I copied the list from a website lol. It's from a wildly popular methodology called Nonviolent Communication. It helps me hear the needs behind the words people express. In short, it helps me cut past the horribly ineffective ways people communicate their needs.
In this case, it seems that you're bewildered by my approach, and cannot imagine someone sincerely asking the questions I'm asking. You have failed to articulate anything helpful, and have chosen to push a judgment of me that you expect to be reinforced by your peers. You can't tell me what it is that is upsetting you, but you know it's different.