OK, so I know I'm late jumping on this bandwagon, but it took me forever to read this whole thing. I've been married for about 2 years now, and our marriage is great. However, I feel like I want it a lot more than my husband does. It's frustrating. I know some of it is related to stress at work, etc. and I know he finds me attractive. However, he usually just asks for a BJ. Although it is not my favorite, I realize that it is just something I have to do for him and it makes him happy.
But, I feel like it is not reciprocated. I want more actual sex and I'm not getting as much as I want. I totally love my husband and I don't want to make him feel bad or hurt his ego. Any suggestions of how I can put this to him?
Also, he's really stopped working out, which is one of the first things we had in common before we were married. We used to run together all the time, but not anymore. He'll do weights, but that's about it. I can't even get him to go play golf! He's a great husband otherwise, but I like being active with my partner. I don't want to push him too hard or make him think that he needs to work out because he looks bad. He doesn't. I just enjoy running with him and having that connection.
I know most of you will say that I'm the exception to the rule of wives. But, there's truth to all of these posts. Women do need a lot of reinforcement and emotional "coddling" in order to want to have sex. It may seem ridiculous most of the time, but doing special things for your wife will really help your sex life. But, there's no excuse for these women who don't have sex. Honestly. I understand a drop in frequency, but sex is just as important in a relationship as anything else. Sure, a woman might not feel like it sometimes, but it's not always about you. I'm not saying you should force or beg women to have sex, but I would sit down and really talk to them about it. It's not fair to you, and also, is a recipe for a lack of intimacy and closesness that will lead to a lot of trouble down the road.