My girlfriend of a year still says she's single on Facebook

You need to move on. You are not ready for a relationship. This single status on Facebook is meaningless in the scheme of things. Hope that helps.

Binbiuo wrote:

You need to move on. You are not ready for a relationship. This single status on Facebook is meaningless in the scheme of things. Hope that helps.

Well, normally I'd agree with you and as I mentioned at first I didn't care. But the fact that she shares plenty of other personal stuff on FB including previous boyfriends is giving me pause. She knows I don't do facebook...and I didn't even look until today.

As for being ready for a relationship....hmm....I've been in several long term pretty healthy relationships with mutual respect.

OK then she is not ready to be in a relationship. She’s the problem, not you.

either you trust her or you don't and judging by your posts here you don't.

that doubt and suspicion and mistrust will eat you alive regardless of whether or not it's well founded.

it's time to move on for your own good.

1. Who cares.

2. Do people still use Facebook?

3. If you need to judge how she feels about you based on what she says about you on Facebook then take a look in the mirror. Have you posted pictures of her and changed your relationship status? No, you don't even care enough about the relationship to sign up for Facebook, yet you say it matters.

4. People use social media in all kinds of different ways and are comfortable sharing different things. If it matters to you then talk to her about it. Don't stalk her accounts and jump to conclusions.

It's obvious what's going on with her. She is monkey branching you. It's a very common thing women do in regards to relationships. She is holding on to you, aka the existing branch, until she has another relationship to go to, aka the next branch. You understand that if a monkey doesn't have a hold of a branch, they fall out of the tree.

People still use facebook? I think that's the bigger issue here.

I would be less concerned about what her Facebook looks like and more concerned about what her Instagram DMs look like. That’s where it’s really going down if she’s not committed.

Seems to me that she's not fully committing to the relationship and keeping her options open. Is it because she's not sure how she feels about the relationship or because she's waiting for something better to come along? The worst case scenario is she's cheating or is open to cheating (not saying that's what's happening). Either way, it's definitely a significant red flag. It'd be one thing if you just started dating or if she didn't really use her FB account on the regular. But you've been together a year and she posts regularly to it? As Joe Biden would say, "Come on, man!"

I'd have a calm and serious discussion with her and explain how what she's doing makes you feel. If she cares about you and the relationship, she'll fix the problem immediately. If she doesn't, then you have your answer and you know it's time to dump her. DON'T give her an ultimatum, let her do the right thing on her own. If you give her an ultimatum and she complies, that still puts the relationship in a bad place moving forward.

If you tell her how you feel and she doesn't change anything, be mature enough to end things completely. From what you've said, you already know that's the right thing to do.

An example of social media eroding the fabric of real human relationships.

Ignore that sh*t

I recently went to a meeting where we had to introduce ourselfs and was shocked how many people when asked what their hobby was, they said: spending time on Facebook. SMH

Good post. She doesn't sound enthused about sharing your relationship for some reason, although if she talked about moving in together, then that implies she's somewhat serious. Maybe you are misinterpreting, but if you're feeling insecure about this then you should have a discussion with her and see her response.

She likes being in a relationship but doesn't want to show you off (probably because you're a skinny runner). I'd stop making the drives and let her put in the work to keep the relationship going, while realizing the relationship is probably ending soon and looking for other options.

All red flags.

Save yourself energy and time and get rid of her.

Focus on your work and running, throw in some meditation and mindfulness so you can realize you don’t need much in the world to be happy. The right girl will come along naturally when you are moving in the right direction.

Many of us have been where you are and I’m sure all of us agree that you should end it now instead of dragging it out for a long time. You don’t need to prove yourself to anyone. Good luck, but please save the heartache and end it now.

i haven't updated my fb relationship status and it's been 2 years, it's really not important. It feels like you're overthinking things

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i haven't updated my fb relationship status and it's been 2 years, it's really not important. It feels like you're overthinking things

This. I honestly don't remember whether I listed my relationship status as "single" or just left it with the generic "no relationship info to show" when I created my FB account. If it says "single," it has remained that way through multiple relationships because I've never even thought about my FB profile enough to consider reviewing and editing it. I'm also pretty sure that my AIM name is still listed in my contact info on FB and that my listed favorite music is a smattering of whatever I was listening to in college.

All of that and she lives an hour away? She's banging someone else.

be single nerd wrote:

All red flags.

Save yourself energy and time and get rid of her.

Focus on your work and running, throw in some meditation and mindfulness so you can realize you don’t need much in the world to be happy. The right girl will come along naturally when you are moving in the right direction.

Many of us have been where you are and I’m sure all of us agree that you should end it now instead of dragging it out for a long time. You don’t need to prove yourself to anyone. Good luck, but please save the heartache and end it now.

^^^

Single means not married.

Casually dating doesn’t mean anything relationship wise. Unless you’ve asked her to marry you then you aren’t important in her life. She’s playing the field as is her right.