Great response.
Great response.
This is the reason why I love letsrun. You can actually get real got life advice here.
I would do the only "reasonable" thing and not follow the advice/orders from your Taliban father. Go for it, go for her. If it turns out to be wrong and whatever you might lose you are an experience richer. Follow your heart, damn it, do not calculate.
But you said 1 of them was his kid?
You're only 25 and waaaaay too young, kid. These are NOT your kids and you will never be the priority in the relationship- her kids will ALWAYS come first. The baby daddy will always be around whether There is also a financial component, you will end up paying for child support when you inevitably divorce. You end up paying alimony, child support and lose the house all before age 30. Don't be an idiot. Find a single woman.
If you are happy with her and enjoy acting as a parent for the kids, all good. The whole other man’s kids things is medieval thinking. You are happy wit it, good, not happy, don’t do it. Those kids deserve people around who care for them, too. That said, I would not have done well as a parent in my 20s
She must make good choices in life if she's already a single mother of 2 at 25.
I have been in this situation and since I started to earn well in my late 20s when my relationship happened, I was always worried that I was there for the finances. I felt she is a good person (really didn't work me over for bucks, it turns out) but I was relieved when it didn't work out and we could break up on friendly terms. I never ate so many fruit roll-ups and frozen pre-made Smucker peanut butter sandwiches in my life. And I was eating this way while trying not to get too close to the kids for their sake. There was just no time and we ate what was around.
Her older sister actually helped us break up. She said, "you two are just in two different places."
But I see the OPs point, especially if she has character. It's hard to leave a good person.