Do I loan her money or not

if you just went out on a date with someone and you really liked them, would you ask them to loan you money? I wouldn\\\'t want that to be my first impression if I liked someone enough to keep seeing them

Ask her if she can loan you some sex...

Haha....no, Flagpole didn't start the thread.

Anyway, back to my situation....thanks to everyone that responded. NO WAY will I loan the crazy beeotch any money.

I am bummed and now insulted that after a bunch of e-mails and phone calls and finally meeting she is that much of a loser to ask me for money. What a pyscho and a waste of my time although we had a fun time hanging out and talking the one and only time we met.

Dating in today's world totally sucks and there are soooo many evil messed up people.

So far I have not responded to her request and thought it best to ignore her BUT in classic LR style do you guys have any other suggestions how to respond?

yes, i find that very weird that she would ask for a loan after one date... unless there was some pretty extreme circumstance... like my sister was just kidnapped, they are asking for a ransom, it is all over CNNbut seriously, i wouldn't see her again but i don't know that i would classify her behavior as 'evil messed up'maybe i am just naive but while i think many people are boring/uninformed/classless/stupid there is actually a very small portion of the population who are actually 'evil'

bummed out wrote:

Haha....no, Flagpole didn't start the thread.

Anyway, back to my situation....thanks to everyone that responded. NO WAY will I loan the crazy beeotch any money.

I am bummed and now insulted that after a bunch of e-mails and phone calls and finally meeting she is that much of a loser to ask me for money. What a pyscho and a waste of my time although we had a fun time hanging out and talking the one and only time we met.

Dating in today's world totally sucks and there are soooo many evil messed up people.

So far I have not responded to her request and thought it best to ignore her BUT in classic LR style do you guys have any other suggestions how to respond?

i think many people are boring/uninformed/classless/stupid there is actually a very small portion of the population who are actually 'evil'

[quote]bummed out wrote:

Well, that's a good point. She is a single Mom, doesn't work. She doesn't work out of being lazy in my opinion. In her e-mail she sounded more desperate, plus she is not very smart....her e-mails are full of spelling errors and she didn't go to college etc.

I was just floored when she asked me for a loan after just one date.

Other then ignore her, does anyone else have any ideas to respond back?

I'd loan her the money but would draw the line if she asks you to cut her grass...

of course loan her the money as long as she signs a contract to pay you back in bl@wjobs at $20 a "shot"

anEconomist wrote:

maybe i am just naive but while i think many people are boring/uninformed/classless/stupid there is actually a very small portion of the population who are actually 'evil'

There are few categories of people who are evil. Let me list them for you:

1) Murderers and other violent criminals

2) Burglars

3) Most dictators

4) Cat lovers

Fortunately the first three doesn't equal a huge percentage of our world's poulation, but in that fourth category, there are many. And, make no mistake, cat lovers are evil...to the CORE.

bummed out wrote:

We watched TV, talked and did a little cuddling and made plans for a 2nd date Sat. night.

So next time you are watching TV together, put on "The People's Court". Almost every case is about boy lends to girl (or vice versa) and never pays it back. Then you can say, "That's why I never loan money to friends."

bummed out wrote:

Hey Flagpole...you seem wise and usually give some good advice. COuld you please comment on my situation. Thanks.

I NEVER loan money to ANYONE. I have GIVEN money to people when I have been able to afford it and they really need it, but I would NEVER LOAN money to anyone.

In your case, I would NOT give her a dime. You barely even know her. Who says she's not going out with a different guy each week and "borrowing" money from them? What if she doesn't pay you back? You going to go through the hassle of trying legally to get it back?

Go find another woman.

I think this thread's dying out, which is fine, butI judt thought I'd throw out one piece of advice that hasn't been heard yet and contrdicts another poster's advice.

Slightly tangential, but important to understand.

If someone asks you for a personal loan and you put the deal in writing, that does NOT mean you are going to get your money back. All it means is that you can take them to court and maybe get a judgment against them. A judgment does NOT mean you get your money back. It means you can use some fairly cumbersome legal procedures to TRY to take your money back. If it's a small amount of money, like less than a few K, there's a good chance that it is not even worth bothering because you'll put a lot of time into it and the person will have no money to take anyway (which is why they were taking out a small personal loan in the first place).

bummed out wrote:

Well, that's a good point. She is a single Mom, doesn't work. She doesn't work out of being lazy in my opinion. In her e-mail she sounded more desperate, plus she is not very smart....her e-mails are full of spelling errors and she didn't go to college etc.

Single mom, lazy, stupid, uneducated, money problems -- but really, really hot . . . .

Hey, that's MY ex-girlfriend you're writing about!

Flagpole Willy wrote:

There are few categories of people who are evil:

1) Murderers and other violent criminals

2) Burglars

3) Most dictators

4) Cat lovers

And, make no mistake, cat lovers are evil...to the CORE.

Aaahhhhaahaha.

FW, that's what I think about people who love tiny dogs.

As for cats, I'm in awe of them. They are such snobs--irresistible!

She's a mom, smoking hot, and wants your money?

she's basically asking you to be the daddy. You have to make your own decision, but honestly she's just using you, and she's desperate, which is sad. The nice thing to do would be to bone her, and give her something, not a lot, but something.

for the kid at least.

but yeah, honestly I wouldn't touch that, even if she is hot, the kid means she can't keep a husband and is fairly loose- even if she's hot.

Dude, find a chick that hasn't been knocked up. and isn't asking for money, your call.

like looks matter. In 5 years she'll be ugly and you'll be paying for it.

Tell her no for 2 reasons:

1. You're broke

2. all your friends on letsrun told you not to.

Why are you dating below yourself?

She doesn't seem like good relationship material given the details you just divulged: her lack of employment while rearing a child alone, showing poor judgment and lack of responsibility since she obviously chooses not to provide for herself, instead relying on others to care for her and the child; laziness, no motivation and work ethic; and lack of education, most likely due to low mental ability, and more importantly, intellectual curiosity, how boring of a woman!

The only thing she has going for her is her body. Just remember that the goods are perishable. I wouldn't recommend entering a committed relationship with her, but sexual relations seem OK. If you pursue the latter, just think of the loan as payment for sex. Make no binding commitments, however.

Flagpole Willy wrote:

I NEVER loan money to ANYONE. I have GIVEN money to people when I have been able to afford it and they really need it, but I would NEVER LOAN money to anyone.

Sure you do. The entire banking system is based on lenders (investors) loaning money to borrowers.

Have you tried asking her what the money is for? I probably wouldn't loan the money anyway (not after a first date), but I'm curious as to why she even needs it...

malmo wrote:

Flagpole Willy wrote:

I NEVER loan money to ANYONE. I have GIVEN money to people when I have been able to afford it and they really need it, but I would NEVER LOAN money to anyone.

Sure you do. The entire banking system is based on lenders (investors) loaning money to borrowers.

Malmo, not sure why you brought that up. I didn't mean that of course. I would not lend an individual person DIRECTLY any money ever -- even my own brother. I might GIVE him some money if he needed it (and he'd better never ask since he's a drug patent attorney and makes 4 times what I do), but I'd never LOAN him money.