Flagpole,
It's great that you've created a financial system that makes you happy. I'm two years older than you and last summer finally got cable TV and high speed internet. I bought one new car two years after I graduated with a degree in engineering. I now buy a car every ~7 years with the income earned in an account specifically set aside for that specific purpose. I easily save more than 25% of my net income each year - After 10 years as an engineer, I changed careers and now follow a life-long goal of teaching and coaching at the high school level, so it's not like I am a high-wage earner by your definition either. I agree there are also a lot of financial morons out there that create frustration and emotional hardships for their families.
HOWEVER, I find your views incredibly myopic.
My guess is that you have had a very limited exposure as an adult to those who live in poverty. They all don't fit the same mold. You seem to think that they can simply lift themselves by their own bootstraps out of poverty.
There are so many reasons for being poor that have nothing to do with a poor work ethic or unwise spending habits. Your advice mocks the real struggles these people have.
I have worked with kids who have homes with no phone, who have no car, who have a parent that is absent 18 hours/day because they work 2 jobs. Nearly every nice thing they have (a good sweater, a watch, etc.) has been given to them by relatives. When they get a "C" on a report card in elementary school, mom would take time off from her job (losing the related income) to walk the child back to school to discuss the problem with their teachers. There was no money to go to the doctor. I had one student who couldn't even see the blackboard because their vision was so bad - he still got A's and B's in all of his courses. Buying glasses was a financial impossibility for his family.
Arrogance is part of your persona at letsrun. It makes life interesting here. Except in situations where you're exaggerating a point, I've not typically associated you with ignorance.
Your broad brush approach in this discussion certainly presents an ignorant image.
- There are many who don't have disposable income. They are already making decisions about what essentials (medicine, medical care, food, utilities, etc.) they will have to do without.
- There are others who couldn't care less about retiring early. They enjoy what they are doing and happen to make an income doing it. (I still find myself in this category.) I'm guessing people like Joe Paterno do as well. Many people don't work simply because they have to. I could probably retire tomorrow financially, but have no interest in doing so.
- If the woman you love is affected by the way you live, there isn't something wrong with her or you. Spending more and saving less to bring joy to her life isn't wrong. The same can be said for an individual. Spending more and saving less isn't a moral issue. What you expect others to do for you if you get into a financial bind might have a moral context, but your financial state by itself doesn't.
I don't remember which previous poster said it, but I agree that you make too much out of money. It's a tool. What should be accomplished with that tool is each person's choice. The poor can be joyous. The financially secure can be miserable.
If you live in debt but bring great joy to those around you, how is that worse than being financially secure and callous to those around you?