridiculous. it should be the most important time of your life to run. just put on your shoes and go.

I have been there too.

You need to look at the big picture. This looks to be an ongoing issue for the rest of her life. If she does not want to get help, you are saving yourself years of pain, and the possibility of your future children suffering as you are now.

Make a clean break. If she finally decides to get help, then you can begin to reconsider. Take your time.

For now, focus on work, running, hobbies, etc. Keep your mind and body busy.

Turd

Very tough spot for you and the holidays don't help matters, nor the short days etc..

I'll agree with a little tough love in this situation...(note that I did date a girl who refused to get treatment for depression (family history) and no I did not cause said depression)

She is choosing her over the collective..it sucks, but you have to let her go or run the risk of this being a repetitive scenario for the rest of your life.

You need to fill your day up for a bit, be productive..do what you normally would do...the more free time you have the harder it will be

find a race, create a goal, figure out the steps you need to make it..create a priority...

kick ass at work, stay involved with your co-workers, get out with them when its a good fit...

when you have time on your hands, go back to the classic Geoffery 15min 5k thread or search "Dean Karnazes" you will instantly feel better..

if you are still stuck in the dumps in a couple more days, you will have to go see a doc and get some meds or counseling....no reason for your life to stay low because of this

Perhaps take it to I broke up with my fiancee dot com?

Look, you had been together a year and engaged for 6 months. 6 months is not enough time to gauge whether someone is marriage material. You should have waited at least until you had been together a year or two to propose. Move on.

First you have to get to the root of the problem. You only knew this girl for 6 months then got engaged. It sounds to me like you were already having your own issues and thought this girl would solve all your problems. So you jumped in head first like a fool. Now you realize this fantasy girl of yours turns out to be a complete headcase and you're worse off now than you were when you met her.

What to do? Good question. I don't have a f***ing clue because I don't know what your problems were in the first place. You may want to go back to before you met this nut and figure out why you were such a fool to fall for her so hard and so fast. Were you depressed? Lonely? Bad health? Broke? I wonder how old you are, how many previous relationships you've had. Good ones, bad ones. Did you come from a broken family, issues with one or both of your parents. Are you sexually disfunctional?

Advice: If you can't figure this shitout yourself and don't feel better in a few weeks then see a professional. If you don't want to do that you could take a more dramatic approach: Go on a drug and alcohol bender lasting weeks or months. Completely absorbed yourself is the most self-destructive behavior. When you bottom out and have had enough of kicking yourself in the balls then start digging yourself out and you may appreciate your life a little more and start thinking more clearly.

You can thank me after the recycling phase

I dated a chick for a year and had a similar thing happen. She basically went from great girl to wacko. I got hurt alot more because I saw the signs but stuck around. We were together for a year and I would've saved myself alot of anguish had I ended it at 4 months.

Its hard to see now, but this is the best way for it to end. It's going to hurt for a while, but like every breakup, death, etc it will get a little better and hurt a little less every day until one day you realize it doesn't hurt anymore.

Definitely get out with some friends and meet people. It does help to bang the first chick you see as well...but wait for a bit before getting into another relationship.

Get back to running too. It might be hard but it'll get your out of bed in the morning so you aren't sitting there feeling sorry for yourself.

Best of luck to you in the new year.

Get out and do stuff: take classes, new hobbies or whatever you've always wanted to do but haven't had time/will before. You will have a lot of free time all of a sudden, so fill it well with things you find interesting, or at least think you might find interesting.

You need to get together with this woman. You are made for each other. Plus your partners would be good for each other. Good luck.

You're 27, but just finished "winter break." Nice try.

Troll Alert wrote:

You're 27, but just finished "winter break." Nice try.

I'm a teacher, asshole.

For those of you with serious responses, thank you. Those of you who have been through this, how long did it take before you started feeling like your old self again? Did getting back into the dating scene help?

he could be a teacher, genius...or could work at a college or something... try thinking before you write stuff just for the purpose of trying to bash someone else

Good!

3/10

beat me to it

as for advice I would say that if she was willing to get help, than it would be worth fighting for...but you cant save her, you can't rescue her and if she's not willing to do that for herself, you need to part ways.

True dat. I dun herd dat Jamie Lynn Spears puts out. By da way, have u ever dun a pregnant chick? Boy, day iz as tight as da night is black. Dat ain't no flack, jack.

iloverunning824 wrote:

best remedy:

Start dating another girl and ASAP.

True dat. I dun herd dat Jamie Lynn Spears puts out. By da way, have u ever dun a pregnant chick? Boy, day iz as tight as da night is black. Dat ain't no flack, jack.

iloverunning824 wrote:

best remedy:

Start dating another girl and ASAP.

True dat. I dun herd dat Jamie Lynn Spears puts out. By da way, have u ever dun a pregnant chick? Boy, day iz as tight as da night is black. Dat ain't no flack, jack.