Ok I read the posts. You did right to dump her. She wants you as fall back, until something better (in her mind) comes along.
She is bad news.
If you want to use her just for sex and dates that might be ok, as long you know there is nothing there and she will drop you coldly when other options come around.
Sounds w the right decision. Congrats on moving on to better things. In the future, consider being straightforward:
"Hey Betty, please update your relationship status and put a picture of us on Facebook. Irs insulting."
Regardless of how insignificant it is, I would have no qualms about dumping someone who wouldn't agree to that small gesture.
Actually my guess is that she already has been cheating on you but that she still wanted to string you along.
She is a liar.
Rick Sanchez wrote:
It's obvious what's going on with her. She is monkey branching you. It's a very common thing women do in regards to relationships. She is holding on to you, aka the existing branch, until she has another relationship to go to, aka the next branch. You understand that if a monkey doesn't have a hold of a branch, they fall out of the tree.
This. You're being used for a relationship. Dont beat yourself up about it, happens to many people. A lot of people sadly would take the next best thing available. This is a selfish way to use people for a relationship, not really fully caring about them or being committed to them. They'll probably act like they are fully committed, but as we know people are good actors.
Seems like she got what she wanted. Likely already into someone else and let you do the breakup. This way you can live with doubt and regret about whether you did the right thing. She has less drama and can move on in life.
Hopefully you have a pipeline, so can move on to one of them. If not, need to plan ahead better. Always have someone on deck, until you find the one.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dwiczhta4e0the social network wrote:
ok so I'm only responding because this happened in a movie, but in Aaron Sorkin's The Social Network, about the founding of facebook, one of the facebook founders gets dumped because his girlfriend finds out that he kept his status as single, but it just turns out that he didn't know how to change it
(and then she tries to burn his house down but there are other problems there)
Point being, just ask her about it, it's probably either an oversight or just something that she didn't think would bother you.
Hi, just been reading thru these and I'm in a similar situation, I've been with my partner just coming up to a year now,, I absolutely dote over her,, but found out she has lied to me about minor things but has actually swore down on her sons life then found out she were lieing, and same applies about the relationship situation on fb,, she still listed as been single which in my eyes is advertising tht shes available which answers all the messages she gets which she says is work related,, before I met my partner I was in a 15 year old relationship with two kids and she destroyed me by been a slink, I've explained all this to my new partner which now I think was foolish coz she knows how much it damaged me and changed me as a person,,, what do I do coz i really like this lass but I'm not prepared to get mugged off anymore,,,